Chapter 650 You Are the Practitioner of Happiness

Ning Youguang approached Purple Tulip gently and said, "I don't know what kind of life is perfect."

"ah?"

"You don't know what kind of life is perfect, so we can't find a reference object when we go to the third dimension."

Li Qing and Jiang Wei had the same surprised faces.

"The fact is like this." Ning Youguang shrugged, "I really don't know the definition of a perfect life."

Li Qing thought for a while and said, "I always think your life is perfect."

"Sweeter than the sweetest idol drama in the world." Jiang Wei also nodded.

That's why she and Li Qing were curious.

Ning Youguang thought for a while and said, "I don't think my life can be defined as an example of a successful life and a reference standard for others to strive for. Everyone's definition of a 'perfect life' is different. There is no way to define it, just like the thing 'happiness' is different for every independent individual."

"I understand what you mean." Jiang Wei said.

Li Qing also said, "Otherwise, tell us, how can we get along as well as you and your family?"

"I want to hear it too." Jiang Wei said, "There are so many failed marriages and sexual relationships."

This is a common social phenomenon.

She can choose to be single, but that doesn't mean she will refuse happiness.

If she could really get the code of happiness from her old classmate Ning Youguang, the "model of success", why would she not do it?

"How to handle an intimate relationship, emotional experts have interpretations on this issue." Ning Youguang smiled.

"No, most of those bricks are big fools." Li Qing said, "I just trust you, and I want to hear what you say."

Jiang Wei also nodded, "You are more reliable."

"You really think highly of me." Ning Youguang said.

"You are too modest, sister." Li Qing.

"Really modest." Jiang Wei agreed deeply.

Ning Youguang shook his head and laughed, "It's not about modesty, it's because I really think my daily life is a very ordinary one."

"Okay, okay." Jiang Wei said, "Then, please let the fairy share with us a very common way of getting along with each other?"

"I don't want to talk about this kind of unreasonable love anymore." Li Qing said, "Why don't you go straight to get married next time."

"But please don't!" Jiang Wei and Ning Youguang were taken aback, "Dating is not good, but don't think that marriage will be good."

"Oh——" Li Qing said, "I know, that's what I said."

"Scared me to death." Jiang Wei stroked his chest, "Don't just get rid of one trouble, and then invite a bigger trouble."

"No more." Li Qing said, "It's just a little hilarious."

"Preferably." Jiang Wei raised his glass.

Ning Youguang smiled, "Let me ask you a question, first."

"You ask." Li Qing.

"Under what circumstances do you think you would want to fall in love and get married?" Ning Youguang asked.

Li Qing was very touched by this question, "I like a person so much that I want to integrate with him and be together forever, like being called by a mission, it's not my brain whether I want to be with him or not Together, but my heart and soul felt that this person must not be missed, and then it was together."

Jiang Wei replied, "Probably because I feel that I can become better with the other party."

Ning Youguang asked again, "Will you compromise and make changes for each other in your relationship?"

Li Qing said, "I hope the other party can tolerate me."

Jiang Wei, "It depends on the situation. For the time being, I'm not willing to expend too much energy to correct my self."

"Rationally speaking, we should all try our best to find safe people to get along with." Ning Youguang said clearly, "But maintaining a marriage or a stable emotional relationship is the same as dedicating oneself to a certain mission. It is a process of changing ourselves. , intimacy is also a struggle between each person's egos."

"Okay, you mean we haven't entered into a stable emotional state yet." Li Qing.

"The struggle between ourselves?" Jiang Wei said, "You mean that we searched and searched, and in the end we found ourselves in each other."

Ning Youguang nodded, "According to my observation, many people's emotional failures are because they made mistakes when they made decisions, and they didn't understand that the most important problem to enter into a long-lasting and stable relationship is to get married or fall in love. What."

"What is it?" Li Qing asked.

"It's whether they are willing to give up their control over their lives for the sake of marriage." Ning Youguang said, "The fact is that no matter how good the other person is, as long as they are tied to each other, they will restrict each other's personal freedom. Whether the two can do a good job in personal education depends on whether they are willing to be changed. Some people may understand that the best way to change a person is to love each other. Better. But if the other party wants to change you like this, can you accept it? In a good relationship between the sexes, both must lose part of themselves and give way to each other. Relationships are more important than individuals, and this is the secret of emotional happiness."

——"In the process of getting along with each other, they were slowly changed and became a better person."

"So we are still too selfish." Li Qing and Jiang Wei looked at each other, "So there is no way to maintain a long-term intimate relationship with someone."

"'Accept', 'change', and 'let go' are enough to solve all relationship problems." Ning Guan said, "Accept what is acceptable, if you can't accept it, then change, if you can't change, then let go, all roads lead to Rome, the road to happiness is the one that does not take the road that does not work."

"It sounds very simple from what you said." Li Qing said, "But I feel that I will still encounter various problems in practice."

"I know the truth." Jiang Wei also said, "But in practice, I will still be defeated by various unexpected problems, so I feel that falling in love and getting married are really troublesome." 1314