Chapter 332 Defeating Hypocrisy with Truth

"How can it be that simple?" Xiaotian sobbed while wiping away tears.

"It's really hard." Ning Youguang said, "As human beings, we have been fighting against desires all our lives. We are either taming our desires or being tamed by them. You have tamed it, but once you realize that you want to be the one who tames your desires, the one who takes back the sovereignty of your own life and lives freely, you have to work hard.”

Xiaotian said, "I work so hard to be free in the future."

Ning Youguang smiled, "Your way to achieve 'freedom' is pushed by capitalism. In the end, apart from satisfying the consumerism they boast about, you won't get the result you want at all."

Xiaotian is like a marionette being led by the ropes of consumerism, but he still feels free.

"I know consumerism." Xiaotian said a little anxiously.

She knows better than anyone the dangers of overconsumption.

Those countless restless nights because they had no money to repay credit cards and Huabei, those countless days and nights when they were afraid of being chased by usury like a lost dog, and needed to hide...

Would she not be aware of the uneasiness and fear, pain and suffering brought about by excessive consumption?

But, there was no way, she just couldn't control herself.

Ning Youguang saw that Xiaotian wanted to escape again.

One of her treatment principles is that if the client is not ready to heal and change himself, she will not force him to face his own problems, and forcefully give the method to the other party.

Because she knows that she can never wake up a person who pretends to be asleep, nor can she help anyone who is unwilling to face her own problems.

She generally chooses to stop at them.

She waited for the opportunity to see when they stumbled and hurt because of the same problem in real life. The pain was so unbearable that they came to the door again and strongly asked for her help, so she would give them the solution.

A fast horse does not need a whip, and a drum does not need a heavy hammer.

She smiled, "You should be very happy to be liked by many people."

"There are already many people who like me." Xiaotian said reflexively.

After finishing speaking, she couldn't help lowering her head again.

Recently, she has been skinned because of her real identity, and she has suffered a lot of backlash. Those who originally liked her don't like her anymore.

"I have a strategy that can help you 'whitewash', do you want to hear it?"

Xiaotian raised his head happily, "Yes! What is it?!"

"Defeat hypocrisy with truth." Ning Youguang said with a smile, "It is a failure to be seen through by others, but it is a victory to tear off the disguise yourself."

"How should this be done?"

"Accept the fact that you will be liked and hated by others, and allow yourself to be a beautiful fashion blogger, or an independent woman who doesn't rely on her face for food."

"Then what's the matter? Don't all Internet celebrities show off like this?"

"But these things don't make others really like you. On the contrary, you are envied by others and lead to hatred, because when you say that you have a superior life, others hear you say that he is low. Not only do you feel tired, but you also make others feel tired. Not nice, because they need presence too."

Xiaotian frowned and said, "I can try to use the method you suggested to wash my whites, but after that I still want to show off myself, and I can't help but want to buy famous brands, what should I do?"

"If you still can't help but want to show off in the future, then tell yourself from time to time 'I am important, I am worthy of being loved, and I deserve the best of everything!'" Ning Youguang said, "I can't help but want to buy Famous brands, you can try to pay off the Huabei and credit cards first, and then turn them off. After that, you can not overdraw Huabei and credit cards before considering buying expensive but unaffordable things, but save money first, and save enough buy again."

Ning Youguang said, "At that time, you will find many things that you felt urgently wanted at the time, and when you have saved enough money, you will not want to buy them."

...

After Miss Wang came back and took Xiaotian away.

Ning Youguang took out his phone and posted a Weibo——

[An ordinary person: Perseverance is the same as desire, they are all making a prison for themselves. ]

After posting Weibo, she quickly answered a question in the comment area——

[An ordinary person: People who are better than you basically have no time to scold you. Good luck! x-on:I don’t like eating apples: Teacher, how can I not care about other people’s scolding? ]

...

Send friends and cousin back.

The first thing Jiang Wei did when he got home was to call Ning Youguang, and the first thing he said was to apologize:

"Sorry, I didn't expect her cousin to have such an attitude."

"It's okay." Ning Youguang smiled, "She's still a little bit unprepared, I chatted with her today, and we'll see how she changes later."

"On the way back, my friend kept asking how her cousin was doing, but she didn't say anything," Jiang Wei said again.

"Xiaotian still has a lot of unresolved knots in his heart, so he needs to take his time." Ning Youguang said with a smile, "Please tell Ms. Wang not to be too anxious. People who have not received orthodox psychological training will feel pain when they see others suffering. , it is easy to transform them and help them out of their predicament in the name of 'help' and 'for your own good', but in fact it is very difficult to do."

"Okay." Jiang Wei listened carefully, "I will tell her well."

"We give others, including family members, relatives and friends around us, whether we want to give them advice or help, we must respond to the opportunity to be effective. People grow up in different environments, receive different education, and develop different behavioral habits." Ning Youguang added, "You can tell Ms. Wang that if she really wants to help Xiaotian, she must first establish trust with the other party, and then guide her slowly. If she corrects Xiaotian with the mentality of 'I am right and you are wrong' The other party's behavior habits, what the other party feels in his heart is not true love and concern, but rejection and denial, which will be very hurt."

"Yeah, good." Jiang Wei agreed, "I really worked hard on you today."

"It's not hard." Ning Youguang smiled, "Don't feel like you are bothering me. The reason why I am willing to take Xiaotian's case is because I saw a relatively prominent social phenomenon from her and wanted to dig into her. Produce something valuable to such girls in society. So, today I am not only helping Xiaotian, but also learning."

Jiang Wei couldn't help laughing, "I'm at ease when you say that."

Ning Youguang smiled softly, "Don't think too much about you, as a psychiatrist, I've seen so many strange cases, Xiao Tian's can only be regarded as a drizzle, and he doesn't have any psychological quality at all. I don’t even want to take the job of a teacher.”

Only then did Jiang Wei feel relieved. 1314