Chapter 544

The two walked to the corner window.

The girl looked at Ning Youguang and said, "I just watched my mother feel it. People who don't grow up are really scary. She is always fixed in a thinking mode to the outside world. She can't see others or the outside world. Change, she will always have only one way to treat others, such as what I liked more than ten years ago, but now I don’t like it, she doesn’t seem to see it, she thinks I like it very much, and then I don’t need it, she does it again Annoyed that I don't accept what she gives me, the problem is that she doesn't understand at all, I don't like it anymore, I don't need her to do it, what I need her to do she doesn't do, what I don't need her to do she doesn't I just thought I would do this and that, but when I didn’t accept it, she was angry and unhappy, and pulled her face as if I owed her millions, and it was the same with my brother, we were really speechless, being with her Just very tired."

"Then did you tell her that you don't like those?" Ning Youguang asked.

"Yes." The girl said, "I told her I don't want it, but she seemed to be completely blocked and couldn't hear it."

"She has had a heart knot for a long time." Ning Youguang said, "It seems that some things have violated her heart, and she has not been cleared, and she has not let go. It is similar to regret. This is what caused her to close herself and not want to open it. , the reason why you are unwilling to face new things, is your mother not in good health?"

"Yes." The girl said, "During the Chinese New Year last year, my mother had an operation for a thyroid nodule, but this year it reappeared in the physical examination. Although the doctor said it was nothing to do, my brother and I were very worried."

Speaking of this, the girl was obviously anxious, "But my mother is not active in doing anything, taking medicine, and seeing a doctor. Every day taking medicine, my brother and I have to take turns calling her to urge her, so she remembers. Dad said that the hospital prescribed Chinese medicine for her, and she often stewed it in the pot, so my dad often quarreled with my mother.”

"There are many reasons why my mother didn't actively treat her sick and didn't actively take medicine." Ning Youguang said, "You have to ask her the specific reasons why she is like this."

"I asked." The girl said weakly, "Ask her, and she said it's fine, it's okay, I just forgot, so my brother and I are really worried that my mother will get Alzheimer's in the future. The problem is that my mother Not only did she have nodules in her thyroid gland, but she also had cerebral thrombosis and a tumor on her liver. She was sick all over her body, and there was nothing wrong with her at home. Since she went for a physical examination and found out that she had such a problem with her body, my dad no longer needed her to do anything. But she can't even take care of her own body, my brother and I send her wechat every day, it's better to make phone calls, and if I forget it one day, maybe I won't remember it."

The girl obviously felt very anxious and powerless, and the pain of not knowing what to do appeared in her eyes.

"Don't worry, it's fine." Ning Youguang immediately comforted her and said, "Did you suggest mom to see a psychiatrist?"

"Yes." The girl frowned, "I discussed it with my brother and my dad, but they don't seem to suggest that I see a psychiatrist."

"What about mother herself?" Ning Youguang asked again.

"My mother herself is silent, she doesn't talk about it, and she doesn't talk about it." The girl said.

"That's why mom doesn't want to go." Ning Youguang chuckled, "She's not ready to face and solve her own problems at all."

"But my family is very anxious." The girl said, "She takes medicine every day, her body is still the same, and she looks okay now, but the tumor grows after being cut, and she does not actively treat it. Soon... the problem is that she is a person, we don't listen to what we say, and she doesn't do it herself, so she just goes about her own way every day!"

The girl couldn't help but sigh deeply.

Ning Youguang said, "Then chat with her often, whether it's you, brother or father, you should chat with her often, you have to know what's going on in her mind, if she wants to Only by opening and accepting can there be other possibilities.”

"She's very good at evasion. When you ask her a question, you can do whatever you want, and then drag it on others." The girl said irritably, "I paid special attention to her this summer vacation, and stayed with her, but—— I can't talk about the fundamental issue. Whenever I talk about her, she will run away, or rely on others, or pull out all the messy things that have happened for hundreds of years, or just say that this is not good and that is not good. I am really angry. Impatient to continue talking to her."

"If she is like this, no doctor may be able to help her." Ning Youguang still spoke softly.

The girl thought for a while and said, "Then I'd better think about how I should talk to her."

"It's very simple." Ning Youguang guided the girl, "You just ask her if she is willing to face what Mi Ah is not willing to face, which is of great benefit to her health. Not ready."

"Is there a specific entry point for unwillingness and willingness to ask?"

"Ask her if she is willing to face the pain deep in her heart, and if she has the courage to face it, others can help her, at least it will help her body." Ning Youguang said, "But if my mother is not ready, forcefully pick her up." If you drive her, she will be in pain."

"My brother and my father said that my mother's personality caused her to become what she is today. I think it's mainly her heart."

"These are all conjectures." Ning Youguang chuckled, "For the specific preference, let's see a professional doctor."

"Okay." The girl sighed.

"Stop thinking about it." Ning Youguang said, "Since we can't solve it now, let's wait for the opportunity."

"That's the only way to go." The girl really felt that there was nothing she could do about people like her mother.

She thought so in her heart, and so did the expression on her face.

Ning Youguang stretched out his hand, and gently helped her take off the two strands of hair that fell on her shoulders, "When facing immature parents, as a grown-up child, don't think that your mother Can be your mother all the time, in fact, your mother plays your child many times. Because if your mother is not taken care of by her own mother and her husband, she will let her child come Take care of her. So every time your mother gets angry with you, every time she is dissatisfied with you, every time she complains to you, she is actually treating you as a mother and hoping to get some praise from you. She needs you to give her some attention and give her some responses, at that time she was your baby, she was asking for your help, she needed your love and your care.” 1314