491 Chapter 491 Let the Heart Be More Beautiful

"Mom said let me leave it alone, just leave it to her to handle it."

Xie Yizun was actually not worried about such a non-existent thing.

Brother-in-law is his brother-in-law, this can't be true anymore.

It was another thing that bothered him—"I..."

"What's wrong with you?" Ning Youguang asked patiently.

Maybe it's because her gentle voice is like the summer evening wind, which can blow away the impetuousness in my heart, or maybe it's because of her support and respect for Xie Yizun since she was a child.

The boy hesitated for a moment, and told her the doubts in his heart that he didn't tell his mother, "I suspect that the person who blackmailed me was the person who trained with me."

If nothing happened, he didn't take it seriously when he saw the strange eyes of a few people in the bathroom in the morning, but if something happened, he really couldn't stop thinking about it.

"How?" Ning Youguang asked.

"yesterday……"

Xie Yizun carefully told Ning Youguang what happened in the training camp from yesterday to today.

"That's it." Ning Youguang pondered for a while, "Let's have someone check it out, and it will be found out soon. If someone really hurts you for no reason, we will definitely make him pay the price, but we can't just rely on If you speculate, you will be convicted, don't wrong people."

"I think it's okay." Xie Yizun also hoped to get a fair and objective answer.

Waiting for an answer takes a little while.

The younger brother's mood must not recover so quickly.

People who are unhappy in their hearts will lose energy in training, not to mention that they will continue to compete the day after tomorrow.

Ning Youguang said slowly, "A person's discomfort in the face of accusations and slanders is also related to his mentality, because our concern for the outside world is like a cage, which will bind us tightly, which involves When we interact with people, we must know how to maintain a sense of boundaries.”

"What is a sense of boundary?" Xie Yizun knew that his sister was guiding him, and listened carefully.

"It's when other people interact with you, you can recognize the place where it is possible to say "no"." Ning Youguang said.

"Sister, can you be more specific?"

"It means that when you associate with people, don't think that they are friends when you meet them. No, in fact, there are really very few people who can be our friends in our lives. Besides, every person we know, in our life There are roles around you. When you recognize their roles around you, you will know the boundary with them. At the same time, according to their roles, you can also clearly know their role around you. and meaning."

"Let me think about it..." Xie Yizun thought seriously, "For example, my teacher is a teacher, and my relationship with him is to talk about learning. For example, the people who compete with me are companions and competitors. I I only need to interact with them on matters related to competition training, and for example, those people in the company, I have a cooperative relationship with them, so I only need to talk about work matters, is this the difference?"

"That's right, that's how they are distinguished." Ning Youguang smiled, "The areas that must intersect have been demarcated, and in other parts, if they inquire too much, you can say "no" to them! ?"

"Understood." Xie Yizun replied.

"That's right." Ning Youguang said softly, "My younger brother is so simple and honest, how can he play with those thoughtful people outside? Don't be so stupid that you don't know if you are tricked."

"I also think these people are so complicated." Xie Yizun felt that his three views had been washed away recently, and scratched his head in annoyance, "I really can't understand it."

"Of course you can't understand. Those people with a lot of scheming and complicated hearts like to come to your door to add things to you." Ning Youguang said, "Things that are originally simple, after being processed by their brains, everything becomes irrelevant." It's getting complicated, do you think it's because they have too many things in it? No one has anything to do, it's all things, they have to get involved with people, and if anything gets involved with people, it will be troublesome, and the conflict between people It started, and the attack started."

"Yes, yes, yes." Xie Yizun was extremely shocked, "Recently, a lot of people told me about the people around me. I thought these people only told me when I was a brother. Now I listen to your analysis. Damn it ! This is digging a hole for me!"

"That's right, they are just digging holes for you." Ning Youguang said, "Where there are people, there are 'self-shows' and right and wrong. What right and wrong? Those things that have nothing to do with me."

"I don't know." Xie Yizun was deeply shocked and puzzled, "What is my performance?"

"Self-performance is that some people like to wear their own masks to perform in front of others. In layman's terms, it means that many people participate in groups to perform their own self. They don't want to learn at all, or what Sample."

"I don't understand." Xie Yizun felt that the question was too deep.

"It's because you don't understand, so I'm telling you. In any group, in the future, if someone whispers to you other people's gossip, troubles, or their own affairs, you don't want to listen, because you are used to listening. Well, they come to you whenever they have something to do, the problem is that these things are meaningless things, they are all rubbish, you know? They don't really tell you as a friend, they are talking to you Treat you as a trash can, and, do they like to tell you, I only tell you this, so you must keep it secret?!"

"Yes." Xie Yizun thought for a while and said, "I have met several people like this recently."

"Pull it down, they've already told others about it." Ning Youguang said, "And you're used to treating them as trash cans, and when they have something to do in the future, it's only logical that you should be their trash can and listen to what they say Those messy things, the problem is to talk about other people’s things, the good ones are okay, the bad ones will have conflicts sooner or later, when there is a problem, they will be the first to push you who are stupid and have a sense of justice If someone goes out to block the gun, you will become a target among them, think about it, don't you?"

"That's right, but I have nothing to do with it." Xie Yizun reacted, feeling goosebumps all over his body.

"It has nothing to do with you, you will still be polluted by these crap, and you will have to spend time and effort to digest the garbage." Ning Youguang said, "You are not a god, how could you listen to their crap? If you are disturbed, you have the energy to play the piano, sing, or sleep well? You have to listen to what they say, and you are pushed to block the gun in the end? Are you stupid?!"

When Xie Yizun was told by Ning Youguang, sweat protruded from his forehead.

Proof--he's the fool.

"Who are they to you? Are you their counselor? Or a family member? What obligations and benefits do they have that deserve you to digest their psychological garbage? Isn't it? You have a lot of things you can't digest, right? "

"right."

He himself was hacked today! Two hot searches!

There are also competitions, which are also very stressful.

Where do you have the energy to take care of other people's nonsense? !

"That's it, understand?! There are many people who are too thoughtful and gossip. Let me tell you, one day you can't bear it anymore, or you don't want to listen to them when you are in a bad state. They You will think about it, and you will make up a bunch of new stories in your mind, thinking that all their troubles are caused by you not listening, and you are the chief culprit for making them unhappy. Listen to this logic, like what?

"Troublesome, like a crazy person." Xie Yizun was full of anger and swelled up.

"That's right, people who are unreasonable are crazy." Ning Youguang said, "The end of being crazy is that whatever you do is wrong anyway, he will always have a reason to think you are bad, you are free when you are full. , it’s okay to play this crazy game with him.”

"I'm scared, I can't afford it." If the two were chatting on WeChat now, Xie Yizun would definitely send his sister an emoticon pack of ugly refusal, expressing his mood at this moment accurately.

"The hotbed of self-reliance is the environment, which is the group. If you don't join their group and listen to their stories, they will naturally have no way to act in front of you." Ning Youguang said, "In the future, when others come to you If you can solve the problem, solve it. If you can’t solve it, tell the other party that I can’t solve it, or suggest them to see a psychiatrist. Otherwise, you will be involved, and the matter will be more complicated. Moreover, if you don’t listen, the other party will have no audience and no mirror. , their ego can’t continue to act, they will stop. But if you are willing to listen, they will continue to act, there is no turning back, and they will make more troubles.”

"I see." Xie Yizun felt very tired, "Why are these people so crooked in their three views, can't they do something serious?"

"It's because they are not focused on business that they are so crooked." Ning Youguang peeled off the skin of these ghosts and snakes to his younger brother, "Don't try to be the savior, don't pity them, you know? We are not God, some people have wrong views, no matter how kind you are to help them, it’s useless, you’ll only get yourself involved, the world of adults just sees through and doesn’t tell the truth.”

"Ah?" Xie Yizun scratched his head, "Some people are really pitiful."

"Really poor people, of course we can help." Ning Youguang said, "The problem is that some people just have a pitiful appearance and are not really pitiful. When he comes to you for help, you point out the problem to him, and he will Said you hurt me, you didn't point out his problem, he said you dislike me, what you do is wrong, if you don't do it, it's still wrong, and in the end you become the mistake itself. You need to know, you are with them , It’s not about who is right and who is wrong, but about learning, the competition is coming, right? Learn to recognize human nature, and you will be able to be yourself and not cause trouble for yourself.”

"Sister, it's a good thing you reminded me today." Xie Yizun felt the creeps all over his body now, "These people are really scarier than ghosts, I decided to stay away from them."

Otherwise, he would have been dug and buried by others, and he would not even know how much money he paid.

"You want to stay away from them." Ning Youguang knew that the eye drops for his younger brother were almost finished, so he softened his tone, "But you want to keep your heart away from them. When you need to meet, you should You should be polite to them when you are polite to them, do you know why?"

"why?"

"The more polite I am to you, the less I want to have anything to do with you." Ning Youguang said very gently.

But when Xie Yizun listened, he felt that every word in this sentence was a knife.

Speaking of this, Ning Youguang felt that the interpersonal relationship lessons he taught his silly brother today were about the same.

So he laughed and said, "Other people's opinions and suggestions cannot determine what kind of person you become. What you say and what you do determine what kind of person you become and what kind of life you have. The next beautiful second It’s time to start, delete all these unhappy things, and use your time to do infinitely meaningful things.”

"Okay." Xie Yizun's voice was calm and powerful, obviously listening to her words.

Ning Youguang smiled and asked again, "I sent you flowers, did you receive them?"

"Ah? Did you send the flowers this afternoon? That beautiful bunch of lotus flowers." Xie Yizun thought of the flowers he had randomly thrown on the table before and threw them into the trash can when he was about to go back, sweat profusely on his back several layers.

"Yes, I know you've been under a lot of pressure from the competition recently, so I want to send you something nice." Ning Youguang smiled, "Do you like it?"

"I like it!" Xie Yizun felt lucky that he didn't lose the flower, "I'm going to find a vase to raise it now, and there are lotus pods on it."

"The lotus pods can be eaten." Ning Youguang said with a smile, "The lotus flowers and lotus pods I sent you were bought when I saw an old woman selling them on the side of the road when I went to work in the morning. They are very fresh. The grandmother who sold the flowers said that her husband picked them from the pond contracted by her family early in the morning. I tasted them when I bought them. The lotus pods are very fresh, and the lotus seeds are very sweet and delicious.”

"I'm going to eat now." Xie Yizun got up and rushed into the dormitory.

"Eat more to extinguish the fire." Ning Youguang smiled, "When you are unhappy, look at the beautiful scenery and flowers, let your heart be more beautiful, and don't think about unhappy things."

——"If a person's heart is not filled with flowers, it will be covered with weeds."

...

When Xie Yizun ran back to the dormitory, he saw that the dormitory was very lively, everyone in this dormitory was there, and people from other dormitories also came to visit.

I already know that there are many things here.

He didn't want to talk to them at all, and went straight to the flowers on the table when he entered the door.

However, when he walked to the table and saw the messy lotus inside, he immediately turned dark, "Which of you touched my flowers?"

The people who were chatting in the dormitory all looked at him in surprise when they saw that Xie Yizun came to see the flowers and were still very unhappy——

"Is there something wrong with this flower? Didn't it come from a fan?"

"Yeah, I heard you say you were going to throw it into the trash can."

"We all moved, thinking you didn't want it, the lotus pod on it looked fresh, it would be a pity to throw it away, so we picked it off and ate it." 1314