Chapter 454 High-Quality Protection Is Better than All Substances

"Actually, I feel that the reason why Teacher Ning said this is because family education is really important, right?" Zhou Tang took Ning Youguang's words with a smile, "I remember the educator Mr. Cai Yuanpei said that 'Family is the first step in life. The school also.', indicating that family education is of great significance to each of us, every family and even the whole society."

"I think you understand right. Family education is definitely an important part of our national education system, and it is the foundation, supplement and extension of social and school education. It accompanies a person's life, affects a person's life, and is crucial to a person's growth and success. It is very important." Zhou Tang's words made Ma Zhou's eyes show appreciation, "Everyone knows that this good family education is very important, but this 'good' standard is very vague to many people. Teacher, might as well talk to everyone about what you think a good family education is like?"

He Yuan was the first to speak out, "I remember a thought-provoking poem by the poet Gibran, in which he wrote——

‘Your children are not actually your children.

They are the children born of life's longing for itself.

They came into this world through you, but not because of you.

They are with you, but they do not belong to you.

What you can give them is your love, not your thoughts, because they have their own thoughts.

You may house their bodies but not their souls, for their souls belong to tomorrow. '

Before I had a vague concept of good family education, but after reading this poem, I felt enlightened. I think good family education is being a parent. What you must understand is that children are independent first. Individuals, followed by your children. "

"It's really important for parents to respect their children's subjective consciousness in the family." Ma Zhou nodded with a smile, "Where are Teacher Ning and Teacher Zhou?"

Zhou Tang glanced at Ning Youguang, who was sitting beside him with a calm face, and smiled slowly, "I think the best family education is for parents to be the best version of themselves. Father is father, so don't over exaggerate. I don't deliberately hide my shortcomings, but calmly use actions to give my children the best demonstration. There may be shortcomings, but progress must be made. A mother is a mother, and she will not affect her emotions because of a little thing, nor will she Will entrust the rest of his life on his children at will, no matter what happens, he can communicate well, instead of losing his temper randomly. In a family, parents can do these two things, and the children will not change when they grow up It's a good one, at least it's going to be a healthy kid, I think."

Ning Youguang chuckled, "Ms. Zhou is right. A professor of psychology at the University of Manchester once conducted a study called the 'Static Face Experiment'. Through this experiment, it was found that the mother's emotions are very important to the child's mood changes. It can be said that, The mother's emotions are the family's compass, and the father's example is more effective than asking children to get 100 points in the exam."

Ma Zhou said with a smile, "The words of Mr. Zhou and Mr. Ning reminded me of what Mr. Zheng said before. He said that his father said that he has been a father for so many years. The most profound experience is to close your eyes. Mouth, lift your legs, walk your life path, and demonstrate it to your children.’——The best education for children is to teach by example. Therefore, Mr. Zheng and his brothers and sisters are excellent.”

He Yuan also smiled and said, "It is often said that what a child looks like is what the parents look like. In fact, the reverse is still true. Parents are the mirror of the child, and the child is the shadow of the parent. Moral character, self-cultivation, habit, quality, principle, three In my view, a person's growth is inseparable from the education of his parents. And the best family education is that the father is a role model and the mother has warmth."

"Teacher He summed it up very well." Ma Zhou looked at He Yuan and smiled.

"I rely on a pen to make a living. I am not married and have no children. Talking about family education can only be done on paper. Unlike Mr. Zhou who is a good example of family education by precept and deed, Mr. Ning is a professional family education instructor. Of course I can only give The two of them summed it up." He Yuan laughed at himself.

"Oh?" Ma Zhou looked at Ning Youguang with interest, "Is Teacher Ning still a family education instructor?"

He Yuan immediately teased Ma Zhou and said, "Mr. Ma, Mrs. Ning skipped a grade to go to school in elementary school, and won the provincial college entrance examination. Is it difficult to get a family education instructor certificate?"

Chao Ning Youguang, who was full of admiration on Ma Zhou's face, cupped his hands, "Mr. Ning, it's because I'm out of character."

The fight between him and He Yuan made the atmosphere more relaxed.

Zhou Tang also smiled and said to Ning Youguang, "Then I'd better talk less, so as not to be suspected of playing tricks in front of Teacher Ning."

"Teacher Zhou is polite." Ning Youguang smiled, "A person who has received a good family education since childhood is often the most qualified to talk about family education."

"Hey, I told you to stop flattering each other." He Yuan teased the two of them, "I think family education, no matter what channel you learn from, the final test standard is still effective and easy to use, so you say You are all right, you all open your mouth more, let me and Lao Ma gain knowledge together, Ma brother can just learn and sell now, and he can teach his son well when he goes back. As for me, I will keep what I have learned now and have a child when I have children. Use it, it's useful anyway."

"Hahaha..." Everyone present smiled happily.

Ma Zhou agreed with He Yuan's words very much, "Teacher He's words are reasonable, the two of you should not refuse each other, for the healthy growth of our next generation, it is not okay for the two teachers to hide their secrets."

"Teacher Ma said so, I am so embarrassed that I have to stop talking." Zhou Tang laughed.

"The philosopher Plato once said, 'Where a person's education leads him from childhood determines where he will go later. People are like this, what kind of family they grew up in when they were young, and what kind of family they will go when they grow up. The road. What parents plant in the soil of education in the first half of their life will bear the fruit in the second half of their lives. The family is the first school of the child, and the parents are the first teacher of the child. Every outstanding child , behind it is the parents who are watering it with their heart."

Ning Youguang also smiled, "When the lights are dim, in a home, the father's face is warm, the mother's face is full of joy, and the child's hand is holding the light. This is the most beautiful appearance in life."

She spoke at a leisurely pace and her voice was gentle.

As long as you open your mouth, the people around you will quiet down unconsciously.

With just a few words, the surroundings are brought into a pyrotechnic yet warm atmosphere.

Ma Zhou, He Yuan and Zhou Tang couldn't help imagining the scene she described in their minds, and suddenly felt an urge to go home.

He Yuan was the first to pull away from it. Thinking of the loneliness and coldness at home, she quickly shook her head, "Speaking of which, a good family education still depends on a happy and harmonious family environment."

Ning Youguang smiled and said, "You are right. The premise of good family education is that parents can create a good family environment for their children to grow up. A good family environment can make children maintain a happy and upward attitude, and happiness is success. way."

"Speaking of the way to success..." Ma Zhou looked at the people sitting there, "Don't all parents hope that their children will be successful in the future and become pillars of society?"

"But in today's society, many parents think that a person's success is the ability to make a lot of money." He Yuan said, "This also leads to many parents choosing to make money instead of disciplining their children when educating their children. I heard A friend said that there is such a pair of examples around her. The man and the woman are getting divorced. The two sons are now nine years old. The mother has always been taking care of the child alone. The father never holds the child, and rarely accompany the child. It is said that the work is busy, after so many years, the husband and wife have become more and more discordant, and finally reached the point of divorce, and then the mother thinks that the divorce is fine, but she hopes that the father can help take care of the children during the winter and summer vacations, so that she can work with peace of mind , the son also has his father's company, after all, he is a boy, and his father can't care about it at all, but the man doesn't want his son to go to him, saying that I will give you as much money as you want, and it depends on you. The son was given away, but the son couldn’t take it with him, and the woman was so angry that she said, ‘Do you hope that the son will not want you in the future?’, guess what the man said?”

The other three looked at each other and shook their heads in unison.

He Yuan said sarcastically, "He said, 'As long as I have money, my son will definitely not deny me in the future.'"

Zhou Tang and Ma Zhou looked sad.

"This father is a bit too much." Zhou Tang said.

"Unless he is really ready not to have a son." The expression on Ning Youguang's face did not change much, but his voice became slightly colder. Even the money can’t make up for the missing part of the child’s mind.”

The expression on Ma Zhou's face was no longer smiling, "I read a study before and found that every psychological or behavioral problem of a child is related to the behavior of the parents and the way the parents educate them. Children's problems, Often adults make it."

"Money brings abundance in life, but the lack of companionship and communication education will cause children a lack of thought and spirit. The so-called richest way to raise children is not material improvement, but Give the child enough sense of security to enrich his heart. Instead of giving the child a lot of money, it is better to sit down quietly and listen to his inner world in his spare time." Ning Youguang looked gentle, but his words were sonorous Powerful, "So, parents must understand that high-quality companionship is better than countless wealth, and high-quality protection is better than all material things." 1314