I Still Have to Take a Leave...

Going to the graves to worship the ancestors does not take up much time.

But there are many relatives...

What is even more annoying is that the relatives are not very reliable...

The customs here are not complicated, it is just a very common ancestor worship process.

We agreed to set off at 9:30 in the morning.

When everyone was gathered, it was already 10:30... a waste of an hour.

Then the two uncles were a bit outrageous...

Every year, these two go to my aunt's place to worship the ancestors, and that is the large cemetery area in my family, so there must be traffic jams.

(Yes, every time they take a large family to go to other people's ancestral graves... I don't understand.)

When they finally arrived at their own ancestral grave, it was already after 1 p.m....

This is outrageous enough.

After all, according to custom, going to the graves to worship the ancestors should be completed before 12 p.m....

This is not the most outrageous...

The next is the outrageous beginning.

When the whole family goes to the graves to worship the ancestors, my family needs to prepare food and money for the ancestors.

(Originally, this had nothing to do with my family. We should have prepared our own offerings, but they chose to "take" some of them.

For the sake of face and friendship between relatives, my family simply prepared a little more, which may have contributed to this unhealthy trend.)

Next, we will go to another cemetery. (This is the ancestral tomb of a distant relative)

It's not that they are so kind, but this distant relative who I don't know how to talk about is rich...

Or the type of extremely rich, they are not in their hometown and can't come back.

It was handed over to my two uncles. (It's okay if we don't see any of the benefits they give.

But it seems particularly excessive for our family to pay for the money and offerings needed for the worship. Of course, the method is still to take without permission.

It's a bit harsh to say that it's stealing, so let's use "taking".)

When a round of worship is over, and then I return home, it's after four o'clock...

I'm from the northwest, my family is not in a big city, and the cemetery is in the Gobi desert.

Strong wind and strong sun, we have to endure the wind and sand all day long.

There is a cement factory next to my ancestral tomb... Every time I go to the tomb, I have to take a long detour. (Of course, my ancestral tomb came first and then the cement factory)

Well... The road over there feels a bit like climbing mountains and crossing ridges.

Anyway, I have to carry the objects for worship and climb those sand dunes with one foot deep and one foot shallow... I always get hurt when I go to the tomb to worship my ancestors, which is also the reason.

My family is ruthlessly swept away by them, and I have to feel bad every time.

This experience happens four times a year...

And every year, I have to realize the truth of "poor in the city, no one cares, rich in the mountains, distant relatives" many times.

Ancestor worship itself is just a matter of expressing grief.

As a result, they have become filial sons and grandsons of other people's families.

The problem is that the distant relative is rich, but can he spend the money?

Moreover, can their worship of other people's ancestral tombs make the rich relatives grateful?

Do we want the ancestors to tell them in their dreams, "Oh, look how many times they come to worship every year. You should give them money."

That doesn't make sense.

No matter what, it's still a matter of seniority and closeness. How can we leave our own ancestral graves and not follow customs to be a filial son and grandson for others?

Of course, it's their business if they have an agreement with that relative or can get money.

What bothers me is not that they got some benefits but our family didn't get a share.

Our family has never asked them for anything.

Why do we have to make things difficult for our family? ?

Isn't it better to prepare what others need? Isn't it better to go to their ancestral graves?

They don't prepare tributes, but take them from us without asking. Is this dissatisfaction with our ancestors?

I really can't accept this kind of thing logically.

"If you are young and don't respect your brothers, and if you are old and don't have anything to say, ___________!"

It's really exhausting.