Chapter 811: Human Relations and Worldly Wisdom (Part 2)

After paying New Year's greetings, it was basically bright in the morning, and then we went home to hold paper and run to worship our ancestors on the first day of the new year. In the past, women were not allowed to enter the graves, even children were not allowed to do so.

Only when visiting relatives and returning to the mother's home, the whole family would go to the graves of the deceased elders together, so that the deceased ancestors could see that their descendants were full of children and grandchildren.

However, in the past two years, these customs have loosened up a bit, and some girls who are more spoiled will help their fathers to go to the graves together. The fathers of the younger generation must have loosened up, but they were glared back by the old grandfathers.

But this persistence is estimated to not last for a few years. After a few years, these older generations will die, or they will be in poor health and unable to walk around the village to visit the graves again. The fathers of the younger generation will become the pillars of the family, and this custom will become more and more loose, but it is certain that it is not possible now.

After a stroll, the people who had a meal of dumplings in the middle of the night were not very hungry, so they rarely ate breakfast. Instead, they felt that they seemed to be in good spirits after resting in the middle of the night, so they went to the granary to continue the battle.

The entire first day of the Lunar New Year is a time for indulgence. On this day, you are not allowed to rummage through boxes and cabinets, use knives to cook, and can only eat dumplings prepared in advance. You are not allowed to wash dishes or pots. In short, farmers who work hard all year can only taste what it feels like to be lazy on this day.

Yang Dongxu will definitely not go to play cards again. He stayed up until two o'clock in the morning and had not slept for several hours. He was pulled out of the quilt to pay New Year's greetings and worship his ancestors. At this time, he felt heavy eyelids when he relaxed a little, so he prepared to go back to catch up on sleep.

On the second day of the Lunar New Year, you visit relatives. If there are many relatives, you visit several families in a few days. For example, you eat at this family in the morning and go to another family at noon. It is not allowed to visit relatives at night. This is the rule.

The Yang family has many relatives, except for the seven aunts and eight uncles, because the Yang family has been doing well in recent years, and it is getting better and better.

So some less important relatives also came to visit, such as the uncle's brothers. Generally speaking, the father's generation of relatives in rural areas is still close. For example, the one Yang Dongxu calls uncle is Yang's father's eldest uncle, and the one he calls aunt is his mother's aunt's family.

Now the main force of visiting relatives is still Yang's father and mother with their children, so these relatives still have to visit. But grandma and grandpa basically don't visit relatives.

So the relatives of their generation, such as grandma's cousins, don't feel so close to Yang's father. When they were young, grandma would go back to her mother's home with her father who was still a child.

Now that grandma is old, she goes back to her mother's home less often, and some people have passed away. Although the relationship with these brothers and sisters is still there, it feels a bit distant. So in general, this relationship will become more and more weak.

Rural people often say that only people with a five-generation relationship can get married, but in fact, the relationship between relatives is almost a bit weak after three generations.

For example, Yang Dongxu feels close to his mother's mother's family, whether it is his second uncle, his younger uncle, or his first and second aunts. But for the great-grandfather who is more distant, or the uncle who is separated by a generation, there is not much affection, one generation and one layer of affection.

However, because of the current situation of the Yang family, most of these relatives are still walking. After all, every year they come to the door with bags. If you don't go back and walk around, it will be embarrassing. It is easy to be labeled as a rich and unkind person who forgets the poor relatives.

It doesn't matter whether you eat or not, but you must carry a bag. For example, when you go to your uncle's house, you must carry a bunch of big and small bags every year. First, you carry them all to your uncle's house, and then Dad Yang takes the three brothers and sisters to deliver them to each family. You must eat at your uncle's house, but you must deliver the bags to others. This is also a kind of etiquette.

Because grandpa and grandma are still alive, the family will go out together on the third day of the New Year to return to their mother's house. This year, my uncle Shengli's house is hosting guests for dinner, so it doesn't matter if no one stays at home.

But usually, after lunch at grandpa's house, Yang's father came back early. After all, the relatives were not there during lunch, so he had to accompany them after lunch, because my aunt also had to go to her mother's house on the third day of the New Year, and they had to go to the fields to visit the graves together in the afternoon.

The third day of the New Year can be said to be the busiest time for grandma and grandpa's family, with four daughters and sons-in-law, plus a dozen grandchildren, great-grandchildren, and dozens of people, it was very lively.

In fact, on the third day of the New Year, my cousin should have taken his wife back to his wife's mother's house, but I don't know if it was because Yang Dongxu would come to grandpa and grandma's house on the third day of the New Year without fail.

So all the relatives who could come on this day would come, and even my cousin would come with her family, so that they could be entertained all at once, and it would be troublesome to come to grandpa and grandma separately.

After a while, it was either this kid crying or that kid being beaten. Especially Ran Hao, the child of the little grandpa, who was just ten years old this year and was in the period of mischief, took advantage of his home ground and had the demeanor of a big brother, and led a group of little brats to go crazy. After being caught and beaten by the little grandpa, he hid aside to wipe his tears.

As a result, before his tears dried, he took a long stick as a golden hoop and went crazy with several six or seven-year-old children from his cousins. First, he rushed to the village store to get a bunch of snacks, and then went to the ditch of the old house in the village to throw firecrackers in it to see if he could blow up a few monsters so that he could show his skills in exorcising demons.

"Follow them, watch people don't fall into the ditch, there is still a lot of water in the ditch now?" Yang's mother came out of the kitchen and yelled at Yang Dongxu.

The daughter cooked, the man drank tea and chatted, and looking after the children was naturally the task of the idle third generation, so they could only smoke with a few cousins ​​and brothers-in-law, watching these naughty children from a distance.

During the meal, Yang's father and several brothers-in-law and uncles and grandfathers sat at one table, the younger generation sat at another table, several cousins ​​sat at another table, and the younger children sat at another table, making a lot of noise.

After the meal, the youngest generation of children received New Year's money. The children who were originally naughty and mischievous knelt in front of the two elders and shouted "great-grandmother" and "great-grandfather" to receive red envelopes. After receiving the red envelopes, they ran to the grocery store without being watched.

Yang Dongxu and Zhou Ya got a big red envelope this year because they just got married. When they have children, the red envelopes will belong to the children and they have nothing to do with it.

In addition to the New Year's money given by parents, in general, when visiting relatives at the age of 16 or 17, the elders will not give New Year's money. One reason is that the children are already old and don't need to give it anymore, and the other reason is that they are all adults and are embarrassed to ask for it.

The hustle and bustle ended after the grave-visiting. The better the time, the cousins ​​went to Yang's house together on the sixth day of the first lunar month, and the adults grabbed the children who were having fun here and didn't want to go home and stuffed them into the car.

Yang Dongxu was overwhelmed by the drinking of all the relatives. He felt dizzy every day, and he also asked Zhou Ya not to drink and to drive. Otherwise, it would be embarrassing if she had to be sent back after drinking.

Such days lasted until the tenth day of the first lunar month, and then Yang Dongxu and Zhou Ya began to pack their bags and prepare to return to Yanjing to start their second wedding banquet.

Yang's mother originally thought that since it was a wedding banquet, it would be too shabby and impolite if there were no elders present. However, she felt relieved when she heard Yang Dongxu say that it was just a dinner for friends and there was no need to worry about it. The two of them probably wouldn't even wear formal clothes at that time. It was just a simple party.

Zhou Yiren was persuaded by Yang Dongxu to stay in Yangjia Village to accompany Old Man Xuan. This old man who was always busy, after hearing that his daughter was pregnant and could see his little grandson or granddaughter in the second half of this year.

Finally, I felt that there seemed to be some minor problems with my body. I might not be able to bear the noise of the child at that time, so I agreed to stay in Yangjia Village to recuperate.

As for the handover of work, in fact, it was almost done before the New Year, and it didn't matter whether the remaining trivial matters were handed over or not. In order to prevent my father-in-law from being busy once he returned to Yanjing, the things that really needed to be handed over were handed over over the phone.

"Does it really take that long?" After a decadent half a month, Zhou Ya, who got on the plane, seemed to have found the working state of a strong woman before the New Year in an instant. Seeing Yang Dongxu snatching all kinds of documents from his hands and throwing them aside, Zhou Ya pursed her lips and wanted to relax, but she couldn't relax.

"It's just that long. Old Sun said that the first two months of pregnancy are the most likely to cause trouble. So you must not be too tired in these two months. I will handle the things. You stay with me. If there are any things that are not handled well, you can give me instructions. In this way, you don't have to be too tired. You can rest assured that you will be by your side for many things, so as not to affect your mood."

What does it feel like to be a father for the first time?

First, the surprise was a little incredible, and then? She was not as helpless as she had imagined, or as happy as she could not control herself. Perhaps this was because the child had not been born yet, and Zhou Ya was just pregnant, so she probably only had a fertilized egg in her belly that had just begun to develop, and she did not have a clear sense of blood, so Yang Dongxu's mentality was relatively stable.

"But there are so many things going on abroad." Zhou Ya was still a little worried.

But before she finished speaking, Yang Dongxu interrupted her and said, "Haven't you hired a lot of professional managers? Since they have been paid so high a salary, they must show their corresponding abilities.

The current national situation is relatively stable, and the economic environment is not too turbulent. In such an environment, they still can't handle the company's affairs well, so they might as well get out early. If this batch is not good, they will be fired and replaced. Anyway, as long as the general direction is good, occasional fluctuations in operations are harmless."

Although he was still calm because the child had not been born, it was not too much to be extremely cautious when facing Zhou Ya, his first pregnant woman. If Zhou Ya did not disagree, Yang Dongxu would have wanted Aunt Hua or Aunt Cui to watch him 24 hours a day and protect him in a way that was higher than the protection level of the national treasure panda.

Even if he felt that it was wrong to do so, he knew that pregnant women were not as delicate as he imagined. But he couldn't help wanting to do this. When he saw a stone on the road, he would kick it away for fear of tripping. When he saw the steps, he would think about whether Zhou Ya would slip and get into danger if she stepped on them.

He knew that this was because his nerves were too tense. At this time, not only did the pregnant Zhou Ya need to keep a stable mentality, he also needed to keep a stable mentality, but he couldn't help thinking, what can I do?