Chapter 588

"Will he help me with my problem just by sharing?"

Xia Yan was quite skeptical, could her problem be solved so easily?

"That depends on your skills in talking to him." Ning Youguang was there.

"..." Xia Yan scratched her head, "Baby, teach me again."

"First describe your recent real situation to him truthfully, then describe your inner feelings, and finally tell him your needs." Ning Youguang said, "Remember not to add any judgments and speculations of your own in the first two steps, just tell the facts , the last step is when you ask him about your needs, grasp the key points of your question without shifting, stand firm and speak clearly, avoid, don't speak with emotions. Don't say something to my cousin-in-law to shirk responsibility, and try to be brave Whether it is important to say that your own needs are important or not, you must firmly grasp your own needs and let him give a positive response."

——"You must learn how to be a husband, sister."

"Oh." Xia Yu felt that Ning Youguang had told her enough about how to marry her husband, "What about my mother-in-law?"

"For your mother-in-law's problem, first clarify the boundaries between you with her." Ning Youguang said, "Before communicating with her, I suggest you find a suitable opportunity to chat with my brother-in-law, and we can discuss it together and see your little family." , where your mother-in-law can intervene, and where she can't intervene, where she can intervene, respect her opinion more, and where she cannot intervene, don't let her intervene."

"It's a family after all, how can it be so clearly distinguished?" Xia Yan felt a little embarrassed.

Ning Youguang said indifferently, "If the boundaries of your family are not clear, the family may not be like a family in the end."

"Okay, I'll share." Xia Yan didn't want that kind of result at all.

"Don't scare yourself." Ning Youguang sighed softly, "Perhaps when you explain your boundaries clearly to your mother-in-law, your mother-in-law will finally feel relieved?"

"Will she?" Xia Yan was skeptical.

"Have you tried it and you'll know it?" Ning Youguang said, "In interpersonal relationships, learning to make yourself better and being understood should be what everyone asks of themselves."

——"From the great to the simple, the principles are all very similar. Really, it all lies in the execution."

Xia Yan sent out a bunch of complaints, and got a specific solution to the problem from Ning Youguang, and finally his mood became much clearer.

Then I got in the mood to share with Ning about her baby’s daily life——

"When I hold him now, I can feel his two little hands tightly grasping my clothes, and his eyes are looking around. He starts to be curious about everything around him, and he often imitates what others do. Doing some movements, yesterday morning, my father and I were eating a sandwich, and when he saw us eating, he would reach out to grab it and want to eat it, and when he watched his father bite the sandwich, he would open his mouth to imitate and bite, It's really cute hahahaha."

Ning Youguang listened patiently and quietly, "Wow!" from time to time, "It's so fun!" echoed Xia Yan, who was eager to share.

"No matter how disturbed he is, as long as I hold him and gently feed him and pat him on the back, he will calm down. I think life is amazing, and I have never had such a feeling that no matter how tired or hard I feel, I will not hate it After giving birth to him, I feel that these pressures and difficulties are caused by him, but I will be very grateful, thankful that he came to me and became my child." Xia Yan said with a happy face, "I used to feel that other people's homes The child is very cute. But seeing my own child is completely different from other people’s children. I can’t get tired of seeing him every day. I can’t help but think, how did I give birth to such a cute child? I think he must be The cutest kid in the world."

Ning Youguang applauded lightly, and said artificially, "You are really good at giving birth!"

But immersed in her happy little world, Xia Yan didn't feel embarrassed at all, but nodded in agreement, "It's okay, okay, just casually."

After finally coaxing the anxious cousin, Ning Youguang smiled lightly and turned off the video on the phone.

Then she sat alone in her office for a while.

After a detailed communication with my cousin today.

She had to think about something—

In the past, people always said that "people without long-term worries must have near-term worries", but she found that the facts often show that "people are very long-term, but they are full of near-term worries."

If a person is always full of fear and worry about the future, basically this person is not happy in the present and will face many problems in the future.

This is especially evident in the education of children.

If parents always use worry and fear to deal with their children's various matters, and distribute this kind of information to their children, the result is often what they are afraid of.

Insecurity is a kind of collective unconsciousness formed by human beings in the face of various uncertainties for thousands of years. In fact, it does not have much effect on the protection of safety, but it brings a huge psychological burden to people, and many life tragedies derived from it. .

Under the condition that the current technology and materials have provided human beings with a basic sense of security, an important way to make life stretch is to live in the present moment "without worries".

If a person's daily life is stretched, then his whole life is stretched.

Therefore, in the face of various life options, it is necessary to discriminate and analyze one by one: "Am I acting based on love and longing, or working hard based on fear and worry?"

The two mentalities accumulate over time, creating a world of difference in life.

My cousin was not such an anxious person before, but after giving birth, she became more anxious.

Could it be that Aiko's plan is so far-reaching? !

Suddenly, she thought of herself, has her wisdom really grown enough to hold the interpersonal relationships around her?

Will she also one day lose all her sanity and composure because of someone? !

she does not know.

...

"Yes, how about Mochizuki's team building activities?" While Ning Youguang was meditating alone, Xia Yan called the communication video again.

"Is your reflex arc a bit too long?" Ning Youguang sighed.

They chatted for so long, and the cousin didn't remember caring about her until she hung up the video.

"I'm sorry." Xia Yan also felt very embarrassed, "I take care of the children every day, day and night, hard work, my mind is messed up, and I always forget things."

"It's okay, I understand." Ning Youguang smiled, "One pregnancy is stupid for three years."

Xia Juan wailed, "Having a baby really takes too much time for Mom."

"Okay, ok, every day a short story about fear of marriage and pregnancy." Ning Youguang nodded again and again, "If you don't marry and have children, stay safe!"

"Are you still afraid of marriage and having children?" Xia Yan was stunned. 1314

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