Chapter 357: Everything I See Is Bright

Ning Youguang's words can be said to have opened up a new understanding of "breaking away" for the mother.

"Can it still be used in human relationships?" She couldn't believe it.

"Of course." Ning Youguang said seriously, "Cut off meaningless social interactions, regularly delete friends on WeChat that you haven't contacted for a few years or more than a year, delete those you don't contact at all now, or feel that there is no need to contact, and those who let you Deleting unhappy people from your phone, and letting them go from your heart, these are the separations of 'people'."

"Deleted all of them, what if I need to contact you in the future?" Mother asked with a frown.

"It's like those things you don't use in your daily life. You thought you would use them later, but you don't need them if you think about it now, right? In the same way, after you delete those people you don't contact with from your phone, You will find that you will not contact them in the future, you keep these old people and things, in addition to revealing that you can't let go of the past, it also takes up space to bring harm and pain to your family and yourself, which has no meaning."

Mother was silent.

Ning Youguang continued to ask, "You can't let go of these, because you can't let go of the pain in the past. Do you want to prove that you have been hurt and continue to hurt yourself?"

The mother's lips trembled slightly, "I... I just... I'm just too sad."

She broke down emotionally and burst into tears.

The daughter stood aside, her eyes were red, but she was at a loss.

"I know it's hard when you're hurt, but if you're always immersed in the hurt, isn't it the same as letting yourself get hurt all the time?"

Ning Youguang's tone was gentle, but his words were not gentle.

Many times, psychological counselors will appear unreasonable. Even if the client shows a very sad look, he will still indifferently let the client see the responsibility he needs to bear in the injury.

Because it is not her job to comfort the client, but to help the client see the problem and solve the problem.

Mother said nothing.

"Severance does not require you to clean everything at once. It also pays attention to the process. In the final analysis, it is also about self-control. If we can improve our self-control, we can enhance our executive power in all aspects of life. No matter what stage you are at, it is a kind of growth for you personally." Ning Youguang continued, "So, what will happen to the outcome of breaking up is not what we need to consider now. What we need to consider now is, Borrow the node of the action of breaking away to see the subsequent changes in your life, after all, no matter what the result is, this is just a node, and life will continue until we die."

"The present moment is always the beginning of our future life. Whether you are willing to change and gain rebirth, or embrace the pain and regret of the past and live like this until you die, it is up to you."

Mother stopped crying and fell into deep thought.

Ning Youguang knew very well that he could not force the client to do something, and he did not expect the client to fully follow her advice.

All she has to do is analyze to her the problems that the client cannot see, and guide her to see another possibility of life.

"The less energy a person takes up materially, the more freedom he will gain spiritually. If you are reluctant to let go of anything, you will get nothing in the end."

She said, "There are many people around me. Their homes only have the necessary daily necessities, and they use them carefully with a pious attitude. Their homes are spotless and all they see is light , living a very high standard of living and state of life.”

After finishing what should be said, Ning Youguang didn't say any more.

In her studio, after the mother was silent for a long time, she looked up at her, then at her daughter, and finally said to her daughter with red eyes, "Baby, when are you willing to come home and help mom put those things together?" Throw away all the trash, okay?"

The daughter covered her mouth and nodded with tears.

She cried and said, "Mom, I'm sorry, I didn't know that you stock up so much because you have so much stress and pain in your heart."

The daughter's words made the mother cry again, but there was relief in her eyes.

She said, "Baby, I don't blame you. It's all because Mom didn't tell you anything. I also blame Mom for being useless. I can't do anything with your dad."

The daughter cried and shook her head, "No, it's because I didn't care about you usually, and I never took good care of your mood." She said, "When I go back, I will tell my father, and I will let him Don't be an uncle at home anymore."

A smile appeared on the mother's face.

But Ning Youguang cut in helplessly, "Sorry, I think I need to interrupt you."

Both mother and daughter looked at her.

Ning Youguang said with a smile, "I am very glad that my mother can open her heart today, and I am also very happy that my daughter can see her mother's hard work, but..."

She emphasized her tone, "May I give you a little suggestion?"

"Teacher Ning, please tell me." Mother said, wiping her tears.

"What is it?" the daughter asked curiously.

Ning Youguang said, "In a family, once a certain family member offends, new family conflicts will arise. Therefore, it is better for a daughter to let the mother resolve the conflicts between the mother and father, otherwise, Not only will the daughter's intervention not solve the problems between the parents, but it will also create new family problems, which will make things even more troublesome."

A dull look appeared on the mother's face.

The daughter said anxiously, "Then my mother can't beat my father at all. If I don't help, won't my mother be suppressed by my father?"

Ning Youguang said calmly, "You are a loving child. I can understand how you love your mother. But, I'm sorry. Although there are conflicts between parents in many families, children will help the weak parent to fight against the strong one. One side, but this will not solve the problem, it will only make the problem more complicated, so, no matter what the problem between the parents is, this is the homework of the parents themselves, what the daughter has to do is to stay in her own seat, You can care and take care of your mother when your father is not around, so that your mother can get comfort and strength, but you can’t go offside and ask your father to do something, this is not solving the problem, but creating a problem.”

The daughter was anxious, "Then I..."

The mother immediately patted her daughter's hand, "Baby, I understand Teacher Ning's words, don't worry, although mother is useless and can't do anything to your father, but I can't let you suffer because of me."

She sighed for a long time, "After so many years, I've become bearish. It doesn't matter anymore. From now on, I just want to be good and don't cause trouble for you. As for your father, I don't have any hope. "1314