Chapter 1106: Heavy Hammer for Beating Drums

Wang Yan looked at the text of He Minhong's editor criticizing Yu Chuhui in the mobile phone memo and returned the phone to her.

Looking at He Minhong who was expecting recognition, he smiled and said: "Yu Chuhui said before that her father was irresponsible and basically didn't take care of the family. He also took money from the family. Her mother was used to being bullied and bullied whoever she caught. Zhenzhen also told me before that I heard that Yu Chuhui brought her mother here this time because her father beat her mother again.

At that time, you said that the wind would not stop even if the tree wanted to be quiet, and the son wanted to support his parents but did not wait. Criticizing Yu Chuhui's statement that he would bring her mother to Shanghai when he had money, saying that how much money is considered rich, Nothing is better than taking it in early. She just took the person in, right? "

"Yes, but I didn't expect that Yu Chuhui's true colors would be revealed after just a few days of taking the person in. Isn't this just out of the wolf's den, and into the tiger's mouth? She..."

Wang Yan waved his hand and interrupted her: "You just said to think from another's perspective, so did you do it?"

"I did, I just looked at it from her mother's perspective, Brother Yan." He Minhong said it very seriously, with his chest puffed out, and he was righteous.

Wang Yan was a little amused, but he couldn't say that he was stupid. This was because He Minhong's cognition was limited, and her ego made her think that what she thought was what she thought. She only believed what she thought and thought that what she thought was correct. But what she showed was the stupidity that cost people's lives, which made people feel angry.

"So you would rather go back to your hometown and be beaten by a man, not be liked by your parents-in-law, and be bullied by relatives and friends?"

"Of course not, Brother Yan, I just said that Yu Chuhui's behavior towards her mother is not fundamentally different from her father's behavior. They are both oppressing her mother. Yu Chuhui is wrong to do that and say that. There should be a better way."

"Okay, then tell me what the better way is."

"She can communicate. What can't she say nicely? Why yell and not let her mother contact the family and say such hurtful things? Her mother is an adult and has her own ideas. She can make the decision. Yu Chuhui, as a daughter, should respect her." He Minhong said it as a matter of course, as if she was the only right.

"Are you sure you understand the conversation between Yu Chuhui and her mother?"

"Brother Yan, I'm sure!" He Minhong pouted, a little unhappy. She already felt that Wang Yan didn't think what she said.

"Okay, you said you respect Yu Chuhui's mother's choice, so now her mother's choice is to go home. And if she goes home, she will be beaten, have to do hard work, be bullied, and be unwelcome. You are Yu Chuhui, will you let her go?"

"Of course not."

"Then you also heard her mother calling home behind Yu Chuhui's back. Yu Chuhui's father is not a good person. He must smoke and drink heavily. Not only did he beat her mother, but Yu Chuhui was probably beaten a lot in the past. Can you figure it out?"

"I understand, Brother Yan, but we are all family..."

"Such social news is not good. Yes, the parents are partial, favoring sons over daughters, and abused their children when they were young, and when they are old, they want their children to support them. You should have seen how the old man was a jerk in the past, right? They are also a family. "

"But the news on the Internet are all about a few incidents, and the current ones are all unscrupulous media, taking things out of context and exaggerating the facts. Other people's families are other people's families, and Yu Chuhui's family is Yu Chuhui's family. They can't be generalized, Brother Yan. Analyze the specific situation and seek truth from facts. This is what you and I are talking about. Brother Yan, what do you want to say..."

He Minhong's logical chain is clear and her mind is clear. If you don't consider the specific incident, her words are quite reasonable. But obviously, considering the incident, she is brainless and only self-wishful.

"Yu Chuhui's father is not a good person, you have no objection to this, right?"

"No."

"Then if Yu Chuhui's mother calls him and reveals the address here, his father comes to make a scene, what do you think you should do?"

"No, right? They are all family..."

"Analyze the specific situation, don't compare the family harmony and good family conditions to Yu Chuhui's family. Based on the current understanding, do you think it is possible for Yu Chuhui's father to do this?"

"I admit that there is this possibility, but it may not be possible?"

"You are a third party who has nothing to do with the matter, is it possible to gamble on your wishful thinking? Yu Chuhui's father came to the door and blocked the door, what would you do? Find security? Is it useful? Call the police? For this kind of thing, just criticize and educate him. If he plays rogue and comes back, what can you do? What if he gets bolder and beats you up? What will you do? ? Cry? Call your parents?

By then you will have been beaten up so badly that your face will be deformed. What's the use? This is called foreseeing danger. Do you have to wait for the red light when crossing the road? Do you know the danger of running a red light? Do you have to slow down when driving through an intersection and drive defensively to avoid accidents? If you see someone committing crimes on the road and wielding a knife, shouldn't you think that if you act bravely, you may be stabbed to death?

The degree of danger is different, but the meaning is the same. You were secretly photographed and you didn't dare to defend your rights. At that time, you said you were not sure, so you hid behind like a turtle. Now you are sure that Yu Chuhui is unfilial, and you are oppressing her mother with the same kind of harm, and are ready to criticize and condemn her? Is it because you know that strange men can hurt you, and Yu Chuhui will not beat you up? Right?

You still didn't listen to what I said to you before. "

He Minhong lowered his head and said nothing, with his lips pursed, as if he was about to cry at any time. He was not strong enough, and was scolded by Wang Yan, feeling wronged.

"Cry? Are your tears so worthless? You cry about everything? Do you have to go back and call your parents to ask for comfort after crying? Xiao He, you are an adult with sound intelligence, mature body and normal mind. Your parents are getting old and will die eventually, and the man you marry may not be reliable. People rely on themselves after all, and you have to grow up on your own."

Wang Yan was impatient to listen to He Minhong's bullshit, so he said.

"I just tried to guide you, but your attitude was not good and you were very impatient. But are you showing your impatience to me? What obligation do I have to tolerate your little emotions? Is it because I didn't agree with your point of view as you imagined, and you think I don't understand you again and just say useless nonsense, right?

I won't guide you anymore, I'll tell you directly. Yu Chuhui's family conditions are not good, you know. Yu Chuhui's father is a man who doesn't want to make a living and beats women, you also know this. Then you know that her mother has been beaten for so many years, suffered for so many years, and been disliked for so many years, why is she still in that family?

To put it bluntly, she has no opinion. She is not like you, nor like your mother, who is educated and knowledgeable. She can write her name horizontally and vertically, which is very good, this is limited by culture. They The family is still poor, but was it rich before? In the past, there was a general preference for boys over girls, and the village was poor, so she dropped out of school after a few grades and started working for the family early. This limited her knowledge.

When she went out, she couldn't tell east from west and north from south, and couldn't understand the road signs. She was nervous when asking for directions, and had to prepare herself mentally for half a day. After searching for a while, she finally found someone who looked kind, and she was embarrassed to talk to him.

She had been treated harshly for so many years, and she had become accustomed to accepting it. When people are oppressed for a long time, they easily become numb. She was used to being beaten and scolded, and she was not at ease when she was told that she had to be beaten and scolded. She was not a masochist, but she had been beaten into a masochist for so long. She was a woman, and no one led her to revolt. And she had no idea, so she just There is inertia over the years.

She thinks that if she goes home, she will be beaten and scolded, and she will be disliked, because that is the life she is familiar with. Shanghai is too big, the consumption here is high, and there are no acquaintances here, which makes her feel at a loss.

Yu Chuhui grew up in such a family. She is either a punching bag or aggressive. You have seen everything about her. Of course, she can't let her mother go back to suffer, but her mother doesn't listen. Her mother secretly calls home and is still thinking about going back to suffer.

Why secretly call? Yu Chuhui must have changed her mother's phone number and deleted the address book before. There must have been many calm and earnest exhortations, just to prevent her mother from thinking about going home. But her mother still did it secretly and still wanted to go back.

But her mother still did it, you can understand That kind of despair? Ignorance, stupidity, and regret that someone is not as good as you think. No matter what I say, I can't make her understand my painstaking efforts.

You can think about this feeling a hundred years ago. The people at that time were oppressed and exploited. The awakened and progressive people wanted to change this situation. They went to reason with the people around them, trying to make people understand and let everyone resist together. But what was it like at that time? You should understand it after reading so many books? Even if you don't like to read those books, you are a liberal arts student, you have studied history, and you have taken ideological and political courses.

So don't say that there is no such person or such a thing.

People's patience is limited, and people have emotions. Just like you are impatient with me, you can be impatient with me, and when your family members are unhappy, don't you yell the same way? Otherwise, it's cold violence, not talking, and not communicating. Yu Chuhui's temper is even more explosive. She is disappointed with someone who is not as good as you think, feels helpless, and is a little emotional when talking to her mother. That is understandable, isn't it?

As for what you said, there is no essential difference between Yu Chuhui's treatment of her mother and her father's treatment of her mother. It is unfilial to say that Yu Chuhui oppressed her mother under the banner of doing good for her mother.

But whether it is Yu Chuhui as a daughter or you as a third party, you should have a basic understanding. That is, staying here, although there are no acquaintances, but whether it is living conditions or her own living conditions, it is better than going back to her hometown.

And in this matter, either go home and get beaten, or stay here, there is no third choice. The gentle way you imagine has no room for display. It's like I talk to you, I try to guide you, but you are impatient and may not listen. You are still educated and knowledgeable, so think about how hard it is for Yu Chuhui to communicate with her mother. This goes back to what I said just now, how can you think that Yu Chuhui has not communicated well with her mother?

Don't talk about friends or relatives. If they are really useful, Yu Chuhui's mother would not have been beaten for so many years. Poverty may be due to region, skills, and various reasons. But getting beaten isn't the point, is it?

So you are wrong again now. Your empathy is based on your wishful thinking. It is not a real empathy. I admit that you are not Yu Chuhui, nor Yu Chuhui's mother. No one can be another person, so no one can really empathize. But the most basic thing is that you should see and think as much as possible, and be more empathetic.

Instead of only seeing what you want to see and thinking about what you want to think. What I told you about overcoming yourself and defeating yourself, in addition to giving you the courage to face some things and stop escaping, is that here you have to jump out of the inertial thinking that you have developed.

When Yu Chuhui's mother came here, you basically heard the quarrel between them, and you should know the cause and effect. Since you know it, you can still take it for granted and criticize and condemn Yu Chuhui according to your wishful thinking. I can't understand why your brain circuit is so strange.

Xiao He, you are not the center of the world, and the operation of this world is not moved by you. The cause, process, and result of things are not as simple as your wishful thinking.

You just criticized the unscrupulous media, saying that they took things out of context. What you did today is the same as them. You also took things out of context and criticized Yu Chuhui for this. I told you before that the hot events on the Internet, the group of netizens who condemned them righteously in the comment area. Your current behavior is the same here, there is no difference.

You read books, watch movies, and dramas all day long, occasionally listen to concerts, and go to some reading clubs. Your life is very refined. But I think your personal cultivation has not kept up. You are always wishful thinking and always criticize and condemn others under the banner of morality. It’s okay to be simple, but being simple all the time is a problem.

You don’t know about suffering. You always indulge in fictional stories. You think that’s suffering. But in fact, living is. I suggest you put down your books, go to the train station, go to the hospital ward, and if conditions permit, you can also go to the western region. If you are interested, you can also go to the streets to do social surveys. After that, you will know what suffering and difficulty are.

This can solve the problem that you don’t know the suffering of the world and the overflow of holy hearts. But you have no responsibility, and even some selfish problems, so you need to change slowly.

You criticized Yu Chuhui, which can be said to be a public outcry, but you did not assert your rights when you were secretly photographed. At that time, you were in a hotel, there were surveillance cameras, and Ye Zhenzhen and the others were also there, and you were not alone. In this situation, you did not have the courage, but found some excuses for yourself to have a blank mind.

Now, from the things you know about the relationship between Yu Chuhui and her mother, the truth is clearly shown, but you insist on taking the unconventional path, receiving information one-sidedly, and criticizing and condemning Yu Chuhui.

This is not to explain away ignorance of the ways of the world, or being naive. Because you can stop rushing to criticize, but go and talk to Yu Chuhui. You may think that you have a bad relationship with Yu Chuhui, and she always bullies you. At that time, Yu Chuhui was angry, and if you ask her, she will use you as a punching bag.

But you didn't even ask, how do you know? Even if you use her as a punching bag, what's the problem? Hasn't she always been against you? Since you are planning to criticize her, is it necessary to care about this one more time? Before you sent the bunch of text you wrote, you could have thought that Yu Chuhui would definitely scold you.

Even if you didn't ask at that time, you could have asked two days later when she was in a better mood. Or you could have communicated with Zhu Zhe and let Zhu Zhe understand the details. Do you think Zhu Zhe would reject you? Even if she rejects, she will tell you why. Instead of complaining to Zhu Zhe and seeking approval, she didn't respond, you were unhappy, thinking that she was cold-blooded, bound by the shitty human relationships, and unreal, so now you come to me to seek approval.

Words always have two sides. Your behavior can be said to be kind, or it can be said that you are doing it for self-satisfaction, which is selfish. You may deny it, but you don't have to explain to me, you have to question yourself. It is important for people to know themselves. Do you think you have self-knowledge? You don't, but you feel very good about yourself. Don't you realize that in fact, Ye Zhenzhen, Zhu Zhe, and Yu Chuhui, the three of them, have not really opened their hearts to you? "

He Minhong had been crying for a long time, but she had been holding it back. Now that Wang Yan had started to cry, she finally couldn't hold it back anymore, and burst into tears...

"Hold it back!"

Wang Yan's low voice frightened He Minhong. She pursed her lips, twitched her shoulders, and tried to sob quietly. She didn't dare to cry loudly anymore. She looked at Wang Yan pitifully with tears in her eyes.

She choked and said, "Brother Yan, I know you are doing this for my own good, but I didn't expect that I would be so unbearable in your eyes..."

"Have you ever thought that it was only me who didn't care about your feelings and said it very bluntly, rather than you being like this only in my eyes, but others didn't say it. After all, we are all in society, and we all have our faces to save. We don't want to make things too awkward unless it's absolutely necessary. Many times, people won't turn their faces on you after you say something. They will just silently pass you by, classify you as a bad person, and stay away from you.

You must not have many friends in the company. The people working with you are just dealing with you. No one talks to you too deeply. Your leader must also dislike you. I guess you think that your music is too high to be appreciated by many people. They are all vulgar people. Only you are persistent and self-moved. You probably didn't listen to what I just said to you. It went in one ear and out the other. You just know that I am scolding you and I hate you a little, right? "

"No, Brother Yan, I know you are doing this for my own good. No one has ever told me what you said before."

"What's the use? I told you, wasting a lot of my saliva, but you still didn't listen and still did your own thing. Your dialectics are all used on others, and they are useless on you. You came to me today, otherwise Yu Chuhui would definitely be blocking the door and scolding you. Shut up and think twice, you haven't learned anything at all.

In order to avoid wasting my saliva, I recorded what I said to you just now. You must be thinking without thinking right now. When you have calmed down, you can listen and reflect on it. Of course, it is up to you whether to listen or not. I have done my best. Okay, go back. Don't cry with me. It makes me upset. "

"I'm sorry, Brother Yan."

"You are not sorry for me, you are sorry for yourself. Your tears are worthless, and your sorry is the same. Go. "Wang Yan waved his hand, unwilling to say more.

He Minhong's sobbing did not stop, and tears still flowed out like money. Wang Yan's words hurt her heart, and Wang Yan's attitude made her unfamiliar, but she still knew that Wang Yan was doing it for her own good.

She still had some brains. After all, Wang Yan was such a big boss. If he really didn't like her, why would he say so much to her. This was something she had understood long before, but now she didn't have the brain to distinguish...

She sobbed, but stood up obediently, holding the book and slowly walked to the door.

"Then I'll leave, thank you, Brother Yan, you have a good rest..."

While crying, she didn't forget to thank him, which made Wang Yan laugh.

It was this smile that made Wang Yan more patient, and He Minhong saved himself once.

A heavy hammer is used to beat the drum, but He Minhong's brain is limited and his ability to bear is also limited. For He Minhong, his heavy hammer this time seems a bit heavy.

Although he, Wang, is a nanny, he is also impatient to wipe people's ass all the time Butt, it's okay if it happens once or twice, but if it happens more often, he will get annoyed. Because it's not worth it, he doesn't like people who don't make progress.

Just like He Minhong, this time he talked a lot of reasons and pointed out her problems, but she still didn't improve, so he had to change his way. As I said, the task is not dead, it can be flexible.

But the way He Minhong left was very funny. If it were an ordinary person, he would probably laugh out of anger. But Wang Yan really laughed, he thought it was quite interesting, after all, such people are rare.

He Minhong made him feel happy for a while except for that little thing, so he didn't hesitate to be more generous.

Shaking his head and smiling, Wang Yan sent the recording to He Minhong, then threw it aside, and continued to listen to music and read books leisurely...

Zhu Zhe was curled up on the small sofa in the living room reading a book, and saw He Minhong coming back, lowering his head, choking and shaking his shoulders, and went back to the room.

She immediately asked with concern: "Honghong, what's wrong with you? ”

“I just hate myself for not living up to expectations, I’m so stupid. Sister Zhu, you don’t have to worry about me, I can just cry by myself…”

Sobbing, He Minhong returned to her room in a depressed mood, and then covered herself with the quilt and cried.

Soon, Yu Chuhui from the next room came out and came to Zhu Zhe quietly: “What’s wrong with her? Who messed with her again?”

“I don’t know, she just said she was going upstairs to change books, and she was like this when she came back.”

“Ah?” Yu Chuhui widened her eyes and whispered, “Could it be that Wang Yan is beastly…”

“No.” Zhu Zhe shook his head and interrupted, “Wang Yan is not that kind of person, and I don’t think He Minhong is abnormal, she just cried a lot. Let me ask Wang Yan.”

As she spoke, she picked up her phone and sent a WeChat message to her Wang Yan, but after a few seconds, she shook her head.

Yu Chuhui asked curiously: “What did he say?”

“He said he didn’t need to pay attention to He Minhong. "

"I guess it must be Wang Yan who taught He Minhong a lesson again. He Minhong deserves to be scolded, and Wang Yan speaks very directly. He can point out the key to the problem at once, and he doesn't hide it. How can He Minhong's fragile little heart bear it? She will cry and complain to her parents. Wang Yan is such a free and easy person, he will definitely not indulge her bad habits. "

Hearing her words, Zhu Zhe thought about it, and a flash of understanding flashed in his eyes, but he changed the subject: "Auntie, did you coax her?"

"Coaxed her, I coaxed and scared..."

The two chatted for a while, and then they did their own things again...

The next day, after exercising and breakfast, Wang Yan packed up and got on the elevator.

"Oh, it's rare, you are going to work today?"

"Good morning, brother Yan."

The elevator door opened, and Zhu Zhe and Yu Chuhui were waiting for the elevator.

"Come with me." Wang Yan nodded with a smile.

"Ah, it feels so good to get a ride. He Minhong rides Zhenzhen's bike every day, and Sister Zhu can occasionally ride Brother Yan's bike, but I'm the only one riding a shared bike." Yu Chuhui sighed.

"It can't be helped, it's just a coincidence." Wang Yan replied without any nutrition.

The elevator was very fast and only stopped twice on the way. It took a few words to reach the first floor. After meeting Yu Chuhui again, Wang Yan took Zhu Zhe to the underground parking lot. Today, he changed to Paramela.

Playing nice music, Wang Yan started the car, got out of the garage, merged into the traffic, and joined the crowd of people going to work during the morning rush hour.

"Did He Minhong tell you about Yu Chuhui yesterday?"

"clever."

Zhu Zhe let out a sigh of relief: "Actually, she told me before that it was inappropriate to condemn Yu Chuhui's actions, but I changed the topic and didn't let her continue."

"Well, just don't let her say it, otherwise you will cause trouble for yourself."

"So you scolded her? In fact, Honghong is a bit naive. Her ideas are too ideal, but everything else is pretty good and she is quite enthusiastic."

"She's not innocent at all, she's just selfish and has two different standards for others and herself. I also said a few more words, but it's up to her whether to listen or not." Wang Yan picked up his phone and dug through it, finding yesterday's recording, " In order to prevent her from taking what I said as fart, I also recorded it, please listen to it. "

"I'm indeed quite curious." Zhu Zhe smiled, took the phone and listened.

After listening to it from beginning to end, she shook her head with emotion: "No wonder she cried so hard. She seemed to have cried herself to sleep. For her, what you said was a bit harsh. It wasn't her. I would have been If you talk like that, my little heart might not be able to bear it."

"You're fine, I can't say anything about you."

"Thank you." Zhu Zhe gently put away Wang Yan's cell phone and said with a smile, "You are a really nice and enthusiastic person."

"It's just that I can't stand it. I don't care whether she's happy or not. I want to hear it or not. I just want to have a clear idea. But don't say I'm a good person. Being a good person costs too much and the requirements are too high. I'm really not qualified. "

"That's the good and bad guys."

"Don't fall in love with me. Ye Zhenzhen has put the name of a scumbag on my head now. Fortunately, I didn't have to die after running the marathon last time. I used to be a scumbag. She really gave me such a note. of."

"You and Zhen Zhen are quite compatible, but I'm not good enough for you. I still have some self-awareness."

"I can't match the word match. If you really want to say it, I am more philanthropic and will match up with anyone." Wang Yan laughed, "Don't belittle yourself. There is no such thing as unworthy. You She is a good woman..."

"No, even if I can match it, I don't dare to. I can't afford it."

"Where are you thinking? I am really a scourge in your eyes?"

Zhu Zhe blushed a little and said sheepishly: "Isn't this just nonsense..."

"It's confirmed. I'm a scourge in your eyes. Oh, my heart is so cold." Seeing her look, Wang Yan shook his head in amusement, and stopped teasing her, and said instead, " You are still a little less lively, unlike Ye Zhenzhen, who can’t say more than three words to me but has to go three ways to say hello.”

"How can I be active? I am exhausted every day. Now the competition is getting more and more fierce..."

Zhu Zhe walked away, and then talked to Wang Yan about some of her current difficulties.

After chatting happily all the way, Wang Yan drove to Zhu Zhe's hotel.

Zhu Zhe was careless at first, until he saw a man holding a bouquet of flowers not far from the hotel entrance, and said incomprehensively: "Why is he here?"

"Who?"

"Ex-boyfriend."

"Oh, he's holding a bouquet of flowers. He looks quite polite. I'm here to get back together with you."

"We haven't contacted him for eight hundred years." Zhu Zhe shook his head in amusement, "Just stop in front of him. There is no way to escape him anyway."

Wang Yan smiled, stepped on the brakes, and slowly stopped in front of Chen Zufa.

This Chen Zufa is the one who cheated money in the play. He wanted to defraud Zhu Zhe into marrying him, but he changed his target before he could deceive him. It was quite troublesome...

Chen Zufa looked at the luxury car parked in front of him in confusion, looked at Zhu Zhe who got out of the passenger car in confusion, and looked even more confused at the tall Wang Yan who got out of the driver's seat.

Seeing Zhu Zhe coming over and standing with Wang Yan, he forced a smile and said: "Zhu Zhe, long time no see, what are you..." He looked at Wang Yan and asked about the relationship.

"Can't you see? Isn't it obvious? Of course he is the boyfriend." Wang Yan put his elbow on Zhu Zhe's shoulder.

Chen Zufa's eyes widened and he looked at Zhu Zhe who was nodding and smiling, with a look on his face saying 'you deserve it'. Zhu Zhe understood. She looked up at Wang Yan beside her and raised her eyebrows, "What do you think I am doing?"

Wang Yan didn't say anything, he just reached out and took the flower from Chen Zufa's hand: "Brother, what do you mean?"

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