Chapter 286
for such consultants.
What she needs to do is never to define for her.
She just needs to give her an analysis so that she can see the problems she found more clearly.
Finally, tell her what to do.
Mind manipulation literally destroys a person's will.
The most painful moment of being manipulated is when you realize that you are nowhere near your best self, your true self.
Liang Yiyi lost her confidence, self-esteem, assertiveness, courage, and happiness during this intimate relationship.
She spent a long time trying to get her husband's approval.
Until recently, she had come to understand that it was a goal that could never be achieved.
This represents her being manipulated to the third stage.
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In the first stage of being manipulated, Liang Yiyi hoped to be recognized by her husband and let him confirm that she was a lovely, excellent, and lovable person.
But if it can't be achieved, she can accept it.
When the two of them have a disagreement, she will start from her own position first. If he said something that didn't seem right, she would argue with him.
When there are conflicts with each other, they can still retain their own judgments and question them.
In the second stage——
When Liang Yiyi had a conflict with her husband, although she would question it, she would habitually consider his views and opinions.
She thinks his views are normal, so she desperately wants to get the opportunity to communicate, to express her views, to prove that she is cute, good, right, etc.
But at this time, she had lost her ability to judge, and she couldn't see the big picture clearly. She was just obsessed with the details of what he accused her of.
One of the most dangerous features of stage three is the increasing degree of her cognitive deficits.
Feelings of frustration, hopelessness, and lack of fun can seem perfectly normal.
It is Liang Yiyi's current state, she closes herself, no longer contacts with outsiders, forgets what she used to be, feels numb to life, can't feel happy no matter what she does, walking dead every day, exhausted from being tortured, even arguing with each other I don't even think about it anymore, and I no longer have expectations of the other party. Of course, I don't doubt his cognition——
Wake her up without her daughter discovering her problem and trying to help her.
She will completely fall into despair, and even without her husband continuing to control her, her own vitality will quickly drain.
fortunately……
She has a daughter and there are people who try to wake her up and help her out.
"Yes, I have realized that there is a problem with my relationship with my husband." Liang Yiyi said, "I have been thinking about whether to take action these past few months."
Ning Youguang smiled, and she said, "Congratulations on your decision not to continue playing manipulation games with him!"
There were dots of light in Liang Yiyi's eyes.
Ning Youguang continued to ask, "Have you decided to change the rules of the game with your husband?"
"Yes, I used to be very worried about divorcing my husband and being separated from him. I was afraid that I would have no home or family from now on, but Lele told me that I still have her and she can accompany me."
A smile appeared on Liang Yiyi's face, "Lele has grown up, she is smarter and braver than me, I am her mother, she is so brave to help me, if I continue to fall into a relationship with his father In the entanglement of meaning, I really lost my mind."
——"Not only do I have no brains, I also have no responsibilities and responsibilities. I don't deserve to be a mother." 1314
pua is everywhere
Those who are afraid of pua and want to know how to counter pua:
I recommend everyone to read "The Gaslighting Effect: How to Recognize and Get Rid of Others' Control of Your Life"
This book will introduce in detail the means and types of being manipulated, as well as the methods of anti-manipulation, which is very practical~ This chapter contains the content in the reference book.
I love you, and may all the angels live vigorously and upwards.