Chapter 587

"Don't be too stressed." Ning Youguang said, "Don't forget that you still have teammates, my brother-in-law, use him well."

"I want to make good use of him." Xia Yan smiled wryly, "The problem is that he has a lot of things to do himself. He goes to work during the day and I have to take care of the child when I come back at night. When I put the child to sleep, he has already fallen asleep. It's not good to bother him, and it's not that it's not good to bother him, but I'm too tired, and I don't have the energy to talk to him. You know, we're so busy that we don't have time for sex."

"Can't you let auntie watch the child more?" Ning Youguang felt a little speechless when he heard Xia Yan say this.

Xia Yan's family obviously has a confinement wife and a nanny, how can she be so tired of taking care of the children.

"No, the baby must fall asleep in my arms at night." Xia Yan insisted, "At this moment, he needs a sense of security the most. He has to grab my clothes every night to fall asleep, otherwise He will wake up soon after sleeping and cry, and it will be difficult to put him to sleep."

It seems that the cousin is not only anxious about the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

The matter of raising a child also made her very anxious.

"Can't you really adjust it? Why don't you learn from your cousin?" Ning Youguang suggested, "See how you can make yourself less hard?"

My cousin and brother Chenchen moved out when they got married, and moved to their own small home after leaving the confinement center after giving birth, and only hired a confinement wife to raise the child.

I don't have as many helpers as my cousin, but the children are raised well.

She has never seen her have so many troubles like her cousin.

"I have consulted my sister-in-law before, but it doesn't help me much." Xia Yan said this, feeling a little depressed again, "Our situation is different, my brother has such a good personality, and he loves children very much, likes children After Duoduo was born, my brother cared more about taking care of him than my sister-in-law. Of course, my sister-in-law was relieved. I am different. My husband is not as annoying as my brother."

Duoduo is Xia Chen's son, who is already in elementary school.

Ning Youguang understood.

Now the biggest problem in my cousin's family is herself.

"Are you feeling tired every day?"

"Yes, if I'm not tired, I won't be so busy with your brother-in-law that I don't even have time for sex." Xia Yan said, "Since I gave birth, I feel that all my time and mind have been taken up by the child. If I take good care of the child, I am already very tired. How can I still think about communicating with your brother-in-law? I am not afraid of your jokes. Not only do I have no time to communicate with him, I even hug him No patience."

——"After putting the child to sleep every day, I just want to find a small place to hide myself in the big world."

"Hey, touch your head." Ning Youguang knew that Xia Yan had encountered a problem, and wanted to escape again.

At the same time, she really needs her own space too much.

"I never thought that a woman's body would be so ugly after giving birth." Xia Yan said, "I haven't dared to stand naked in front of the full-length mirror for several months. I wear home clothes every day at home, and I don't care about dressing up. I don't want to dress up either, I want to get my figure back quickly before thinking about it."

"Doesn't your figure look good?"

As a mother of a child for several months, Xia Yan's figure is really not ugly.

It's just a little more round and smooth than before.

But the skin is better and whiter than before.

Anyway, Ning Youguang thinks her cousin looks pretty good-looking, a little cuter than when she was thin.

But she thinks it's useless to look good.

"Not good." Xia Yan stomped up from the bed, ran to the dressing mirror in the cloakroom, pulled off her blouse, and showed Ning Youguang the round flesh on her stomach, "Look, what is this?" ?”

"Lovely fleshy." Ning Youguang lazily leaned back on the office chair with a melodious voice.

"You're so cute!" Xia Yan couldn't hold back his expression after being teased by Ning Youguang's mischievous appearance.

She said angrily, "It's so annoying!!!!!!"

——"I originally wanted to make an appointment with a private trainer two months ago, so that I could get back into shape as soon as possible, but my grandfather refused to let me say anything. He said that I must wait until the child is older, otherwise I will grow old quickly in the future. .”

"Grandpa is right." Teacher Ning, who is also a Chinese medicine practitioner, could hardly disagree with her master's professional philosophy.

"Ahhhhhhhhh!!!" Xia Yan became even more irritable, "Why are you all like this? I originally wanted to have a good discussion with you, let you do the ideological work of being a grandfather, so that I can go now Get in shape with a private trainer."

"Yes." Ning Youguang readily agreed, "The question is, can you drink the medicine?"

"..." Xia Yan, who was still breastfeeding, fell silent.

Ning Youguang didn't let her continue to bother her for too long, "It's okay, I'll give you a prescription that you can eat, you can take care of yourself, and then go to a personal trainer, don't exercise too much, it's fine if the movements are too intense .”

"Well, I love you so much." Xia Yan felt much happier, "You are my Aladdin's lamp, my almighty god!"

"Don't, don't, don't!" Ning Youguang refused Sanlian, "I'm nothing, I'm just an ordinary person."

"Good ordinary person." Xia Yan nodded very obediently, "Continue to ask you, how can I make your cousin-in-law my god teammate?"

"Didn't you say that my cousin's husband is not as good-tempered as Brother Chen Chen, so he can't be a good 'male aunt'?" Ning Youguang laughed at Xia Juan's back-and-forth.

"I just wanted to complain to you." Xia Yan muttered, "You don't know how broken I have been these past few days. The baby has a fever repeatedly, and often vomits while breastfeeding. I feel uncomfortable all day long. Humming, my mother's heart is about to break! It's too uncomfortable for me."

"Thank you, great mother." Ning Youguang knew that the cousin's complaints had not yet finished.

"Last night, I struggled for a long time after coaxing my baby to eat, and I fell asleep. I was so tired that I couldn't remember when I went to bed and fell asleep. When I woke up again, I found that I didn't even take a bath! "Speaking of the recent reality, Xia Yan's good mood lasted less than three minutes, "But at that time, 'my teammate' in your eyes, he had already fallen into a sweet dreamland, do you know my mood at that time?"

"I'm really going to explode! I just want to wake him up and ask him, how can he fall asleep at this time? The problem is that I can't wake him up yet, because it was 3:30 in the night, and he will wake up tomorrow. I have to get up early in the morning to go to the company for a regular meeting.”

"After all, you have shouldered too much." Ning Youguang praised Xia Yan teasingly, "What's next?"

"Afterwards, I gritted my teeth angrily and hugged the pillow and went to sleep in the next room." Xia Yan was like a puffer fish that suddenly deflated, looking depressed and helpless, "We often sleep in separate rooms recently."

"How does it feel to sleep in separate rooms?" Ning Youguang asked with concern.

"It's okay." Xia Yan said after being slightly stunned, "Anyway, we all feel that we slept well, otherwise I would always have to get up at night to nurse, and it would be easy to wake him up."

"It's good to sleep well."

"But I feel a little uneasy."

"Why are you upset?"

"How can couples sleep in separate beds?" Xia Yan felt that couples sleeping in separate beds meant that their relationship was not good. Therefore, even after she and her husband slept separately, they both felt that they slept well, but she didn't want this in her heart. .

But the reality is that the husband and wife don't sleep in separate beds, and each other will be more tired.

"Why can't couples sleep in separate beds?" Ning Youguang felt that his cousin had too many restrictive beliefs, "Do you know that there are many couples in this world who sleep in separate beds, and their relationship is very good?"

"I know." Xia Yan said, "I've seen some bloggers say that they sleep in separate beds with their husbands, and the relationship between husband and wife is also very good, but I can't, I will be afraid."

Ning Youguang asked tentatively, "You don't believe that you and your cousin-in-law are happy even if you sleep in separate beds?"

"It doesn't seem to be the case." Xia Yan continued to scratch his head, "Our relationship is actually quite good. Apart from being busy with the company, your cousin-in-law is also very good to me. It's my own problem. I can't stop thinking about it. .”

Ning Youguang asked, "Have you told your cousin-in-law about your anxiety problem?"

Xia Yan was surprised, "How can I tell him these problems? He didn't cause them."

Ning Youguang sighed deeply, "Idiot, you all know that you are already very anxious. This is the time when you need help the most. If you don't tell him, who else can you tell?"

"Follow you." Xia Yan blurted out.

"Yes." Ning Youguang raised his forehead, "You can tell me, the problem is that no matter how many ways I have to solve your psychological problems, I can't replace the role of brother-in-law in your life. Your method can also give you comfort and love, but I can't give you the love and strength you should get from your husband, do you understand?"

"Is it okay to seek a psychiatrist for psychological problems?" Xia Yan asked cautiously.

"No problem." Ning Youguang patted his head with a headache, "But as a mother and wife, when encountering any problems, besides looking for a psychiatrist, one more important thing is not to forget to find a husband. Do you understand? When you are emotional and encounter problems that you cannot solve by yourself, you have to tell your husband immediately, express to him that you are under pressure and emotional, and you need his help, understand?"

Xia Yan blinked.

Ning Youguang knew that she understood the truth, but what to do if she didn't know.

Just continue, "Sharing your emotions with your husband can help you build a deeper intimate relationship with him. The source of our enthusiasm for doing anything is one's attention to things. Since you are taking care of your children and with your mother-in-law If you want to get help from your cousin-in-law, you should take the initiative to let him participate in your affairs."

"How to get him involved?"

"Continuously share with him the experience and experience of the things you encounter, share with him your gains, your confusion, the process of sharing with him is the process of letting him understand you, and when he understands you, he will naturally know you What do I need, how can I help you, and care about you.” 1314