Chapter 1620 Betsy's Teaching

Yang Dongxu is holding little Wenwu in the queue at the Municipal People's Hospital. The little guy didn't cover himself well when he went to bed yesterday, and he caught a cold because he was using air conditioning in the hot summer, which is not good for his health.

In terms of education, Yang Dongxu actually doesn't agree with Zhou Ya, who wants her children to compete for first place in everything. Bai Xi's absolutely elite education.

How old is little Wenwu now?

He hasn't started kindergarten yet. He just needs to be taught to count, a few ancient poems, and recognize some simple words.

As a result, Bai Xi has started to train the little guy to play the piano, saying that temperament is cultivated from childhood. In addition, she has also enrolled him in some infant and toddler tutoring classes.

Are children going to school now more crazy than in later generations?

In later generations, it is also when they are in elementary school, from elementary school to junior high school, from junior high school to high school, and from high school to college, that children's private time and hobbies will be madly suppressed.

Do children have to take extra classes now?

Yang Dongxu doesn't like Bai Xi's other elite teaching besides studying.

For example, when the little guy is sick, Bai Xi's first thought is a private doctor, which is understandable. But being surrounded by a group of bodyguards every time he goes out is actually a bit too much.

This reminds Yang Dongxu of the stars who were surrounded by three layers of people when filming in the future, and directly blocked the road in some public places.

The anger of being a poor loser in his heart almost burst out directly.

So just like being willful, Yang Dongxu took the little guy to line up to see a doctor.

Compared with the family doctor who came to the house to diagnose the child, then prescribed medicine and injections, the parents coaxed the child to sleep.

When holding the little guy at the party, although the little guy was a little depressed because of life, his eyes were still curious.

Yang Dongxu once again confirmed that Betsy's parenting style simply framed the child. She wrote all her hopes for her son and all her plans for his son's future into rules and regulations, and then let the little guy move towards his goal step by step.

"Knowledge must be learned. I don't object. It's always good to know more. But when you build confidence in your child, you don't build arrogance in him.

You can't let him think that he is a level higher than others, and that he is different from others when he goes out with luxury cars and bodyguards. You should let him have his own ideas and even his own wildness. What we need to do is to guide this wildness, not to restrain it and give him a new personality."

After getting the injection and getting in the car, Yang Dongxu said to Bai Xi next to him while holding the little guy in the back seat.

Bai Xi, who has always been obedient to her, pouted a little at this time, obviously not convinced.

Because she is quite confident in education. After all, the Bai family has been the third generation since her grandfather.

This education has always been fine. Even Bai An, who makes people feel a little useless, is good enough among ordinary people.

He is useless just because he is compared too much with the people around him.

Look at who he is compared with?

Bai Xi, a strong woman known as the Queen of Bai, and Yang Dongxu, who can be said to have started from scratch and can be on par with the head of a big family in his thirties.

Compare with others, not with Bai An's father who has no great achievements, but directly with Bai Lao.

As soon as he opened his mouth, he said, if you have half the ability of your grandfather, you can do this and that.

But is Bai An really so incompetent?

His undergraduate degree was obtained through real exams without any backdoors, and it was in the early 1990s. The undergraduate degree is very valuable, which is already top-notch.

Therefore, Bai Qian is very confident in Bai's educational philosophy, not to mention that the education of Xiao Wenwu is his upgrade of Bai's educational philosophy.

"Just like Wen Chen, educate them separately. You take care of the child's studies, and I will take care of the child's daily play and character development."

At this point, Yang Dongxu couldn't help but think of the scene where he and Zhou Ya argued about how to educate his son Wen Chen.

So he simply followed this routine and applied it to his son.

Since both parties felt that they were not wrong, they each took care of their own affairs.

"What's wrong with elite education? Not to mention those big conglomerates abroad, even in China, everyone wants their children to follow the elite route."

"I didn't say the elite route is bad, but you are obviously going too far. And you have to admit that the so-called elite route can only cultivate talents above the average level most of the time.

Do you know the comparison between the probability of truly top talents and the number of people going to prison?

The latter far exceeds the former, just because they are elites, they are more tempted. You can't let him feel that he is superior to others, and when he makes mistakes in the future, he still thinks that he is superior and there is nothing wrong with hurting inferior people. The worst thing is to pay money."

"I didn't train my son like this. He plays well with other children in kindergarten. He often visits other children's homes, and they also visit our home." Bai Qian felt that Yang Dongxu had distorted his own educational philosophy.

"You didn't educate him like that, but the environment you created for him is like that. And you planned everything for him, is it really what he wants?

Or is everything you planned for him now necessarily in line with the era when he grows up?

So I still say that I don't object to learning knowledge, this will never be outdated. But in shaping the character of children, your management is not enough for education, the child must be beaten."

"You let the child play wildly, take the child to chase rabbits in the field, go fishing, and let him play like a mud monkey. Is this education through beating?"

"I know you want to raise your child to be a gentleman and don't want him to be too vulgar? But do you know that sometimes being a bit of a rogue can actually lead to better outcomes and more comfort than being a gentleman?

Don't think that you have suffered a lot and suffered a lot of grievances. So I didn’t want my child to suffer these grievances and suffer, so I gave him all-round protection.

Such a child will have no future when he grows up, and don't tell me that you don't need him to have any future. As long as he is a gentleman and can live his life happily. All fools know that it is a crime to possess a jade.

And being a gentleman is your request for your child, and this request is not your original intention. It's just that a child who is a gentleman can show off to other parents and have people praise your son for his potential. "

"I didn't." Bai Qian shouted, but her voice trailed off as soon as she shouted. She glanced at her son, who was still sleeping in Yang Dongxu's arms, and glared at her man fiercely.

"Yes, but you didn't notice it. In fact, it's not just you, many parents of children have this problem. For example, if your child scores first in the exam, you are very happy.

Then other parents praise your child for being first, and you will feel more proud. Then he told his children to study hard and take the first place in the exam next time. This is actually mixed with personal vanity. "

"My son ranks first in the exam. Is it wrong for me to be proud?"

"That's right. I'm also happy that my son got first place in the exam. What I mean is, you can't force your child to get first place in the exam next time just because of this happiness. If he gets second place in the exam, you'll be cold-hearted and cold-faced.

As for this cold nose and cold face, in addition to the decline in the child's test scores. There is another parent whose child is the first in the exam and is smiling happily in front of you. Are you very unconvinced? Yang Dongxu asked.

"I know what you said makes sense, but isn't this human nature? And what's wrong with being a gentleman? Why should you act like a gangster when you can obviously be a humble gentleman?

I know what you're saying. Gentlemen tend to suffer. Sometimes gangsters do take advantage. But who told you that I only teach my son to be a gentleman and not to teach him scheming and tactics? "Bai Qian looked at Yang Dongxu like an idiot.

She is also someone who has experienced severe beatings from society. Doesn’t she know that gentlemen in this world suffer a lot?

She indeed hopes that her son will live a happy life, which is the common wish of every parent.

But she also understands that it is a crime to possess a treasure, and she is now starting to train her son to learn more, just to disguise and protect herself in the future. She will give her son the appearance of a gentleman, but she will also give him a knife.

"What you are talking about is the superstructure. What I am talking about is laying a solid foundation for my son. A person with an open-minded character and a strong will.

Only then can I include all the gentlemen and knives you want. Without strong enough nerves and an open-minded mind, do you know that if something is slightly wrong, the child's heart will become distorted?

You have been tempered by society, so you know when to be reasonable and when to use the knife.

Has he been tempered by society? You teach him how to be a gentleman and how to stab a knife at the same time. Such contradictory theories appear on a piece of white paper at the same time. Are you trying to make your child schizophrenic? "

"I'm not teaching them together. I'm just cultivating the child's knowledge base now, and I'll teach him step by step when he gets older." Bai Qian retorted still unconvinced.

"Do you know why the proportion of homosexuals with high education is much higher than that of ordinary people? Do you know the proportion of suicide and why the social elite is higher than the working people?"

"Uh" Bai Qian paused for a moment.

"Knowledge and personal recuperation, character, and three views are completely different things. But these things are related to each other and grow together.

It doesn’t mean that you only teach your children knowledge. What they gain is only their knowledge reserve. When learning knowledge, his age is growing and his character is maturing.

Every day when he goes out, he sees different people and encounters different things. These affect children all the time, and they don’t exist if you don’t teach them.

So you can’t ignore other aspects just because you want your children to learn knowledge. You can't teach your son to hold a knife just because you think he can learn to hold a knife.

Before you get it, why should you get a knife and when should you draw it. When is holding a knife more intimidating than drawing it? The foundation must be laid in advance.

It doesn’t mean that you feel that he is old enough to learn this, then plant a seed and water it and it will grow. There is a high chance that it will grow crooked. Do you know that he will chop with a knife without any scruples? "

"I teach knowledge. Every day my son knows a few words, which is visible growth. You play with your son and go crazy, and what do you teach?" Bai Qian was still unconvinced.

"Whether a person becomes a talent or not depends on how many poems I learned today and how much strength I will gain by learning that boxing technique tomorrow. The conditions are clearly divided.

Things must be learned, this is the basis. But the foundation is just the foundation. The accumulation of the laid foundations to cause qualitative changes is the key to success.

You can see Wen Chen if it is useful for me to teach my children this way. Zhou Ya would occasionally take him to teaching places during holidays.

When he gave his children toys, he never looked at them from a superior perspective. Instead, he played wildly with the poor children.

He would also donate his pocket money, but after the first time he donated all the 100 yuan pocket money Zhou Ya gave him.

He didn't eat ice cream for a month because the one hundred yuan was Zhou Ya's share of buying ice cream for him for a month. So when he donates for the second time, he will only donate 50.

Then he took the other 50 yuan to sell ice cream and eat it with the children. He was kind because not every child could give up half of the ice cream.

He also had his own selfish side, so he took 50 yuan to buy ice cream for everyone to eat together. He could satisfy his own craving while helping others.

You can say this is clever, or you can say this is not pure enough. But I think this is good, just help what you can. I admire such people who give everything, but I won't let my son be such a person. "

Betsy was silent.

Yang Dongxu continued, "What you are teaching now about civil and military affairs is to let him be a gentleman who will give the last dime in his pocket to a beggar even if he has only one dime in his pocket.

And when you teach him to hold a knife later, you will teach him that even if he has 1 million in his pocket, he will not want to give a beggar a dollar. Because the person holding a knife must be ruthless and selfish.

This kind of teaching is correct for ordinary people, because they start too low, and want to move up and break the class monopoly. Whether it is knowledge or force, extremes must be taken.

Because they need to have a skill to stand out from the crowd of ordinary people. My son doesn't need this, they don't need to go to extremes, because his father has given him the best starting point.

What he needs to do is that as long as he is not crazy and has a normal outlook, he can win by lying down. Of course, he must still hold the knife. Lying down to win is not to rely on old capital. When others attack, you must have the ability and strength to swing the knife.

But you can't train him to hold a knife. It's okay when he is a child. The child is about to enter the rebellious period of adolescence. Are you sure you can still suppress his personality? "

"I can't change the character of the child in the rebellious period, you can change it."

"I can't change it either." Yang Dongxu said.

Betsy rolled her eyes at him directly. What nonsense are you talking about if you can't change it?

"I can't change it, but I can influence it. For example, our son made a friend during his rebellious period. We all know that this friend is not good and ask him not to associate with the other party.

But he will definitely not listen because he is in the rebellious period. At this time, you can give him a sum of money first, so that he can be cool with this friend.

And after the money is spent, directly block his economy. Let him spend his friends' money. It's the loyalty of young people. If I have money, everyone can spend it. If I don't have money, can you give me money to spend?

When a friend spends our son's money but doesn't want to give him money to spend. He will see the person clearly. "

"The other party knows that our family is rich, and deliberately approaches our son and sets a trap for our son. Will you expose it so easily?"

"Then don't expose it, let him continue to cheat. If he is not satisfied with one million, let him cheat ten million. If he is not satisfied with ten million, let him cheat one hundred million.

With one hundred million, do you think he will leave our son directly to be a master, or continue to be a dog in front of our son?

He has me as his father. As long as his three views are correct, he has the capital to be cheated countless times and get up after falling. And the more the other party cheats in such things, the greater the success rate of our son's one-time transformation. "

Yang Dongxu raised his lips, revealing an absolute confidence.

Betsy glanced at her man and said nothing.

He didn't ask what would happen if he kept lying to his son for a lifetime?

Will his son never grow up?

Not to mention that his son might understand a lot of truths without the deception and beatings of society during his growth.

If you really encounter a situation where you keep lying, do you really think that Yang Shao, as your father, is a vegetarian?

Yang Dongxu has been low-key in recent years, but with such a huge family business, do you really think that Yang Dongxu is as harmless as he seems?

The various methods he learned from Grandpa Xuan since he was a child, are they really wasted?

The car fell into silence. After a moment, Yang Dongxu thought of something: "You are teaching your son so extreme now. It's not because I rarely come to accompany my son, so I use this method to manage my son, right?"

The more Yang Dongxu thought about it, the more he felt that this was possible. Otherwise, with Betsy's IQ, it seems that she would not do such extreme things.

Betsy was silent.

"Next time, just say what you want to say. Don't use my son as a chess piece to test. "

"Do you think I want to? How many times a year do you visit your son? You don't even spend as much time with Wenwu as my parents do?"

"Why don't you say that before Wenchen went to kindergarten, he was taken care of by Zhou Ya in my hometown, and I didn't spend much time with him in a year?"

"Humph." Bai Qian snorted coldly and said nothing.

Obviously she knew she was wrong in this regard, but she would still do it for her son.

A woman's mentality is definitely different from that of a woman without a child.

She didn't want to compete with Zhou Ya for her position in Yang Dongxu, nor did she want her son to compete for any family property, but this fatherly love cannot be partial to one and the other.

"Women's opinions, how can I not feel sorry for my son?" Yang Dongxu glared at Bai Qian unhappily.