Chapter 417 If You Don't Care About Him

Obviously Dai Lan didn't expect Zhou Tong to say such a thing. She always thought that Zhou Tong knew that he was drunk and had failed his family. Therefore, Dai Lan also felt that the new life she chose was understandable. Zhou Tong was embarrassed to tell his story in front of relatives and friends. She said it, but she didn't expect that Zhou Tong would actually embarrass her in front of the doctor today.

The flesh on Dai Lan's face trembled as he stood there.

Suddenly, as if she had made a decision, she rushed out of the door.

"You're just a woman, go and serve those stinky men, shameless, shameless!" Zhou Tong cursed at the top of his lungs while sitting on the sofa, as if he had vented all his grievances.

After scolding him, he cried like a fool again.

The moment Dai Lan opened the door, his face turned from red to pale. Zhou Ming stood outside the door, covering his stomach with his hands.

Zhou Ming, who had not yet changed out of his patient uniform, looked at his angry mother in confusion. In Zhou Ming's mind, his mother had always been a gentle, generous, and educated woman.

His mother would never be cruel to him. She is a big brown bear, she is Xiao Neng, and he is also her mother's Xiao Neng.

"Mom, what's wrong with you?" Zhou Ming asked innocently.

"You, why are you here?" Dai Lan's tears couldn't stop flowing down.

"Mom, when will you come see me again?" Zhou Ming didn't know anything. He came here just because he didn't see his mother after waiting on the hospital bed for a long time. Later, the nurse told him that his mother was talking to the doctor in the office.

Zhou Ming, who missed his mother so much, walked to the office door without putting on his sweater and coat in his slippers.

I heard a commotion inside, but before I could figure out what was going on, I saw my mother open the door and come out.

Zhou Ming really wanted to let his mother hug him right away. He thought about seeing his mother every day of the week.

"Zhou Ming, tell me, what did you eat? Tell mom, tell mom, what did dad give you?" Dai Lan grabbed Zhou Ming's shoulders like crazy and shook him again and again.

Zhou Ming stood there blankly, not knowing what his mother was talking about.

Perhaps in order to win back a victory, or perhaps because he was unconvinced by being scolded by Zhou Tong just now, Dai Lan grabbed Zhou Ming's shoulders with great force and pulled him into the office, shouting, "Tell me, what will your father do to you?" What did you eat? Tell me. Tell me."

Zhou Ming looked at his mother and then his father. Most of the time he just stood there in a daze, his lips trembling, and finally they started to twitch.

Dai Lan has entered a certain state of madness, a crazy state in which people's rationality is completely taken away by emotions.

There is a very appropriate word in English called insane, a state of insanity and madness that is more terrifying than crazy and mad.

At this time, Dai Lan was in this state of unconscious control.

Zhou Ming had no idea how his mother could be like this. He couldn't say a word. There were tears in his two black eyes, and he didn't know how to shed the tears.

"Let Zhou Ming go first, the child is scared." Muchun said calmly from the side.

Dai Lan suddenly let go of Zhou Ming and looked at Muchun in panic.

"Well, you sit down first, and Zhou Ming will come and sit down as well." Muchun added.

Zhou Ming was a little scared and sat down next to Dai Lan tremblingly. On the other end of the sofa, Zhou Tong sat drowsily.

It seemed that Zhou Tong had no memory of what he had just said.

"Doctor Fang Ming has already told me about Zhou Ming's condition. What's in Zhou Ming's stomach is..." Before Mu Chun could finish, he was interrupted by Zhou Ming.

"Don't say it, don't say it." Zhou Ming cried.

"Okay, I won't say, but I want my mother to tell Zhou Ming how soon she will go to Zhou Ming, okay? Every Saturday at ten o'clock? Or every Sunday at eight o'clock? Zhou Ming, do you want your mother to tell you when she will go? Where will I pick you up at home?”

Zhou Ming nodded repeatedly, "I think, mom, tell me when you will come to me. I know you are busy with work, and I know you don't want to live with dad and me anymore, but you just need to come to me." , I just want my mother to come to me often. Really, I don’t want to buy anything, and I don’t have to eat. I just want my mother to come to me, and I will study hard. I just want my mother to come to me, and I don’t have to go to school. I will not fail in a fight. As long as my mother comes to me, I can do everything well. I will do everything adults want me to do well.

Mom, when will you come to see me? "

"I" Dai Lan choked up.

"Mom, will you come every week? Next week is the open day. I want you to participate in the school's open day activities. I want other students to know that I have a mother. I have a mother, mother."

Zhou Ming took Dai Lan's hand and held it tightly.

"Me? I don't." Dai Lan didn't know how to answer.

"I'll just go. What do you want your mother to do? The smell on her body is disgusting." Zhou Tong burped and began to scold Dai Lan again.

"Doctor, you said there is magic, magic." Zhou Ming whispered to Muchun for help.

Muchun nodded, focus, focus, magic, magic, Mu Chun thought in his heart.

"Saturday from 10 am to 7 pm, or Sunday from 10 am to 7 pm. Can you choose one?"

Mu Chun knew that if Dai Lan was asked to tell the time at this time, she might not be able to decide at all. When it is not easy for patients to make a choice, limited options allow patients to choose a result.

The purpose of asking questions during treatment is to elicit answers. The information contained in the answers can also be further analyzed by the doctor. In the early stage of psychosomatic treatment, that is, the stage of [diagnostic interview], choosing appropriate questions and questioning methods is a common method of collecting information.

Commonly used questions are divided into [open questions] and [closed questions].

[Open questions] usually use words such as "why", "how", "can", "what", "willing to" to ask questions, so that the respondent can give detailed explanations on the relevant issues. The advantages are: it helps to stimulate the patient's enthusiasm for conversation, helps the doctor obtain a lot of information, and clarifies the essence of things. If the patient accepts this way of questioning and enters a long answer, then a lot of information in it can reveal a lot of information that the patient may not know; another advantage is that such questions are non-threatening and easier to answer.

Although [open questions] have many advantages, the disadvantages are also obvious. Since the patient determines the length and core of each question, a question may take up most of the interview time, or it may only provide unimportant information, always taking the doctor around in circles.

Therefore, in the process of asking questions, the doctor needs to correctly guide the patient from time to time and control it skillfully to prevent going off topic.

At the beginning of the [diagnostic interview] or after the treatment plan is formulated, during the [talk therapy], the [open question] method is also a common method in the treatment process. The corresponding method of [open question] is [closed question].

In closed questions, the questions asked are usually given presets, and the patient does not need to expand to answer. Closed questions are often used to collect information and organize them. They are generally used when doctors want to guide patients to clarify a certain issue, aiming to clarify the facts, obtain the key points, and further narrow the scope of discussion.

This time, Muchun chose a highly closed question, which looks like a multiple-choice question, meaning that the patient must choose the most appropriate answer from all the answers. For example: When in the outpatient department, Muchun will not ask the patient - what to drink? Instead, he will ask the patient coffee or water?

The advantage of choosing [closed questions] in treatment is that doctors can control the length of questions through closed questions and guide patients to provide the required information. It also allows doctors to ask more questions in more areas in a short time, increasing the efficiency of the interview.

In fact, most questionnaires use closed questions, which is conducive to extracting answers and converting them into data, tables, etc. for further analysis.

Correspondingly, the disadvantages of [closed questions] are equally clear. First, it may cause the patient to be in a dilemma where he does not want to answer at all.

Especially for extremely closed questions, such as: Do you support same-sex marriage? This extremely closed question means that the answer to such questions is either this or that, forcing the person answering to make a choice between two relative options. This kind of question is easy to cause resistance from the patient during the treatment process of the psychosomatic department, and will bring the interview into a dilemma.

Here, Mu Chun chose [closed questions] in the hope that Dai Lan could give a clear answer and not lead him and Zhou Ming to beat around the bush.

"Me? Okay, can I come to Xiao Ming on Saturday?" Dai Lan smiled and pinched Zhou Ming's face.

Zhou Ming nodded obediently, and the slightly loose patient clothes looked empty on Zhou Ming.

Zhou Ming, who got the answer, felt that there was nothing in the world that was still a problem, so he clapped his hands happily at Mu Chun.

Mu Chun also nodded happily with him.

"Classmate Zhou Ming, please go out and change clothes first. The doctor has something to say to Zhou Ming's parents, okay?" Mu Chun said to Zhou Ming gently.

"Okay, doctor." Zhou Ming replied.

Zhou Ming was as happy as getting candy after getting his mother's promise.

Seeing Zhou Ming's happy look, Dai Lan also regained her composure a little. She took a tissue from the table and wiped the tears from the corners of her eyes and wiped off some of her makeup. Then Dai Lan changed her previous attitude of not taking Mu Chun seriously and said cautiously: "Doctor, did Zhou Ming talk to you a lot?"

Mu Chun shook his head, "No, Zhou Ming rarely speaks. He is a very introverted child, and this introversion may have gradually formed after you and his father separated."

"Maybe, the three of us were pretty good before, but later, everything changed. I don't want to talk about those things. People have many helplessness. I don't want to say it." Dai Lan repeatedly said that she didn't want to say it, didn't want to say it.

"I understand. Hardship is a word that is not easy to swallow or say. It is true that it is not easy. It is really not easy. Moreover, life is always long. It is always not easy to get better. If you want to tell me, I am willing to listen." Mu Chun handed Dai Lan another tissue.

"You don't understand. We used to be very happy, but his father drank day and night. It was also because he could not get promoted at work, so he became more and more listless. Later, the financial products we invested in were defrauded of money. How to say it, everyone actually knew later that most financial products are unreliable.

At that time, we had more than 300,000 savings, thinking that the interest rate was 11%, which was a huge number. We also planned to go to Hong Kong and take Zhou Ming to Ocean Park after getting the interest, or go to Guangzhou and play in Chimelong.

All the money we had saved so hard was gone, and we couldn’t keep even a penny. Zhou Tong and I kept quarreling and quarreling until we got tired of it. I no longer wanted to take care of this family, and I didn’t want to take care of Zhou Ming either. .

I looked at Zhou Ming and felt that my life was completely ruined. I didn't know what was wrong at that time. I just felt like I was possessed by an evil spirit and didn't want to take Zhou Ming with me.

My best friend told me that a good job was introduced to me, the income was good, and it was not that unfair.

I think you've heard Zhou Tong say that in Zhou Tong's eyes, that kind of job is like a son. "At this point, Dai Lan shrugged his shoulders.

She had narrow shoulders and was wearing a tight knitted dress and a long coat, making her look younger than she actually was.

When Zhou Ming sat next to Dai Lan, Dai Lan was old enough to be the mother of such an old child.

But after Zhou Ming walked away, Dai Lan looked like a young woman who had not given birth.

A snow-white small leather shoulder bag was placed on Dai Lan's lap. The brand on the bag looked like the name of a luxury brand.

Dai Lan seemed to notice Mu Chun's eyes and smiled professionally, "Doctor Mu Chun should be single."

Before Muchun could answer, he only heard snoring coming from Zhou Tong - this father was asleep.

"It shouldn't be difficult for doctors to find girlfriends. The conditions are so good, and they all graduated from prestigious universities. Unlike us, there is nothing if we don't work hard." Dai Lan raised a smile with a slightly complaining mouth.

To be honest, it's beautiful.

There is a kind of beauty in the hazy night, swaying wine glasses, and drunkenness.

It's easy to be intoxicated, but not lingering for too long.

"That's right, I am in this profession, a profession that I can't explain during the day, but it's not as disgusting as Zhou Tong said. It's just singing and drinking. But for me, it's just watching Zhou Tong drink at home. Then I shed tears, or I watch others drinking outside. The difference between me making money, you say there is nothing wrong with people wanting to make money, right? How will Zhou Ming live if I don’t make money?

If I can't make him a million, what hope does he have in the future? "

When Dai Lan was talking, he would cross his hands in front of him, and cross his legs alternately.

It always seemed like the sunken sofa made her uncomfortable to sit on.

But her desire to talk or complain was still very strong, so Muchun listened quietly and waited for the right time to discuss Zhou Ming's matter with Dai Lan.

Today's conversation involves two important aspects: The first is to let Zhou Tong and Dai Lan know that Zhou Ming did not accidentally eat something that could not be digested and was admitted to the hospital for abdominal pain. In the end, he had to rely on surgery to treat it.

The second is to see if there is a chance to buy more time from Dai Lan and let her accompany Zhou Ming.

Now it seems that it is not difficult to explain the first thing clearly. Mu Chun just needs to get straight to the point. But the disadvantage of this is whether Zhou Ming's parents will listen carefully and whether they will seriously reflect on this matter. .

The symptoms are in the child and the cause is in the parents.

"Zhou Ming's biggest pain is that he misses you and his mother. This is not wrong for children, is it?" Muchun asked patiently.

"I know." Dai Lan lowered his head and said softly, "I really have no choice but to spend more time with him."

"Zhou Ming is very sensible, so sensible that I was a little surprised. He is a very good child." Mu Chun said.

"Really? We paid great attention to education when he was a child. We would go on family outings, read and draw together. I thought life would always be so good until his father started drinking. The way he drank was like cuddling. It was like dying with a bottle of wine. He didn't make any noise after drinking. Even if he fell asleep, he didn't know when he would wake up. I was exhausted mentally and physically, and I basically had no money in the end. However, he was not picky, and he would drink any wine. , when people drink, they always have to get some food or snacks to go with the drink, right? He is not particular about it. He only has the best. If not, he can drink liquor and beer as water. Can you believe it?

Have you ever seen a person who drank like this and survived? Then his world was full of fragments. One time I had a toothache and couldn't send Zhou Ming to school. I called him for a long time. From six o'clock in the morning to seven thirty, he was like a dead pig. Can't wake up at all.

However, his only advantage is probably that he never goes crazy with alcohol. When he is drunk, he either falls asleep or is in a daze, allowing others to bully him. It was the first time I saw him talk like this just now. Dai Lan kept moving as he spoke, looking more and more anxious.

"Do you want to smoke?" Muchun asked suddenly.

"How do you know? Have my teeth changed color? Or do I smell like smoke?" Dai Lan asked anxiously.

"It's just that you are very uneasy, like someone who is addicted to smoking, but smoking is not allowed in the hospital office." Mu Chun said.

"I know, I know. I have to get ready to go to work at four o'clock. I'll just smoke when I get to the company later. By the way, is there anything else Zhou Ming should pay attention to after returning home today? Doctor Fang Ming said there is no big problem. Just take a good rest at home for half a month," Dai Lan said.

“Yes, Zhou Ming’s problem is [pica], also known as pica or disordered eating. It is mainly manifested by the continuous intake of non-nutritional substances, such as soil, soap or ice. The ball of wool in Zhou Ming’s stomach has been there for about half a year to a year, and it has gradually turned into something the size of a pebble. What Zhou Ming ate this time is stored in the stomach. Some children eat newspapers, soil, and fiber that gradually move into the intestines with the movement of the digestive tract, causing intestinal obstruction. In acute attacks, there is severe pain, difficulty in defecation, and even intestinal rupture.”