Chapter 1076 Father and Son (V)

Schiller, standing in front of the window, closed the curtains. A hoarse voice came from behind him: "Doctor, what's wrong?"

"Nothing, it seems that a meteor just flew over." Schiller shook his head, turned back, and said to Robert lying on the bed: "Since the appearance of Iron Man, there have been more and more meteors over New York. I hope that the couples in the college will never know that the meteor they are looking forward to may just be a failed crash."

Robert on the bed looked much better in spirit, and even smiled once because of this joke. Although his expression was still a little stiff, it was because he took sedatives.

"I'm sorry, Robert, because of your powerful ability, you must take sedatives during medication, otherwise, once you go crazy, everything here may be destroyed." Schiller sat back next to the bed with a notebook in his hand.

"Of course, doctor." Robert lowered his head, looked at his hands and said, "Since I have this ability, I have always been causing trouble. Sometimes, I can't tell whether I did it on purpose or just lost control of my ability..."

"In fact, when I don't have this ability, I always get into trouble." Robert seemed a little sleepy, but he seemed to have something to say. He said, "It's almost Christmas, right? I remember that the Christmas before I left home, the atmosphere in the room was not even as good as that in the ward."

"What happened?" Schiller asked.

"I don't remember." Robert shook his head and said, "But it was just some small things. Maybe I didn't fly to the nearest airport for him to pick me up, or maybe I brought back a girlfriend he didn't like..."

"Who is he?"

"My dad." Robert said, twisting the sheets with his hands. Schiller looked into his eyes and said, "You never told me about your family. What kind of person is your dad?"

"Just like all fathers in the world." Robert gave a general answer, but then he added, "I hope I can do everything according to his wishes and live a successful life, regardless of whether I want to live such a life or not. . "

"From your attitude, you are unwilling to do it?" Schiller poured Robert a glass of water, but Robert shook his head slightly and said: "He is a successful person recognized by the society. There is nothing wrong with such a life."

"The only bad thing is that since I was three years old, he hopes that I can live like him. Every word and every move must conform to the childhood behavior of a successful prosecutor."

"It seems that he has put a lot of pressure on you."

"In fact, I never know what he wants me to do." Under the influence of the sedative, Robert's thoughts were a little trance, but this made him say what was in his heart: "Maybe, he himself doesn't know that he wants me to What to do...”

“He succeeded, so I thought that as long as I followed the path he arranged, I would also succeed. However, the path he took was not arranged by others, and there was no rule in it. ”

“So, sometimes, he asked me to do this, and after a while, he asked me to do that. The tone of command and serious attitude were exactly the same, but the things he asked me to do were completely different, even opposite. ”

“He said I shouldn’t smile frivolously, but should be steady and serious, but he also said I shouldn’t be cold to classmates and teachers, but should express myself lively. ”

“He said I should have a sense of responsibility and justice, but he also said I should be flexible and adaptable. "If I can't do it, he will say that he did it that way, and he succeeded with this ability. If I really learn his behavior, I won't be so stupid..." Robert closed his eyes and said in a dry voice: "He often gets angry for no reason, asking me if I think he is not worthy of being my father, asking me if I like my mother more because my grandfather is richer, asking me if I look down on him..." After Robert fell silent, Schiller sighed deeply. If he were to judge, Robert's father's personality was typical enough to appear in textbooks, and the same was true of his failed education. "First of all, this is not your fault." Schiller looked at Robert, setting the tone for the matter, and then said: "Your father is not educating a child, but educating the failed self."

Robert was about to speak, Schiller nodded and said: "Indeed, in terms of social class, he has achieved a relatively high status, but this does not mean that he is not a loser."

"Your father is very proud of his current achievements, and no matter who he talks about this, he emphasizes his success, but what he didn't say is that he still has too many unsatisfied desires."

"These desires may be too big to be satisfied, or they may destroy his perfect image if they are spoken out, or they may be morally ashamed to speak out, but in fact, he is not as satisfied with the status quo as he appears."

"But he can express his desires in another form, which is to 'educate' you."

"He built up the self-esteem that he failed to build on you, and beautified his unspeakable greed into expectations for you."

Robert turned to look at Schiller, who crossed his fingers and placed them in front of him, then said: "And he didn't do this to others, only to you, and it's not because he loves you at all, but because you are a child, you can't resist, and you can't even tell the difference."

"He used the perfect life that he thought he should have in his mind, and the abilities he thought were needed to achieve this perfect life, to guide you now, which is neither correct nor selfish."

"To go deeper, he thinks that he didn't get a perfect life because of bad luck. He thinks that if he starts over again, he will definitely be able to make up for his regrets and be more Success."

"He thinks you are his chance to start over again. He firmly believes that he has already got the answers to the test paper of life, and he must ask you to fill in the answers according to his answers. If you don't do this, he thinks you are ungrateful."

"But in fact, if he really has the ability to answer every question correctly, he would have lived the life he wanted long ago."

"The answers he gave are actually made up of his mediocre life. These experiences are not the correct answers. You can't get a high score even if you answer all the questions step by step."

"But he won't believe all this." Schiller shook his head and said, "He will only become more and more dissatisfied with you, thinking that you are useless, so you got the correct answers but still can't answer the questions correctly."

"Even if you are a robot without any emotions, you can't answer the questions correctly according to his answers. When he copied every step he said, but still didn't get the success he wanted in the end, he would only say, 'Why didn't you have your own opinion at that time? '."

"He held a 60-point test paper, and not only did he ask you to answer 60 points, without any mistakes, but it would be best if you could have a sudden inspiration and burst out with inspiration under the 60-point educational background to help him correct it to 90 points. If you can't do it, he will just think you are useless."

Robert looked at Schiller blankly, then he wiped his lips awkwardly, lowered his head and clenched the quilt and said: "This is simply magic..."

After speaking, he suddenly raised his head, stared at Schiller with wide eyes and said: "Doctor, about my father, there are often some fragments circling in my mind, and I have no way to integrate them ..."

"But what you said just now is like a flawless, pinching these fragments together, and even expressing them more concisely and accurately. Is this your superpower?"

"This is just psychology." Schiller looked down at the notebook in his hand and said, "And the second thing I want to tell you is that your family education situation is not a special case. This is even a typical case that can be written into textbooks. There are too many people with the same situation as you."

Robert opened his mouth wide, and after a long while, he slowly said, "Is it really not my bad luck?"

"Your luck is indeed not very good." Schiller pushed his glasses, looked at him and said, "Your father's performance is more extreme, but many people's parents have such symptoms, but they are not as obvious as your father's."

"...Symptoms?" Robert repeated the word.

"Yes, this is actually a typical psychological problem. It is not a simple sentence of "I hope my son will become a dragon" or "I hope my child will take fewer detours". It can be understood. This requires enlightenment and treatment. ”

“But now, I am lying in the hospital…”

“Just because there are enough patients who have not received treatment does not mean that there is no need for treatment.” Schiller shook his head and said, “The reason why this has not been taken seriously is that the victims are children, who have almost no voice.”

“When your father is moody and wants to control you, can you go to the hospital and tell the psychiatrist, ‘My father may be ill, please treat him’?”

“Even if the doctor believes it, no one around will believe it, because he is an adult and you are a child.”

“In short, education has a threshold. It requires patience, perseverance, knowledge of pedagogy, a certain understanding of child psychology, firm views, consistency, and unity of knowledge and action. However, there is no bullying. You just need to be uneducated.”

Robert clenched his fists and said excitedly, “This is exactly what I want to say! ”

“When I was young, whenever I didn’t do what my father said and was blamed by him, I didn’t even have a way to explain. What he asked me to do was impossible to complete, or he didn’t even explain it clearly, and no one would listen to my explanation…”

“Over time, I felt that it was really my fault. I thought, anyway, I can’t be as successful as him, so I might as well be a bad person, the kind that is extremely bad. Seeing him angry and disappointed, I will feel happy because I have successfully avenged him. ”

“But the people around me turned around and blamed me, saying that I have such a successful father, but I am so unlearned, saying that I don’t know how to cherish it, and how many people don’t have a decent background…”

"Okay, don't get excited, Robert." Schiller began to comfort Robert, who was speaking faster and faster. He said, "Remember the two points I told you? First, it's not your fault, and second, you are not the only victim."

After hearing Schiller's last words, Robert gradually calmed down. After a while, he slowly said, "What about others?"

Schiller looked at him quietly, waiting for him to make the point of this question more clear, but to Schiller's surprise, Robert asked, "Have you said these words to others? Do they know these two points?"

"Unfortunately, no." Schiller shook his head and said, "So far, I have only encountered your case, but there are many tragedies of family education."

"Then why don't you let more people know?" Robert asked.

"I just analyzed the cause of your problem, and a good psychologist should provide a solution." Schiller said as he stood up, walked to his desk, opened the drawer, took out a book, handed it to Robert, and said:

"This is a book I wrote before. The content of the book is not important, but the title is important."

Robert followed his words and looked at the cover of the book. The cover design was very simple, even a little too simple, because there were only a few words written on the beige cover.

Robert read those words out loud:

"'Learn to speak well'?"

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