Chapter 1343 Parents' Regret and Pursuit

In terms of Haizhou customs, it is a very formal and solemn thing to recognize one's relatives.

Only between friends who have a good relationship, or when they meet a younger generation they like very much, will they recognize a kinship, and after this kinship is recognized, it will basically be maintained for a lifetime.

After the post-80s and post-90s grew up, they dealt with this kind of god-parent relationship a lot more casually. Sometimes, before the child was born, a bunch of godfathers and godmothers were already found for him. However, in the sea of ​​the last century, In the state, it is rare for a child to have several godfathers and godmothers, or an adult to have several godsons or daughters. Generally speaking, a child has only one godfather and godmother, and an elder has at most only one godfather and godmother. A godson or goddaughter, the older generation attaches great importance to this layer of relationship, to a certain extent, it is much more important than the godfather of the West.

Haizhou people attach great importance to commitment, not only the marriage is very formal and important, even if it is a brother between friends, it is not a casual sworn sworn. If grandma dies, according to the rules, all brothers should wear filial piety, but Zhongxiao, unlike ten years later, thirteen- or four-year-old children have dozens or hundreds of brothers, but they worship casually and get along very casually. , If you still keep in touch after ten years, it would be good to have one or two.

When Li Mu and Li Ziwei went home together, they called their mother. Mom and Dad didn't expect Li Mu to come home early, so they hurriedly started to have dinner. After answering Li Mu's call, Li Mu was suddenly a little nervous and asked Li Mu: "You What if Ziwei doesn't like it?"

Dad Li said, "Probably not."

Li Ma said, "I don't know either, but I'm a little clueless in my heart. We've never recognized a daughter-in-law before, and we don't know what the rules are in Ziwei's hometown."

Dad Li said with a smile: "As long as the girl agrees, we will follow the rules of the other side. Besides, the girl may not dare to agree directly. Eighty percent of it is to discuss it with the parents."

Li Ma nodded and said, "Ziwei's parents are still very good people. At first glance, the couple are standard intellectuals. They seem to be teachers, right?"

"Ziwei's mother is a teacher and has already retired, and her father is an official of their local education bureau, but in the early years, it was a people's teacher who came to work in the Education Commission. I heard Ziwei's father talk about it the last time I met, and he seems to be retiring. already."

During the Chinese New Year, Li Ziwei, as Li Mu's personal assistant, followed Li Mu all the time. In order to reunite her with her family, Li Mu specially invited her parents to Haizhou for the Chinese New Year. I have a good impression of the two of them, and an even better impression of Li Ziwei.

Li Ziwei was born into an intellectual family, and her parents were the last batch of college students who were admitted to university by true talents and practical learning in the early years before the Cultural Revolution. After graduation, both of them devoted themselves to the education industry with enthusiasm, and they have been busy in the field of education for half their lives. It's character, temperament, knowledge and conversation are all very good.

Li Ma smiled and said, "If Ziwei's parents also agree, our family of six will find time to have a meal together, and we will also have daughters in the future."

"It just so happens that they are all surnamed Li, just like their own daughters..."

Li Ma nodded: "Yes, they are all from your old Li family."

Dad Li nodded and smiled, and said, "Before you didn't have a son, you dreamed of having a daughter. If you really were a daughter, I'm afraid it would be difficult for our son to achieve today!"

Li Ma shook her head and said, "If Xiaomu is really a girl, I can't bear her to work so hard. After graduating from college, she will go home and take the civil service exam, have a stable job, and don't marry far away, so that she can accompany us more. "

After speaking, Li Ma said again: "Look now, your son hasn't graduated from college yet, and he runs around the world all day long. After a few more years, I'm afraid I won't see him a few times a year. No matter how great he is, our family will Isn't it still difficult for the three of them to reunite? All achievements are made for outsiders to see, and the days when they are together are the happiest as a family."

"You're right." Dad Li nodded.

He exclaimed, "In the future, whatever you say, you have to persuade your son to have more children!"

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Li Mu didn't tell Li Ziwei about her mother's wish to recognize her as her goddaughter, but he thought about it all the way in his heart.

In a previous life, Li Mu often heard his mother's sighs, and envied others who had daughters, especially those who kept their daughters by their side. Even if they were married, they could see each other every day. After having children, parents could still help take care of their children every day. Life is also fulfilling.

Unlike her, her son is away all year round, and can go back three or two times a year, and each time it only takes a few days, he comes and leaves in a hurry. Before being a mother is rare enough, his son leaves again.

Life in the previous life was not in such an order. Li Ma really worked hard for most of her life, but when she got old, her son could not be by her side. It was really sad for her.

Li Mu always felt that he owed his parents a lot, but he was suffering from life and reality, and he failed to fulfill his obligations as a good son. At that time, whenever Li Mu heard that his mother had a fever and a cold, he felt very sorry, and he was not able to accompany him normally. There was a headache and he couldn't go home to take care of him. At that time, Li Mu often fantasized about how nice it would be if he had an older sister or a younger sister who could watch over his parents at home.

It is precisely because he always knew this layer of regret in his mother's heart that Li Mu did not object at all to her wanting to recognize Li Ziwei as her daughter. On the contrary, deep down in his heart, he was extremely supportive of this matter. His only hope was himself. Parents who treat Li Ziwei with sincerity can also get Li Ziwei's sincere feedback. In that case, it can be regarded as making up for a regret in her mother's heart.

The two returned to Ziyun Villa. Li's father and Li's mother were still busy in the kitchen. As soon as Li Ziwei got home, she hurried to the kitchen to help, and took the initiative to grab Li's father's job. He said, "I'll just work with auntie about the kitchen. Go and chat with Mr. Li, uncle."

Li Ma smiled and said, "Your uncle probably wanted to go out and smoke a long time ago. He is addicted to smoking."

Li Ziwei said: "Although it is very difficult to quit smoking, my uncle should try to smoke as little as possible. I will go back to my friend to bring you some nicotine chewing gum. When you want to smoke, chew two gums, it can reduce the intake of e-liquid. ."

Dad Li asked curiously, "Is there such a thing?"

Li Ziwei nodded and said, "It has been sold in the U.S. market for a long time. It has passed FDA certification and is very safe. Its principle is actually the same as people's dependence on tobacco. You are addicted to smoking, but you are only addicted to nicotine. , but not for cigarette tar. If you are addicted to smoking, your body needs to take in nicotine. Naturally extracted nicotine is added to nicotine chewing gum, but there is no cigarette tar, so it is much healthier. After all, the most harmful thing in tobacco is that in cigarette tar. Various elements and heavy metals.”

After speaking, Li Ziwei said again: "And that thing can reduce your dependence on cigarettes. While using it, you can reduce the amount of smoking, and you may be able to quit smoking completely after a period of time."

When Li Ma heard it, she hurriedly said: "It sounds very reliable! Old Li, go back and ask Ziwei to buy you some for you to try."

Dad Li did not refuse, and smiled: "If I can quit smoking without pain, I will definitely have no opinion. In fact, I want to quit too, but after so many years, I can't quit all of a sudden."

Li Ma nodded and said with a smile: "Okay, I know your virtues, and if you want to smoke, just go to the yard and smoke one."

Dad Li smiled and said, "Okay, then you guys are busy, I'll be lazy."

When Dad Li came out of the kitchen, Li Mu was checking emails on the laptop in the living room. Dad Li took out a cigarette from his pocket and said to Li Mu, "Son, go out and smoke a cigarette."

Because I knew that Li Mu smoked occasionally, Dad Li would sometimes throw a cigarette for Li Mu and the two of them would puff together, but Li Mu had almost no addiction to smoking, so he smoked much less than him.

Li Mu put down the computer and went to the yard with his father. The weather in Yanjing in April had begun to get warmer. The father and the two sat down on the wooden bench by the courtyard of the villa. Li Mu took out two cigarettes and handed them to Li Muyi. Li Mu took the lighter from his father's hand, and helped his father light the cigarette first, and then lit the one he was holding.

After two puffs of cigarettes, Dad Li pointed to a small vegetable field that had been opened in the yard, and said proudly, "Look, your father hasn't farmed for 30 years.

Li Mu helplessly looked at the few ridges in the yard and said with a smile, "At your age, isn't it particularly rewarding to grow vegetables?"

Dad Li smiled: "It's not just a sense of accomplishment, but also nostalgia and freedom."

After speaking, Dad Li sighed again: "I was not in such a mood to farm when I was a child. When I was a child, I liked to be lazy. Your grandmother used a stick to force me to work in the fields. At that time, apart from going to school, I was doing farm work, so I never felt that farming was a problem. This is a kind of enjoyment. Every day I think about how to get rid of the yellow land, so I hurried to pick up your grandfather's class to go to the mine after graduation from high school, but this will be hard on your uncle, I will do your grandpa's job. , he can't read and can't read, so he can only farm in his hometown, sometimes thinking about it, I always feel sorry for him."

Li Mu nodded and said, "But you have been trying to help my uncle for so many years. Now he is living a good life, and it will be better in the future."

Dad Li smiled slightly: "Yeah, I'm doing much better now."

Speaking of this, Dad Li said again: "Your uncle just got rid of the yellow land, I have been away from the yellow land for 30 years, and now you let your uncle farm the land, he is afraid that 10,000 people will not be happy, but as for me, I really want to Get one-third of an acre of land to plant, and when those peppers, eggplants, and tomatoes grow out, they will be green and green, and you will be happy to see them. After another ten or eight years, I will go to your mother to find a place that is like spring in all seasons. In the place where you live, get a house and rent some land. In addition to growing vegetables, you can also grow melons and fruits. See your future sons and daughters, what they like to eat, and my mother and I will grow..."

Li Mu suddenly had a thought and said, "Dad, why don't I buy a piece of land for you in the northern suburbs of Yanjing, find a good place near the mountains and rivers, buy a piece of land to build a villa, and then open a few acres of land out there. , get an orchard, a greenhouse, and a conservatory, so that you can take over your grandparents in the future!"