Chapter 897 On the Impact of Self-Esteem and Vanity on Contemporary College Students (5K)

Chapter 898 On the impact of self-esteem and vanity on contemporary college students

"I think it's correct." Jiang Hang replied without thinking.

As soon as Jiang Hang said this, Zhao Xiongfei immediately expressed his opinion, "I think it's wrong!"

Director Zhuang looked at the remaining two people, "Hu Xiaotian, Zhu Hong, where are you two?"

Hu Xiaotian thought for a while and said hesitantly: "I, I think this is a bit not good."

As for Zhu Hong, he was afraid of offending his roommates, so he simply said vaguely: "I don't know, I feel it is wrong but it is not wrong." Anyway, it is the same as not saying it.

Director Zhuang also knew that the main conflict was between Jiang Hang and Zhao Xiongfei, who did not agree on this matter. \b

To resolve conflicts, we must prescribe the right medicine.

"Jiang Hang, please first tell me why you think it's right. \b" Seeing Hu Xiaotian standing, Director Zhuang unceremoniously pulled Hu Xiaotian's chair over and sat down.

“Some people feel that poor students cannot drink milk tea, use iPads to buy new clothes frequently, save money to buy mobile phones, or travel like their classmates.

It seems that after receiving bursaries and inspirational scholarships, these students' expenses and quality of life can only meet the minimum standards.

Isn’t the purpose of the money given to poor students by the state to improve the living standards of poor students?

Mobile phones are a must, and tablets can be used to assist learning. How can you receive a bursary or inspirational scholarship and become an inferior person?

Those who accuse poor students of using this bursary and inspirational scholarship to buy mobile phones and tablets probably think that the poor students do not know how to be frugal and that they do not deserve to enjoy the same life as themselves, right? "

Zhao Xiongfei also thought about it and knew that Jiang Hang's words were directed at him. He was very angry. He directly retorted and said: "I'm afraid that the level of yin and yang of Brother Gou has reached the maximum, right? It's a discussion, and it's too much to criticize him. Already?"

Jiang Hang wanted to say something else, but Director Zhuang spoke first.

Director Zhuang said with a serious expression: "Jiang Hang, what you just said is indeed a bit excessive. How can you say this if you are a roommate?"

Jiang Hang also knew that what he just said was inappropriate, so he snorted and said nothing.

Zhu Hong and Hu Xiaotian sat quietly, while the other leaned against the cupboard. The two of them consciously became the background wall and did not dare to participate in the conversation. The quarrel between the two was already intense enough, and adding two more people would not be enough. Come on.

Director Zhuang seemed to have thought of something, his eyes were complicated and he felt a bit self-blame.

He said slowly: "Let me tell you a true story. In 2016, when I first came to Shanghai University as a counselor, I led two classes, and there was a girl named Wang Xi in the class."

"Wang Xi was born into a wealthy family in a third-tier city in the north, but she was unlucky. When she was a freshman, Wang Xi's father got involved in all the business because of gambling. Usury loans were everywhere, and the house was mortgaged. Until the debt collectors Wang Xi's mother found out about this when someone came to her home.

There is a father who is addicted to gambling, and no matter how much money he makes, he will lose everything. Wang Xi's parents divorced, and he lives with his mother and younger brother. After this incident, Wang Xi's monthly living expenses became several hundred. Because Wang Xi also had a younger brother who was studying to support, she had to start desperately looking for part-time jobs to earn living expenses.

Wang Xi used to like broadcasting and hosting, and she also had some talent in this area. She would take on some commercial performances and host and dubbing recitals. At the same time, she worked as a tutor, raising children in Mandarin, etc. She earned a lot of money, and she bought an Apple mobile phone.

By her sophomore year, there were more courses, and Wang Xi had fewer opportunities to work part-time. For one month, her mother did not give her living expenses. She also knew that her family's conditions were not as good as before, so she relied on her previous savings to eat one meal a day. The meal lasted.

After waiting until the national bursaries and national motivational scholarships were issued, Wang Xi had 8,000 yuan in hand. Plus her savings, she used the money to buy the camera she had longed for. In addition, she planned to take the postgraduate entrance examination and bought an iPad and a pencil to prepare for the exam. .

At the beginning of her junior year of college, between professional courses and postgraduate entrance exams, Wang Xi had no time to go out to work part-time, but it was okay. When the bursaries and motivational scholarships were issued, the money would be enough for her to study peacefully for a year.

But the accident still happened. "

At this point, Director Zhuang sighed slightly.

"What happened next?" Hu Xiaotian listened intently, and when he saw Director Zhuang stopped, he subconsciously asked.

Director Zhuang looked at Hu Xiaotian and continued: "Wang Xi passed the national scholarship and national motivational scholarship that year. Although she worked part-time here and there before, her grades were very good and she was among the top ten in the class. But this time , Wang Xi was reported because she went out to play every day, used luxury goods, and wore famous brands.”

"I am Wang Xi's counselor. When encountering this kind of situation, I will definitely talk to Wang Xi. Then I will investigate with Wang Xi's roommates and classmates, and I will also issue a lot of certificates. It was at that time that I found out about Wang Xi's situation. I understand, but no matter how many procedures she went through, Wang Xi’s poverty qualification was still canceled by the school because she had an iPhone, an iPad and a digital camera.”

"Wang Xi had a mental breakdown after her scholarship and national scholarship were cancelled, because the whistleblower wrote down the purchase time of her mobile phone, iPad, and camera very accurately in the letter, with an error of less than a week. Even her bag was I know all the brands.

She felt like someone was watching her life, including her every move. "

"She talked to me and said that she had been having nightmares, insomnia, loss of appetite, hallucinations, and wanted to commit suicide since the day she was reported. She cried when she walked on the road every day. When she went down the stairs, she saw someone next to her. On the patio, I thought that it would be over if I jumped down, and I wouldn’t have to suffer so much. Even when I was crossing the road, I felt like I could see my own body in the middle of the road. I still listened to the class well, but I couldn’t hear what the teacher said less and less.

She didn't want to go to the classroom or stay with her classmates. She was afraid of each of them, afraid that they were the ones monitoring her life. She was always nervous when sitting in the classroom, and she even thought about whether she would make a move. What will others say. "

"I advised her to see a psychiatrist, but she refused because she had no money. I wanted to help her, but she was the kind of person with a strong self-esteem, so I wrote an IOU, lent her a sum of money, and took her with me. Check it out at the hospital, get the medicine, and let her pay it back to me after she works.”

"Wang Xi didn't come to me much after that, and I thought the matter was almost over and didn't pay attention anymore."

Director Zhuang slowly exhaled a stream of turbid air, his throat surged up and down, but the rest of his words seemed to be stuck, unable to come out.

Hu Xiaotian felt itchy in his heart and quickly brought a bottle of unopened mineral water to Director Zhuang.

"Director Zhuang, what happened to Wang Xi in the end?"

Director Zhuang calmed down after drinking some water. His face was calm and he said:

"Wang Xi committed suicide."

"Suicide?" Hu Xiaotian's pupils shrank suddenly and his fingers trembled. He could not accept this result.

Jiang Hang and the other three fell into silence. When the counselor stopped talking, they had this idea vaguely.

"Why commit suicide just because bursaries and motivational scholarships have been cancelled?" Hu Xiaotian said in confusion: "This is totally inappropriate. There is no need to commit suicide just because of eight thousand yuan!"

Zhao Xiongfei analyzed: "The main reason is that the eight thousand yuan was a huge blow to her, and the report induced her inferiority complex."

Zhu Hong couldn't help but said: "She shouldn't have bought an Apple phone, computer and camera in the first place, otherwise she wouldn't have been reported."

Jiang Hang subconsciously wanted to refute Zhu Hong's point of view, but stopped when he thought of Wang Xi's story.

Director Zhuang suddenly asked: "Do you think the whistleblower's behavior was right or wrong?"

The scene became quiet for a moment. Hu Xiaotian scratched his head and said helplessly: "I think the reporter was not wrong, but I can't tell whether he is right or not."

"It should be right..."

"I think it's wrong, because this Wang Xi is a really poor student, and his bursaries and motivational scholarships should not be cancelled!"

"Hard to say."

"The whistleblower is actually not wrong," Director Zhuang shook his head and said, "You can buy some expensive things, such as cosmetics and computers, while working, but your teachers and classmates at school cannot know the source of funds for buying computers. Cosmetics may be idle fish Yes, the computer is second-hand. But there is no way, because everyone wants money, and the country has taken many measures to ensure that these truly poor people can get money.

Judging whether a person is poor is basically based on fixed assets and quality of life. The latter is often judged on mass necessities such as mobile phones, computers, and cosmetics with huge price differences. Suppose you have a classmate who has very good academic performance. In his sophomore year, he applied for a bursary or motivational scholarship for poor students. But this person uses an Apple phone, buys an iPad and a camera, and goes shopping every day with a small ck bag on his back.

Do you think such a classmate will be a poor student? "

"Definitely not. I live on 3,000 yuan a month and don't have a camera." Hu Xiaotian felt that Director Zhuang's words made sense, and what Wang Xi did was indeed inappropriate.

Jiang Hang asked angrily: "Director Zhuang, poor students are human beings too. Why can't they use iPhones?"

"I'll give you a straight answer: No."

Director Zhuang looked directly at Jiang Hang and said in a deep voice: "I know that Jiang Hang, the people in your dormitory are all from relatively good families, and they think that the iPhone is just a 'mobile phone', but for many poor families, the iPhone , cameras are undoubtedly unnecessary luxuries.”

“Study grants are not travel grants, nor iPad grants, nor camera grants.

The original intention of bursaries is to alleviate the family burden of poor students, because students usually have no income-generating ability or have very low incomes. The money provided to students actually affects a family. As for how much students’ families give to students and how students spend it, this kind of thing needs to be improved through education, and the function of the poverty relief system itself in this aspect is downplayed. Therefore, the poverty of poor students is more concerned with the families of poor students rather than the poor students themselves.

For example, there are many impoverished villages in a place. In order to lift people out of poverty, the country has allocated a poverty alleviation fund to each village. Other villages are busy building roads and learning breeding and planting techniques. But one village is not like this. Qian, built a small square and invited a singing and dancing team to perform every day to enrich spiritual and cultural life. Then the villagers said that they just like singing and dancing and don’t want to build roads. What do the national poverty alleviation units think at this time?

I definitely believe that there are ideological problems in the villagers, and we need to educate them first, and then alleviate poverty after correcting their ideological thinking. "

Director Zhuang sighed slightly and said: "Wang Xi received grants and motivational scholarships. He shouldn't use the money to buy iPhones, iPads and cameras. Cameras are not necessary. You can get into graduate school without an iPad. It costs one or two thousand. Android phones can still be used. The state sends this money to improve the conditions of poor families, not to satisfy her material desires. "

"It was pride and vanity that harmed Wang Xi."

The four animals in the dormitory were silent and lost in thought. Director Zhuang's words contained too much information.

Director Zhuang glanced at his watch, cheered up, stood up and smiled at the four of them, "Jiang Hang, Zhao Xiongfei, do you have the answer in your mind now?"

Jiang Hang scratched his head in embarrassment and said, "Director Zhuang, I understand. Maybe it's because I'm no longer a mince. What you said does make sense."

"Okay, now that your conflicts have come into contact, I'll leave."

Director Zhuang was turning around to leave when Zhao Xiongfei suddenly thought of something, shuddered, and quickly called Director Zhuang.

"Director Zhuang, wait a minute!"

"What's wrong? Is there anything else?" Director Zhuang stopped and looked at Zhao Xiongfei in confusion.

Zhao Xiongfei told Director Zhuang about Qi Xiangpeng's situation, and the expressions of the four people in the dormitory suddenly changed.

"Using the money from Guozhu and Guoli to buy iPads and iPhones, isn't this similar to Wang Xi's experience?" Hu Xiaotian took a breath of air. After all, Wang Xi was in Director Zhuang's story, and Qi Xiangpeng was by his side. classmate.

If Qi Xiangpeng does this, some classmates may report him this year or next year. If he encounters someone who has a mental breakdown like Wang Xi, then the tragedy will happen again.

Director Zhuang walked a few steps back and forth in the dormitory and said seriously to the four of them: "Leave Qi Xiangpeng's matter to me. I will go find him and have a good talk. Don't tell other students!"

Seeing Director Zhuang leaving in a hurry, Zhao Xiongfei touched his nose and asked his roommate beside him: "Does this count as saving Qi Xiangpeng's life?"

"After all, the matter hasn't been discovered yet, so it's hard to say."

"It's of some use after all."

…

Guanghua University, in the conference room of Guanghua Building.

The discussion on the Student Scholarship Management and Supervision Committee has almost come to an end. There is no video connection in this meeting, so there will be no intrusion like a kiss on the face. \b

"Director Gao will stay, and the rest of the meeting can be dismissed."

Several leaders who had good relations with Gao Jiawei looked at each other sympathetically. Being left alone by the principal is not necessarily a good thing. Working at Guanghua University now is like walking on thin ice. They don't dare to corrupt, don't dare to help others, and don't dare to do anything when they have tasks. Dare to be perfunctory.

Why don't you resign and leave?

That’s a lot of money!

Just like everyone apologizes for working long overtime hours, are they complaining about overtime work? no! You don’t get paid for overtime work!

If you complain before overtime is paid, it means you were underpaid.

If you pay 1,000 yuan for an extra day of work on weekends, or even two to three thousand yuan, are there still people complaining?

When only Gao Jiawei and Chen Hao were left in the conference room, Gao Jiawei asked anxiously: "Principal, is there anything else?"

"Director Gao, are you interested in the position of office director of the Student Awards Committee? Or do you have any suitable candidates to recommend?" Chen Hao smiled slightly, as if he was really seeking advice.

Gao Jiawei directly refused the position of office director of the Student Awards Committee without even thinking about it. This was a part-time role in his own job. There may not necessarily be rewards if you do well, and there will definitely be penalties if you don't do well. Why take on this troublesome job? things.

Gao Jiawei smiled bitterly and sighed: "Principal, my energy is limited. The Academic Affairs Office alone is already busy enough. I should not be able to handle this student awards committee."

"As for candidate recommendation..." Gao Jiawei paused and said: "Our Deputy Director Tang Shaoyuan of the Academic Affairs Office is young, energetic and capable. I recommend Deputy Director Tang to concurrently serve as the office director of the Student Awards Committee. "

"Deputy Director Tang, this is okay." Chen Hao read it over and nodded in agreement.

Just when Gao Jiawei had finished, Chen Hao's voice rang again.

"What about the deputy director of the office? Does Director Gao have any recommendations?"

Gao Jiawei was stunned for a moment, and when he saw Chen Hao's smiling face, he still didn't understand the situation and cursed secretly in his heart.

The principal has already chosen someone, but he just wants him to say it.

Since the office director is part-time from their Academic Affairs Office, the deputy director can no longer be from the Academic Affairs Office, and there are not many other options.

After more than ten seconds, faces from the Academic Affairs Office, Finance Office, and Admissions Office appeared in front of Gao Jiawei's eyes.

Gao Jiawei hesitated a little and asked in a low voice: \u001d "Teacher Tang Jiayi from the Academic Affairs Office is very capable and upright. I wonder what the principal thinks?"

Chen Hao agreed and said with a smile: "The candidates recommended by Director Gao are very good. I am very satisfied. Let's go with these two."

The name Tang Jiayi sounds very similar to Tang Jiafeng, a famous postgraduate entrance examination teacher, but this man is not very old, in his early thirties. He mainly has a very distinctive personality, and his temper is like a stone in a latrine, smelly and hard.

Gao Jiawei breathed a sigh of relief and asked tentatively: "Principal, can I... leave?"

"certainly."

Upon hearing this, Gao Jiawei quickly left the conference room like a college student whose school had been released from lockdown.

And Chen Hao was also ready to leave.

He is now satisfied with the handling of this student awards committee.

As the principal, he personally serves as the director of the Award Committee and is mainly responsible for management; Vice President Su Rui serves as the deputy director and is responsible for supervision.

Specific matters are left to the office of the Award Committee. Director Tang Shaoyuan is responsible for the management and implementation of the scholarship, and deputy director Tang Jiayi is responsible for the supervision and inspection of the scholarship.

Just after taking the elevator back to the office, General Assistant Su Bai reported on the interview. At this moment, a total of 14 domestic media wanted to give him an exclusive interview about expelling students.

After hearing this, Chen Hao directly asked Su Bai to refuse and not accept the interview.

By evening, a new notification appeared on Guanghua University's official website, official accounts, and groups of various colleges.

" x-on:All members, the school has officially opened a green cancellation channel. Those who do not meet the qualifications of poor students but have passed the bursary or inspirational scholarship can contact me or other counselors to apply for cancellation. Students who actively apply for cancellation within 7 days will have their applications cancelled. All qualifications such as first-class evaluation, outstanding evaluation, party membership, promotion, etc. within one year.”

"If the application for cancellation is not returned for more than 7 days, once found out, the student will be expelled directly without mercy!"

As soon as the news was released, the various college groups became excited again.

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