273, Mary Sue's Men 8

"Dad, how did you and your mother get together in the first place?"

When the original wife passed away, Yan Duojin, the eldest daughter, was already eight years old. For her mother, even if more than ten years have passed, she still has memories of the other party firmly stored in the depths of the sea of ​​​​consciousness.

In Yan Duojin's memory, her mother was a fiery woman, with a straightforward personality and a naughty personality. The Shan family's ability to have such a foundation now has something to do with her original efforts. In the family, the other party is also a A very good mother, even though she wanted a son because of old ideas, she did not ignore the daughters before them.

What's more, being able to make such an outstanding father miss her for half a lifetime and never marry again for the rest of his life is enough to prove the charm of the mother and the relationship between the parents.

"We were different from you at that time. There were only a few ways to find a partner, including introductions from parents, introductions from colleagues, and introductions from relatives. Only a small number of people found the partners themselves. At that time, it was not popular to fall in love. If you find the right person, , the family background is also suitable, you can make a decision and get a marriage certificate, and then your mother and I will be introduced by relatives. On the first day of meeting, the matchmaker got a positive reply from both parties. We went to a movie with her and went to the park on the third day, and then the marriage was decided. After that, the elders on both sides discussed the bride price and dowry, and after completing these procedures, your mother and I got married a month later. "

Yan Chu recited what he saw from his original memory exactly.

"Is it just a blind date?" Yan Duojin was a little surprised. In the past, his father rarely mentioned things about his mother. The sisters also thought that their father was afraid of touching the scene and hurting their feelings, and they paid attention to this in their daily conversations.

She always thought that if her father could stay single for the rest of his life for her mother, it must be because they had a vigorous relationship before. But now it seems that she is overthinking it?

"Then when you met your mother on the first day, did you feel like your heartbeat was racing and you felt love at first sight?" Yan Duojin couldn't help but ask.

"How can it be so mysterious?"

Yan Chu couldn't help but laugh and touched his daughter's head, "Your mother has many brothers and sisters. When she was young, she and the first pair of brothers and sisters were sent to her grandmother's house in the countryside. She didn't return to the city until she was old enough to find a partner. At that time, she was dark, had two braids, and was wearing a newly made dark blue shirt. She looked a little reserved. At that time, I thought she was not good-looking, and I wanted your grandma to take the lead in the middle. The celebrity on the line said, we don’t like your mother here.”

Although he said derogatory words, there was a warm and reminiscing smile on Yan Chu's face. Yan Duojin understood that even if his father did not like his mother at the beginning, he must have changed his mind towards her mother later, otherwise he would not act like this He talked about what happened back then in an unabashed manner.

"But it's different at your mom's place. Your dad and I were so handsome when we were young. I still had a high school diploma. On the day of the blind date, your breasts were well groomed for me. They looked so polite. Your mom just saw me. Her eyes were straight, and if you say it was love at first sight, I’m afraid she really was like that.”

"Dad, since you didn't fall in love with my mother at first, how come things ended between you two?" Yan Duojin asked anxiously.

Yan Chu patted his daughter on the shoulder and told her not to worry.

"Didn't I say it before? When we were looking for a partner, we looked more at family and the wishes of both parents. I didn't fall in love with your mother at that time, but your grandparents did. They thought your mother was strong and strong. , she is a diligent woman, and your mother has a cheerful temper, which suits your grandma even more. At that time, she always thought that I was meek and needed this fiery woman to neutralize my temper. Since everyone around me said that. Okay, I thought I would give it a try, so I made an appointment with your mother to watch a movie and go to the park to play. As we got along with her, I felt that your mother was just as your grandma said, she was a suitable person to live in, that is. I agreed to the marriage, and then we got married, and then we had you."

Marriage at that time was not that complicated. Just get married if it suits you. It doesn't matter what you love or hate. Just live life and have children. If there are no accidents, it will be like this for the rest of your life.

What Yan Chu told was completely different from the stories the sisters imagined about their parents. Yan Duojin lowered his expression and thought of himself with some sadness.

"Dad, what kind of feelings do you have for mom? Is it responsibility?"

Yan Duojin thought of herself due to her parents' marriage. At present, it seems that Yao Zhan is indeed the most suitable one for her, especially when the two families are now cooperating harmoniously. If they can really get together, it will also strengthen the relationship between the two families. Partnership, it’s a win-win thing.

She didn't seem to need to think about other, more complicated situations.

Yan Chu saw his eldest daughter's thoughts, couldn't help but sigh, and then straightened her sitting posture so that she looked at him face to face.

"In your mother's and I's time, relationships were mainly cultivated after marriage. Is there love? There must be, but for more couples, what supports their subsequent marriages is responsibility and family affection."

There are some lucky couples who find that the other person is the right half for them during their relationship after marriage, and love gradually develops. They are lucky. There are also some couples who do not fall in love with each other during their relationship after marriage. But a family relationship developed, and they supported each other and stayed together for the rest of their lives. These people were also lucky, and they were also the majority of their generation.

What tests the second half of the couple is their sense of responsibility.

In the 1970s and 1980s, material life had just been basically satisfied, and many people did not have the leisure time to pursue spiritual wealth. Husbands and wives lived around firewood, rice, oil and salt, and children and parents.

After the 1990s, people's material level improved, and entertainment life became richer. At this time, the test came.

Men disliked their wives for not being beautiful enough, not being able to dress up as women outside, and not being gentle enough. They only knew how to haggle over a dime or three cents, unlike women outside, who were knowledgeable, tactful, and gentle.

Similarly, women would dislike their husbands for not making money like other people's husbands, and dislike their husbands for not giving them a good enough life. Women whose husbands were good at making money might dislike their husbands for not having enough time to accompany them. Compared with the temptation of sweet words around them, today's marriages are lackluster.

At this time, they would think that the beginning of this marriage was just due to family arrangement, and it was just a compromise of living together. Breaking the shackles of this wrong marriage is the beginning of freedom.

Divorces began to become frequent and justified, just like the talented scholars in the Republic of China who proudly held their new and progressive new wives and said that they were not so proud and high-profile to their original wives who were married in a formal way. It was as if the original marriage was carried out with a knife on their necks, and they completely forgot the poor woman who was also suffering in this marriage.

At this time, responsibility becomes extremely important.

No matter how great the temptation from the outside world is, responsible people will remember who accompanied them through the difficult days, who gave birth to their children, and who followed them to honor their elders.

This world does not run only on love. In addition to love, there are other things worth sticking to.

It’s fine before you choose your other half. Since you have chosen it at the beginning, you should be considerate and understanding of each other in the future marriage, instead of putting a full stop to the marriage with the light words "I have no feelings for you" under the temptation of the outside world.

Yan Chu didn’t know whether the original body had ever loved his wife, but it was certain that he was a responsible man before the strange Zhong Xiaoduo appeared.

"But."

Just when Yan Duojin thought that her father was going to teach her that the most important thing in marriage is responsibility, Yan Chu suddenly changed the subject and said something else.

"In our era, we had no choice. Everyone said that you were not young anymore, so you had to go on a blind date and get married. Everyone said that the person was suitable for you, so you had to get married with him. That society was like that. You could not be unconventional, but could only live your life according to the plan."

Yan Chu pinned the fine hair on his daughter's temples behind her ears, and looked at her with an extremely loving look: "I like this era because it can accommodate more voices."

"I hope that when you bring your boyfriend to your father, it is because he is the person you like, not just a suitable person. I hope that one day I will hold your hand and hand you over to another man because you love him and want to marry him, not because others say that your age is not suitable for you. You are old enough to get married and have children. That is not right. "

"Dabao, Dad hopes that in your future marriage, there will be not only responsibility but also love."

Facing Yan Duojin's puzzled eyes, Yan Chu smiled and said, "Don't worry, Dad is very open-minded. If you don't find the one you really want to marry, then we will have a lifelong relationship. If one day you bring a girl back and say that she is the woman you like, Dad will also support you with both hands. But there is one thing, Dad hopes you remember, that is, don't get married just for the sake of getting married. Such a life of compromise is not what Dad wants to see."

Yan Chu didn't think that the kind of marriage that suits each other was bad, but because Yan Duojin was his daughter, he hoped that she would live a better life.

"Dad."

Yan Duojin's eyes were slightly red, and she couldn't help burying her head in her father's chest, and then hugged him tightly.

She felt that her father should know the troubles she had been entangled with recently, and the words just now were also the advice given by him as a father.

To be honest, marriage is not a rare thing in this circle. As early as when she decided to inherit the Yan family, Yan Duojin was ready to find a husband with a similar family background and good for the development of the Yan family. Yao Zhan is such a person. There is no like or dislike, just because the other party is suitable.

Just as Yao Zhan expressed satisfaction with her, it was just because of the union of interests.

But now her father's meaning is clearly that she just wants her to find a man she likes, rather than a husband who is good for the Yan family.

Yan Duojin feels that the luckiest thing in her life is probably to have such a wise and loving father.

The author has something to say: There are still three more updates, and I will still work hard tomorrow