Chapter 713 Good Advice
It just so happened that she didn't want to stay at home doing embroidery. It would be nice to have something to do after her mother talked about the virtues of women. Looking at the ice bowl brought by Aunt Bai, Zhang Yishan's eyes were bright.
Seeing her daughter's eagerness to give it a try, Zhang Yiren felt helpless. This girl's temper was probably hard to change.
Seasonal meals cannot be delayed. Since it was agreed, Zhang Yiren sent his wife to take Wenyou and Du to the shop on East Street, which was close to the moat. On weekdays, many people went to the river to enjoy the cool breeze and take a walk. The busiest place in the county.
Seeing that Zhang Yishan wanted to get up and follow her, Bai Yunxi waved to her and asked with a smile,
"Yishan shouldn't get involved in cleaning up the shop, so as not to get into trouble. I made a lot of ice bowls in the morning, so Yishan might as well send some to Dean Zhang, so that he can cool down and have the energy to teach the students. "
After listening to Bai Yunxi's suggestion, Zhang Yishan blinked, turned to look at her mother covering her mouth with joy, her heart moved, and she suddenly felt like she was enlightened.
"This is a good idea. The richest children in the county are studying in the college. They memorize and write down strategies every day, and their hair is about to be pulled out. If this ice bowl suddenly cools down, it will definitely attract people to grab it."
The more I thought about it, the little girl felt that she had guessed the essence.
"Mom, Aunt Bai is right. My dad is working too hard. I have to give him an ice bowl to cool him down, so that he won't correct any naughty student's essay and his forehead will burst into flames.
As soon as he finished speaking, he immediately called Ginkgo, took the remaining ice bowls with him, and headed straight for the college in a mule cart.
Zhang Yiren looked at her daughter's turbulent state and shook her head helplessly.
"I have spoiled my daughter. I want to discipline her, but I don't want her to suffer. But I don't know if it will harm her?"
Every time she wanted to restrain herself, she would see the girl staring at her aggrievedly, either trying to be nice or being angry and ignoring others. After a few times of making trouble, she was quite tired.
I silently comforted myself that my daughter was pretty good except for being lively and active. As long as her in-laws were not too harsh, she should be able to tolerate her.
It is said that a loving mother often fails, and she can understand this sentence very well now.
Baiyunxi was very emotional when he heard Zhang Yiren's worries.
"We are all mothers. How can we not feel sorry for the flesh that falls off our bodies? I think Yishan is very good, with a lively and smart personality. Compared to those arrogant girls, Yishan is a good girl who is loved by others. "
Although she is a fake mother, she is not as exaggerated as she said, but with the name of my mother, she is naturally willing to see the children happy and smooth, and with less trouble, she can be more relaxed.
"As for the future husband's family, there is actually nothing to worry about. With the reputation of Sister Yiren and Dean Zhang, they will definitely attract a noble son to Yishan.
During this period, when choosing a husband for your daughter, nine out of ten people will worry about her daughter encountering a difficult mother-in-law instead of worrying about her son-in-law.
Because once the girls get married, according to the custom of the male taking charge of the outside and the female taking charge of the household, the daughter-in-law and mother-in-law will get along day and night. If the two cannot get along, and the word "filial piety" is placed above their heads, the daughter-in-law will definitely suffer and be wronged.
It is for this reason that those who have daughters prefer a son-in-law. As long as the mother-in-law is easy to get along with, they can agree to the marriage.
Listening to Bai Yunxi's comfort, Zhang Yiren looked at her gentle face and felt very relieved.
"Thanks to your good words, Yunxi, my husband and I have nothing to ask for in this life. We only hope that Yishan can meet her beloved, and then we will be satisfied... Even though you and I are called sisters, I won't hide it from you, Yishan is My only daughter."
"I grew up doting on her. Now that my daughter has grown up, there are some people we want to marry, but I have blocked her. Yishan's child's personality is indeed a bit lively, and she needs time to restrain herself."
"When a woman gets married, it's like being reincarnated for the second time. I'm always unsure. My husband always says that I think too much and make people anxious. He also said that children and grandchildren will have their own blessings. Yishan has a kind heart and will definitely meet a good person. People. That’s what I say, but I’m just a child. If she doesn’t live well, what’s the difference between digging out my heart?”
"So, after thinking about it, I think it doesn't matter even if the man's status is lower. As long as he treats Yishan sincerely, my husband and I will use our family's strength to help him achieve success."
Baiyunxi: "..."
It's so hard for parents to feel sorry for themselves. No matter what era they live in, there is no parent who doesn't want their children to be well.
After talking about it, Zhang Yiren's face looked a little unnatural, probably because she had never told anyone this so heartfeltly.
"Yunxi, what do you think of my idea? Can it help me find a good husband for my daughter?"
Listening to Zhang Yiren's inquiry, Bai Yunxi was stunned for a moment, having a vague idea in her mind, but she immediately shook her head and denied it.
"Sister Yiren has a motherly heart, which is Yishan's blessing and touching. Since sister Yiren asked me, I don't treat myself as an outsider and have two different opinions. If there is something wrong, please don't take it off. "
"If anything, it's too late for me to thank you, so how can I blame you?" Zhang Yiren put the handkerchief on the corner of her mouth and gave her a look.
"If that's the case, then I'll show off."
Bai Yunxi put down the tea bowl, looked up at Zhang Yiren, and spoke gently,
"When it comes to children's marriage, in addition to paying attention to the parents' orders and the matchmaker's words, the most important thing is that they are well-matched... Saying this sentence may make many people look down upon me and think I am worldly. But I feel that I am well-matched. Especially important.”
After listening to Bai Yunxi's suggestion, Zhang Yiren raised his eyebrows.
"I would like to hear the details."
" In addition to having similar knowledge and living habits, two people of equal status also have similar social circles. This alone can reduce a lot of unnecessary troubles and misunderstandings. If they encounter difficulties, the families of both sides can work together and the difficulties can be easily resolved."
"If the status is very different, the balance will be lost, and one party must be responsible for poverty alleviation. Whenever there is something, whenever there is a difficult matter, only the strength of the family can be used to help. It is difficult to support one tree alone, and over time, many contradictions will arise."
"Our ancestors have a saying that we should marry high and marry low. In our countryside, it is also popular to raise your head to marry a girl and lower your head to marry a wife. This saying can be passed down to this day, and there must be a reason. But sister Yiren wants to lower her head to find a son for Yishan, so she should be cautious."
Bai Yunxi said, seeing that Zhang Yiren listened carefully, she simply said all her thoughts. As for whether she would agree, it depends on each person.
The most important thing she said was the last sentence, which actually made her wary of poor students.
It is undeniable that those poor students are very good and outstanding. However, since they have no backing and want to stand out, most of them have some utilitarianism.