Chapter 285 He Has No Love

It is also in the first stage that the glamorous gaslighting and tender romantic periods intersect, making it difficult for the manipulated person to find the problem or even realize that he has been manipulated.

She only thinks that this is a contradiction that couples will have when they get along together.

After all, when people get along with each other, who can have no contradictions? !

For example, when her husband whose temper is getting worse and worse gives Liang Yiyi a gift and makes surprises, she will tell herself because of this: "He really loves me very much. The previous unhappiness was all because of a small conflict. As long as it is resolved That's fine."

Because of this, Liang Yiyi's self-awareness is slowly being destroyed.

Some manipulated people will waste months, years, or even a lifetime in the unrealistic hope that the problems between the two of them will be resolved.

But unfortunately, facing this kind of person who keeps giving you problems, the problems between the two cannot be solved.

"Sometimes I can find where I am wrong, and sometimes I can't. I often feel strange, why I did the same thing in the past, so it's right, and it's okay to get along with others, but it's wrong when it comes to my husband? Is there a problem?" Liang Yiyi said distressedly, "When I questioned him, he would say, 'It is because of those people's connivance that you are so ignorant now', 'You don't even look at you. How did your parents spoil you!'."

"He said I was brainless. I felt very embarrassed and angry. I didn't want him to say that about me."

"Did you tell him that you didn't like him talking about you like that?" Ning Youguang asked.

"Yeah, I told him, but he said, 'Is it you who have brains?', 'You are married, you should grow up, if you continue like this, I can't communicate with you !' Even, he would ask me to separate from me for a few days, so that I can reflect on myself." Liang Yiyi was out of breath when she said this, "I am very afraid of separating from him. Separate, I firmly don't accept it, I think there are problems between husband and wife, quarrels are okay, separation is not, but he doesn't accept it, so I can only constantly reflect on my own problems."

"Does he have this attitude every time there is a problem?" Ning Youguang asked.

"It's basically like this." Liang Yiyi said, "I used to ask him, 'Why is it my fault every time something goes wrong? Are you not at fault?', he firmly said 'No', I said 'Why do you think so firmly that you don't have one?', he said 'Based on the vast majority of what I know'..."

"In the end, he would find out all the wrong things I did before. Sometimes we lay in bed at night. I originally wanted to communicate with him to solve the problem, but in the end it turned out to be my problem. , turned into me being judged endlessly!"

"I'm so tired! I cry a lot in the middle of the night."

"Seeing you crying, how did he react?" Ning Youguang asked.

"He just said, 'I have to let you see your problems, otherwise you will always be like this, and you will never get better!', 'You should reflect on yourself!' Then, he would lift the quilt and close the door loudly. Go to the guest room."

It was so suffocating.

"Won't it make people go crazy if this happens often?" Ning Youguang said.

"I also think I'm going crazy!" Liang Yiyi glanced at her daughter, "I often can't figure it out, and sometimes I even think that I should just jump off the roof of the building and die, but I can't, because I have fun. Le, I can't leave her without a mother."

After a while, she said again, "But that's not the only way we get along. It's only like this when there are problems. When there are no problems, or as long as I continue to recognize and agree with his point of view, we get along very well. He will buy me gifts, take good care of my body, and take me out to relax, and he is very considerate in many cases."

Ning Youguang asked Liang Yiyi, "Have you ever thought about the motive behind his thoughtfulness and gentleness?"

"Of course it's because he loves me." Liang Yiyi said.

"Maybe that's the case." Ning Youguang said, "But maybe there are other reasons?"

Liang Yiyi lowered her head, "What's the reason? Isn't it because we get along well?"

Ning Youguang looked into Liang Yiyi's eyes seriously, "So that you don't criticize his mistakes and make you doubt your own thinking."

Liang Yiyi fell silent.

Ning Youguang continued to ask, "Is it because when you get along with your husband, sometimes you think his views are wrong, but after a long time, you will think he is right, because as long as you think he is right , he will recognize you, you can't deny him at all, once you deny him, there will be conflicts between you?"

Liang Yiyi nodded, "Yes, only if I obey him will we not quarrel."

"Can I ask you a few questions?"

"go ahead."

"Your husband often uses cold violence against you?"

"If you're not happy."

"Does he have frequent or periodic tantrums?"

"He really has a big temper, and I feel very scared."

"Aren't you afraid to go somewhere?"

"It used to be, but it's much better now."

"which places?"

"Social occasions, but I don't like to go out now, so I won't..."

The more Liang Yiyi talked, the clearer her thoughts became, "It seems that there are more than that. In life, such as eating, dressing, talking, etc., as long as I touch something he doesn't like or accept, he will show a very cold and terrifying side. , I generally dare not touch his minefield now."

"Has he constantly threatened you that he would leave you if you upset him? Or hinted at leaving?"

"Yes, he often said, 'If you continue to behave like this, we may not be able to continue living together.' Sometimes he also said, 'We're getting a divorce!'"

"Will he laugh at you?"

"Just kidding, okay?"

"Of course, some ridicule, whether it's a joke or not, as long as he said it, it means he thought so."

"Yes, many times."

"After being with him, is there anything you are afraid of?"

"Yes, I'm scared that we're going to get divorced, I'm scared that he thinks I'm not the woman he likes, and I'm scared that he's going to fall in love with someone else, I have nightmares, I can't help being scared just thinking about it, I often dream Some scenes of his cheating made me go crazy in my dream, and I couldn’t recover for a long time after waking up.”

As the two asked and answered, the atmosphere in the hotel room gradually became dignified.

Ning Youguang looked at Liang Yiyi's gradually calm eyes, and asked her, "Do you know that your husband is mentally manipulating you?"

Liang Yiyi was motionless, as if she was in a state of rigidity.

After a long time, she turned her head to look at her daughter, and found that there were tears in her daughter's eyes, and her tears flowed out.

"Before coming here, Lele has done a lot of homework for me." She looked at her daughter and said, "Also showed me a lot of relevant information."

"Otherwise I won't come." She didn't cry, but the tears kept flowing.

At the same time, a strong stubbornness appeared in his eyes.

She wiped the tears off her face with her hands, slipped and wiped off, slipped and wiped off...

"I feel lonely at home."

She said, "Before I came here this time, I had gastritis and the stomach pain was unbearable. I asked my husband not to go on a business trip. I begged him to accompany me to the hospital, but he pulled the suitcase and left without looking back. He He said that I should not go to him when I have gastritis, I should go to the hospital, go to the doctor, and said that I usually eat indiscriminately, which ruined my stomach. This is my own problem, and now I have a stomach problem. Take it as a lesson."

"I was lying on the bed, watching the back of his leaving, I suddenly calmed down, and I thought, 'Could it be that he would say so indifferently when I die, this is my problem?'."

Her face showed a kind of numbness like ashes, "I am too embarrassed to tell my friends, I am afraid that if I tell them, they will laugh at me."

She asked Ning Youguang, "Little Doctor Ning, do you know what else he said?"

Ning Youguang shook his head.

Liang Yiyi showed a sarcastic smile, "He said I shouldn't have told him this early in the morning, knowing that he was going on a business trip, and telling him this would spoil his mood!"

"I suddenly discovered that he actually has no love." Liang Yiyi said, "I was wrong, I don't want it anymore, I don't want to love anymore, and I don't want to look forward to it anymore!"

"I've been looking forward to it for more than ten years..." She said hoarsely, "I expected him to understand me and tolerate me, but the fact is that I am constantly compromising and tolerant of him."

"I can't find myself." Her emotions were completely broken.

Liang Yiyi buried her head in her knees, curled up like a baby, and trembled from crying, "I don't remember what I was like before."

"I can't even look in the mirror now, I can't even look at my own face."

"I feel like a ghost at home, like a ghost, like a puppet, just not human..."

She raised her head slowly, "I used to always think, why did I become like this? Why did my life become like this, I always felt that something was wrong, but I couldn't find the reason."

——"Until the New Year, Lele put a book on my bedside." She said, "When I finished reading the book, I realized that I have been manipulated by him like a puppet for so many years."

Ning Youguang quietly watched Liang Yiyi's crying gradually subside, and then asked softly, "Have you been making mental preparations these past few months?"

Many times, people who come to a counselor already have the answer in mind before they walk into the counselor's office.

They come here just to find an expert or authority to confirm that their decision is correct.

Since Liang Yule talked with her during the Spring Festival, he often reported to her about her mother's status and shared some things about her mother.

So, this time, after learning that Liang Yiyi had come to the capital, she already guessed that she probably knew about her situation. 1314