Chapter 586 Let the Past Pass, Let the Beginning Begin

"Also, if this child is a child of society? Do you need to raise and teach your child from a social perspective? If this child is from the world, will you raise and educate your child from a world perspective?"

From Ning Youguang's point of view, Xia Yan's thinking and cognition is really too common.

Common, but it does not mean it is completely normal and reasonable.

For example, in society, we will find that no matter whether they are parents with high or low levels of cognition, when they educate their children, many of them will think that "the child is mine, and you must listen to me!"

The same is true for raising children, children are mine, and everything must follow my will.

What does it mean to listen to parents about everything when it comes to children?

Means - "I have succeeded in controlling you."

But in fact, many parents with such thinking hope that their children can surpass themselves in the future.

Based on such a vision.

Parents with high-level cognition have such thinking, and the probability of error tolerance in educating children will be much lower.

Because they give children a lot of correct directional guidance based on their own knowledge and vision, so that children can reach a good level in the future.

However, many low-level cognitive parents, such as factory workers or migrant workers with low levels of knowledge, also feel that "the child belongs to me and should listen to me" when educating their children. problem!

In fact, from the perspective of the law of social development, no matter what the level of cognition of the parents is.

With a high probability, the next generation of each generation is smarter than the previous generation, and the children of each generation are better than their parents.

Parents who expect their children to listen to themselves end up teaching a copy of themselves.

What can they copy?

It depends on the quality of the parents themselves.

I want my children to live like me in the future, so education and guidance are not a problem.

The problem is that parents are afraid that they will educate their children in the way of copying, and finally the children will grow up.

But they said with disgust, "No, child, you are disobedient! I didn't let you look like this! How could you look like this?!"

But they forget that the child looks like this because he is too obedient.

Back to Xia Guan's question——

"There is pain when there is an 'I'." Ning Youguang said to Xia Yan, "How big is your 'I', how much is your pain, how narrow is the upper and lower limits of your life, and the scope of the world you can accept It’s just as small, so think about it, how do you make a decision.”

Xia Yan remained silent.

Ning Youguang continued, "I know how painful it is to cut off 'I', but how much 'I' you can cut off, you will gain as much happiness and freedom, and many of your problems can be solved with a single thought. problems and pain."

"It's too difficult." At the other end of the video, Xia Yan rubbed his face heavily, "I will think about it."

"Of course." Ning Youguang smiled lightly, "Getting rid of 'ego' is not something you can do right away, it's a long process of cultivating your mind, but once you are willing to change your mind, the new world will The door will open for you."

- "So, give time, let the past go, let the beginning begin."

"Okay." Although Xia Yan felt heavy, she still completely believed in Ning Youguang, and believed that the method she gave would be useful, "I have already recorded what you just said, and I will listen carefully and ponder it carefully later. Act again." 1314