Chapter 401 High-End Boyfriend

"Investment resources in the primary market have become scarce, so we can only follow their wishes and break our original intention to enter the secondary market." Yun Zewu added with a frown.

But the secondary market is very cruel, and enemies with a smile on their face are waiting to expose them in ambushes everywhere.

They are hunters themselves, but they are also likely to be the prey of the prey.

...

Taking advantage of the busy work coming to an end, Mochizuki just happened to be on a business trip.

Ning Youguang accepted Gu Xi's invitation and came out for afternoon tea.

In winter, the weather is fine.

The two met at Langyuan Park next to SJS, where there is a Jimu Cafe.

It is a coffee shop that Gu Xi has collected for a long time.

"Thanks to you, I can finally check in at Langyuan Park and Jimu Cafe." Wearing a khaki cashmere coat, Gu Xi sat in the passenger seat of Ning Youguang's car, feeling extremely happy.

"I'll delay your favor too, so you can come out for afternoon tea." Ning Youguang smiled softly.

The slightly drunken sunlight in the afternoon fell on the two of them through the car window, making them feel warm.

"No, this time we were able to make an appointment for afternoon tea, it's purely a blessing to drag Xueshen on a business trip." Gu Xi said with a respectful expression on his face, "Writer Ning Da is a busy person. He has to work 18 hours a day, so it's too difficult to make an appointment."

This year, she made an appointment with Ning Youguang countless times, but she failed to make an appointment.

Every time she asks her out, her first question is, "Is there anything important for you?"

Gu Xi didn't have anything important to do and didn't dare to argue with her.

Sometimes, when she has something to ask her, she wants to ask her out to meet, have a meal or something.

Ning Youguang can basically negotiate a video call with her, so he won't meet her.

After a few times, Gu Xi couldn't help being so depressed that he wondered if he really wasn't motivated enough.

Ning Youguang smiled, "My work this year has come to an end, I've been relatively free recently, Mochizuki is not on business, if you ask me out, I will come out too."

Gu Xi glanced at her, "What you said is true?"

Ning Youguang nodded slightly.

Gu Xi immediately said, "Then let's go eat hot pot next weekend."

Ning Youguang thought for a while and said, "Not next week."

Gu Xi immediately rolled his eyes, "Yes, yes, hmph!"

Ning Youguang smiled and said, "Mochizuki will come back next weekend, I have to help him tidy up the house."

Gu Xi sighed, "Teacher Ning is handsome, talented, gentle and virtuous, and is loved by such a good woman. The Xueshen must be the man who saved the Milky Way in his previous life."

Ning Youguang looked helpless, "How can I be virtuous? He has been away for more than a week. If I don't help him clean up here, how can he rest at night?"

"Hey, it's a good house, can't sleep after more than a week?" Gu Xi yelled at her.

Ning Youguang shook his head, "Mochizuki is obsessed with cleanliness."

Gu Xi clicked his tongue, "You are so kind to him."

Ning Youguang smiled and said, "He is also very kind to me."

Seeing this, Gu Xi couldn't help but be amazed, "I'm really curious, why the two of you have been together for so long, living together, dating in a long distance, and still being so good as if you just fell in love, it's hard to find in this world.

"There is no long-distance relationship." Ning Youguang defended.

"Oh, it's almost the same." Gu Xi waved his hand, "Anyway, there is no one else around you, and you still keep in touch every day when you go abroad. This is no different from falling in love."

"I didn't." Ning Youguang blushed.

Seeing this, Gu Xi smiled even more proudly, "You haven't, can you guarantee that you don't have a student?"

"..." Ning Youguang.

Gu Xi laughed loudly, "You can't guarantee it, so, is my word wrong?"

Ning Youguang had nothing to say, so he simply concentrated on driving.

But Gu Xi persisted, "Let me say that you have already entered the state of old married couple. I saw it when I was in high school, Xueshen can get along with this person."

...

Soon, the two entered a few wood coffee.

Opened in Langyuan, this cafe is a gray and white cafe with a simple industrial style design.

As soon as the two entered the door, they found that there were a lot of fresh and elegant flowers embellished inside.

The cafe just filled up with customers.

Fortunately, not long after they entered, the guests at the table by the window were ready to pay and leave to make room for them with a seat with a good view.

When the two sat down, they were even happier.

Because this cafe is not only beautifully decorated, the drinks and desserts on the menu also look extraordinarily exquisite.

In winter, each of its drinks and desserts are matched with flowers.

This responsibility of appearance instantly increased the two people's goodwill towards the store by tens of thousands of points.

Just ask, which girl doesn't like flowers? !

What's more, in this cold and desolate winter capital.

Soon, Ning Youguang's "Shanshui" and "Salute" and Gu Ximing's "Three Lanes" came up.

This is three desserts.

Ning Youguang's "Shanshui" is a hill-shaped snack made of dragon fruit puree, cream and chocolate.

There is a bit of cuteness in the handsome.

"Jiqi" is a matcha-flavored cake in the shape of two sections of emerald green bamboo. The two green cakes are decorated with green chocolate in the shape of bamboo leaves, which makes the overall look fresher and more elegant.

Gu Xi's "San Lane" is a pink and purple cake with three pink and purple daisies inserted on it, which looks delicate and beautiful.

As soon as the three snacks were served, the two took out their mobile phones and couldn't stop taking pictures.

In addition, at this time, the sunlight in the window was particularly bright, and the desserts that fell on the three-point desserts were even more eye-catching.

Soon, the drinks ordered by the two arrived.

What Gu Xi wanted were two fresh flower cold drink cups, and as expected, they looked very good-looking.

A cup of pink, a cup of lemon yellow.

There are pink baby's breath, pink carnations, pink and purple daisies, and a few emerald green leaves on the pink cold drink cup.

There are pink carnations, pink and purple daisies, pink baby's breath and green leaves on the lemon yellow cold drink cup.

"It looks so good, I'm reluctant to eat it." Gu Xi's eyes were full of surprise.

Ning Youguang picked up the teapot that had just been put on, and poured a cup of Darjeeling black tea for the two of them respectively.

"I like that we will come again next time." Ning Youguang also liked these exquisite snacks and drinks very much.

The owner of this cafe simply knows how to please girls.

"Yeah." Gu Xi nodded excitedly, "We'll come next week."

Ning Youguang smiled and said, "Nothing special, it should be fine."

Gu Xi didn't care about it, "I'll take it as you agreed!"

She said, "Let's skip lunch and come over for more snacks."

Anyway, she just read it, and the per capita cost of this cafe is less than 100, which is very cost-effective!

"Okay." Ning Youguang nodded.

...

After the two finished their afternoon tea, Gu Xi proposed to find a place to have dinner.

"I don't care, anyway, I don't want to go home now, and I don't want to be separated from you."

"Okay, then let's go down the mountain to see where there is something delicious." Ning Youguang happened to be fine, so naturally he had nothing to object to.

Then, she suggested, "You take the flower baskets home and make decorations."

"Didn't you claim that you can't live without flowers? You can take it back." Gu Xi gave way with a smile.

"My house has a lot of flowers." Ning Youguang said, "Did you forget that my house has a small garden?"

Gu Xi, who caught off guard and ate a mouthful of lemon, didn't refuse anymore, and picked up the pink flower basket that the two placed on the table, "I just bought two new vases."

...

Dinner time.

After the two drove the car to search the streets, they chose a Korean barbecue restaurant with a good reputation.

On a winter night, the smoke is burning.

To eat barbecue, it is indispensable to pair with sake.

Unfortunately, Ning Youguang is a sobriety.

Therefore, the bottle of sake that Gu Xi ordered can only be drunk by herself.

Barbecue with wine, even if you are alone, you can drink very happily.

With the salty roasted pork belly, roasted fat beef, and roasted prawns, she took one cup after another, without any scruples about her image or her drinking capacity.

He and Gu Xi are old classmates for many years, and Ning Youguang knows very well that it's not a fault that this guy likes to talk when he drinks.

Sure enough, with a few glasses of sake.

Gu Xi's words quickly opened the clip——

"It's really a lot of fun to be with you."

She said, "In front of you, I can be completely myself. I can talk, dance, sing, and eat whatever I want."

"The pork belly is ready." She first picked up the serving chopsticks and picked up a piece of the best grilled pork belly for Ning Youguang, and then took another piece for herself, "We have different personalities, and we are both cute and cute."

Ning Youguang smiled and peeled a freshly grilled prawn for her, "Old friend, of course."

"There are always ups and downs in a person's life. There are triumphs, frustrations, joys, pains, hopes, and disappointments. The most important thing is that we can share all of these together." Gu Xi took a sip of sake from the plum blossom cup, "Because you know me, and I know you."

"When I'm with you, I don't have to worry about being laughed at, rumored or looked down upon. It's just us who are so real and not perfect. We tolerate each other, understand each other, support and cheer each other up."

After thinking about it, she corrected again, "I am the only one who is not perfect, and you are perfect."

"I'm not perfect either." Ning Youguang gently helped her fill up the wine glass.

"Whatever the fairy says is right." Gu Xi raised his wine glass with a smile, "I wish our friendship will last forever."

Ning Youguang picked up his teacup, "I wish our friendship will last forever."

As Gu Xi spoke, he was moved, "You know, it's because of having a friend like you by my side that I feel that I can be single, and I don't need to have a lover. I feel good with you around."

There were tears in her eyes, "When I am sad now, the person I most want to contact may not be a man, but it cannot be a friend."

"Look, how good is it to eat and drink together like we are now, to eat and drink, to wake up the next day and see the sunshine outside the window, and another day full of energy? Food and wine and friends can heal any sadness, It can make me forget the momentary unhappiness."

Ning Youguang was infected by Gu Xi's emotions, and also began to nostalgic for the old days, "It's so fast, we've known each other for more than ten years."

"That's right, we've been friends for more than ten years." Gu Xi's eyes widened slightly.

Then, she flicked up her sleeves, picked up chopsticks from the pot, and gave herself and Ning Youguang a chopstick of beef respectively, "For more than ten years, the little fairy has become a fairy, and I have also changed from classmate Gu to Mr. Gu." .”

"Respect Mr. Gu." Ning Youguang picked up the teacup, his face full of joy.

This year, she worked hard and became the most popular best-selling author in China this year.

Gu Xi also worked hard to get himself promoted.

She has changed from an ordinary employee of a large company to a management team that is gradually emerging in the industry.

"Thank you, Professor Ning." Gu Xi's bright smile showed a bit of pure innocence, "However, what remains unchanged is that we are always here, we can chat casually, and we are not afraid of being regarded as crazy by the other party..."

Ning Youguang smiled softly, "You're right."

Gu Xi let out a belch—"It doesn't matter if you are treated as a neuropathy, anyway, my good friend is a doctor, and there are plenty of ways to cure me, hahahahahaha."

Through the hazy heat, the smile on Ning Youguang's face deepened.

As Gu Xi drank more and more wine, her words became more and more eloquent, "I am especially grateful that from Jincheng to Beijing, you have always encouraged me and made me believe that I can do it. No matter what happens in the future, even if I don't have a boyfriend right now, I also feel very happy."

When girls are with girls, especially if one of them is single, the topic inevitably turns to men.

"I met a boy recently, can you help me analyze, is he interested in me?" Gu Xi put down his chopsticks.

"Okay." Ning Youguang also became a little interested.

"It's like this. We met on a business project. When we met for the first time, he asked me what kind of perfume I was wearing. After I answered, he nodded and smiled and said, it smells good." Gu Xi slightly organized After a while, he said, "After the second time, I changed to a perfume with a stronger smell, and he didn't ask again. I thought he was interested in my perfume before, but after the second time, I think He doesn't seem to be."

Ning Youguang nodded, "Is there any more?"

"What's more, he likes to compliment me very much, and he will look into my eyes when he tells me." Gu Xi said, "Once he looked into my eyes and said, 'Your eyes are so beautiful', and I said, 'Yes. ', he nodded again and didn't speak, so that I didn't even know what he meant by asking this question."

Ning Youguang asked back, "Besides, when he gets along with you, doesn't he pat your shoulder, back, and elbow you from time to time, so as to shorten the distance between the two of you?"

Gu Xi said in surprise, "How do you know?!"

Ning Youguang said with a smile, "Congratulations, you have met a master seducer!"

"Ah?!" Gu Xi was very surprised, "How to say?"

"From the first time we met and asked about your perfume, to the subsequent physical contact with you, it all shows that he wants to establish a personal connection with you, and he is involuntarily launching a flirtatious offensive against you, trying to win your favor. This is a master , you be careful."

Gu Xi froze, "Fortunately, I told you, otherwise I might really be teased."

After all, the other party is not bad looking, and looks personable.

"A master seducer doing these things does not mean that he likes you at all, it is purely to win the favor of the opposite sex."

Ning Youguang said seriously, "Remember! When you meet such a man, don't fall in love too quickly because of his tricks, you will definitely lose more than you gain!"

She carefully reminded Gu Xi, "Most of the men who would do this are scumbags, absolutely not a qualified love partner. From the first time he talked to you, he has no interest in what perfume you wear. , asking you is just a way to strike up a conversation! A simple girl like you who has not experienced much in the world is the easiest to be teased, you know?"

Gu Xi was so frightened that he quickly took out his phone, "I'll block him now!"

...

Send the drunk Gu Xi home safely.

When Ning Youguang returned to UCAS, it was already ten o'clock at night.

And the United States happens to be in the morning.

After she took a shower, she was lying on the bed and looking at her mobile phone, only to find that Shi Mochizuki had sent her several consecutive messages asking her if she had WeChat at school.

[Just finished taking a shower. ]

Then, she sent him the photos she took during tea time this afternoon.

[This sunshine is really nice. ] The other party replies in seconds.

[Yes, the weather is fine today. ]

Ning Youguang said, [The food at their house is beautiful and delicious, let's go together next time. ]

Shi Mochizuki returned a smiling face, [Thank you, Mr. Ning. ]

Ning Youguang replied with a cute emoji, and then said——

[I also have to thank Mr. Shi for working so hard, allowing me to enjoy such a beautiful afternoon tea with peace of mind. ]

Across the boardroom table in Boston.

Everyone saw that the big man who had been expressionless all this time suddenly smiled.

[WeChat transfer 131400]

Ning Youguang readily accepted the big red envelope from Mochizuki, and replied at the same time:

[Today, Gu Xi also told me that high-end boyfriends often appear in the form of ATMs. ]

...

The next day was another sunny day.

Ning Youguang got up early in the morning and made breakfast for himself, fresh avocado and shrimp with baguette.

A total of four pieces were made, and she tasted one piece and found it very delicious, so she took a picture and sent it to Shi Wangyue.

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[This avocado shrimp with baguette is really delicious! You did it before, I tried to do it today, and found it to be pretty good. ]

When I just had dinner, I looked back at the moon in seconds——

[The appearance is good! ]

[I'll make it for you next time. ] Ning Youguang is very happy that he reproduced the children's special delicacy all at once.

[it is good. ]

In the garden of an internationally renowned five-star hotel in Boston.

When Mochizuki was walking, he stopped at the side of the garden path to play with his mobile phone.

Yun Zewu could only lean on the side stone with his arms crossed and wait with a speechless expression.

After Ning Youguang finished his breakfast, he opened the door to the backyard, and saw the sun shining on the plants in the yard, casting a layer of shining light on the plants in the morning.

She felt that everything in front of her was extremely beautiful, and she couldn't wait to take a picture and send it to Shi Mochizuki.

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[A plant that has not been exposed to the sun in winter seems to be desperately carrying out photosynthesis and trying to grow. ]

Shi Mochizuki had just returned to the hotel room when he received these WeChat messages.

Through the screen, he could feel his sister's happiness, and the corners of his mouth raised unconsciously:

[Many times, nature can heal everything, sunlight, plants and water, in front of nature, human beings are so small. ]

Ning Youguang replied quickly:

[Our life is just as innumerable as dust in the latitude of hundreds of millions of years. Those trivial things in the world that torture us are actually nothing as long as we are still alive. ]

"Are you taking a bath or should I take a bath?" Yun Zewu came out of the room, saw Shi Mochizuki sitting on the sofa playing with his mobile phone again, quite speechless.

"You wash it." Mochizuki didn't lift his head when he was addicted to playing with his mobile phone.

Yun Zewu shook his head, and warned, "I'll take a shower soon, you'd better get ready, we'll be going out again in half an hour."

...

It was the fourth day of Shi Mochizuki's business trip.

Ning Youguang received a special guest in her office - a reader of her new book.

A beautiful-looking girl wearing a famous brand and a well-proportioned figure.

The girl shed tears when she saw Ning Youguang, "Mr. Ning, can I give you a hug?"

Ning Youguang smiled and hugged the girl tenderly, "Nice to meet you."

"Thank you, Teacher Ning." The girl's voice contained tears, "Thank you for accepting my consultation."

Ning Youguang guided the girl to sit down on the chair, "I also want to thank you for your love and trust."

The girl sat down on the chair and took the warm water from Ning Youguang, "Ms. Ning is even more beautiful than what I saw in the video."

She looked at Ning Youguang's almond eyes, full of amazement.

"Thank you, you are beautiful too." Ning Youguang sat down on the chair opposite her.

"My beauty is all made up." The girl lowered her head in embarrassment, "I don't even dare to see people without makeup."

Ning Youguang smiled softly.

She stopped talking.

She was waiting for the girl to reveal the real purpose of her visit.

The girl also knew that it was not easy for her to see Teacher Ning.

After taking a few sips of water, she decided not to waste her time, and quickly opened up her desire to talk—

"... I have been dissatisfied with myself since I was a child. I always thought that it was impossible for me to live a good life with my personality. I couldn't have a harmonious family, and I couldn't have a husband who loved me very much. Maybe I will marry a rich man. I always imagine that I can earn a lot of money, but every time I earn a little more money, I can't help but spend it, and then fall into the plight of having no money.

I dare not go out without makeup, dare not tell others about my family situation, I dare not let others know that I grew up in a poor family, my parents were farmers, and I could not read a few characters.

I don’t even dare to post my parents in the circle of friends. I think they are dark and slovenly. If others see them, they will immediately see that my family is poor from their vulgar appearance and rough appearance. He looked down on me even more, and felt that I was not good enough.

Sometimes, I still hate myself very much. I think I am fat, short, not white enough, not good-looking enough, and not educated enough.

When I was in high school, I always imagined that I could lose weight successfully in college. If I lose 80 pounds, I will become very beautiful.

But when I got to college, I found that I was not as good as I was in high school.

In high school, my weight was 98, my freshman year, my weight went up to 108,

Before I was in college, I thought I was a bit good-looking.

When I went to college, I found that there are many girls who are prettier than me. They all have good families, have a lot of pocket money every month, are good at dressing up and makeup, and I don’t know any of these.

I didn't turn out as bright as I expected.

I am still very ordinary, very ordinary.

Not many boys liked me and my grades were not the best.

I found that I could never be the most shining one in the crowd.

So, in college, I worked crazily and worked hard to make money.

When I graduated from university, I started plastic surgery to lose weight, and then came to the capital from my hometown. "

Ever since she read Ning Youguang's new book "Loving You Is Loving Yourself", she has developed a sense of trust in Ning Youguang.

"After I came to the capital, I told others that my parents were businessmen, and our family's financial conditions were very good. I was pampered and pampered since I was a child. My parents loved me very much, and so did my relatives. I made friends with some Bai Fumei, and followed them to meet more and more rich people.

I thought this way I could completely let go of my past.

I thought that no one here knew me, and no one would know that I was lying, and no one would know that I had plastic surgery, love vanity, and that no one would know that I was a local girl from the countryside.

This way...all my flaws will not be discovered.

As a result, several years passed.

I found out that I was wrong. No matter how many rich people I met and how many good friends I made, I still have a deep sense of inferiority in my heart.

I loathed myself and became increasingly dissatisfied with myself. "

As the girl talked, the expression on her face gradually changed, "With boys with good conditions chasing me, I only dare to make friends with them, but I dare not fall in love with them."

"What are you afraid of?" Ning Youguang asked gently.

"I'm afraid that after falling in love, my original family and my original appearance will be known by them. At that time, my senior circle of friends will laugh at me, and my boyfriend and his family will not accept me." The girl's face Pain appeared on the Internet, "I really want to marry a boy from a better family, but I know deep down that I don't believe that I can marry a rich man. So, even if I work now No matter how hard I try, I still only dare to make friends with them, but I dare not fall in love with them."

The girl said, "I live in such a contradictory and complicated way every day, until I saw your new book, and you said this in the book-your so-called 'disadvantages', those traits in you that you don't like , is actually your most precious wealth, but the degree of expression is a bit too strong.

This is like adding salt to a dish. If you add too much salt, it will be unpalatable. If you put just enough salt, the dish will become very delicious.

A trait, as long as you use it in the right place and use it just right, you and everyone around you will realize that your "weakness" is actually your strength.

They can be of use to you, not a stumbling block.

The only thing you need to do is to express these qualities to the appropriate level at the appropriate time and in the appropriate way, not to excess. "

"When I suddenly read this text, my back felt numb, and I couldn't help crying." Hot tears flowed from the girl's beautiful eyes, "In the past, I never thought about this problem. But when I read this text , I instinctively feel that every word you say is right. My so-called bragging is actually an overexpression of self-confidence; my so-called impetuousness is actually the result of excessive positive thinking; as for my so-called pushy, It was actually the result of my overexpression of leadership, persuasion, and showmanship—there was nothing inherently wrong with these things. I realized that these so-called 'flaws' of mine were actually strengths that people often praised me for. No wonder I always There is no way to completely change them!"

The girl cried and cried and laughed again.

She quickly dug out Ning Youguang's new book "Loving You Is Loving Yourself" from her bag——

"Fortunately, Mr. Ning, you wrote this book. Otherwise, I don't know how many detours I would have to take. It would cost me my life to see my own problems, and thus fall into the quagmire of my own imperfection and cannot extricate myself." The crying and laughing girl said softly, "The reason why we strive to grow is often because the pressure of life makes us miserable and makes us breathless.

Those things that belong to us, but we try our best to cover up, deny, and refuse to admit, all belong to the category of shadows.

They lurk deep in our consciousness, and neither others nor ourselves are directly aware of their existence.

Yet, at times, they hint at us, making us feel flawed, obnoxious, and worthless.

Due to the influence of these hints, we always feel that there is something dirty hidden in our hearts, so we are always reluctant to examine our hearts, for fear that this dirtyness will be exposed in broad daylight.

We are afraid of ourselves, of thoughts and feelings that have been suppressed by our subjective consciousness.

This kind of fear often exists in the subconscious, we can't feel it directly, but we will be affected by it. In order to cover up the shadow in our hearts, we can only deceive others, and at the same time deceive ourselves.

At the same time, let them become the side that destroys our interpersonal relationships, stifles our spirit, and prevents us from realizing our dreams-this side is called the dark side of human nature by psychologist Jung. "

The girl cried and nodded, "Mr. Ning, I often feel like a big liar who denies that I am hiding."

"Jung once asked everyone a question 'Do you want to be a good person or a complete person?'." Ning Youguang gently called the girl's name, "Xiaoshi, when you think you are a big liar , Have you ever thought that each of us is imperfect, and each of us has a dark side that we don’t want to touch, and our relatives and friends don’t want to accept it, and we can’t even face it. Therefore, many people try their best at all costs Pretend to be the person everyone likes and make yourself very tired."

"I know that many people are not perfect, and I don't want to be perfect." The girl called Xiaoshi shook her head blankly, "I just want to be a better person. I always thought that I only want to become better." Well, you deserve to be loved. So, I made up my mind to make myself better, even if I lie."

Xiaoshi continued to confess to Ning Youguang, "I always tell people 'Be patient, don't rush.', 'Have taste and be elegant.', 'Be refined and know how to love yourself', 'Eat healthy, don't eat rubbish. Food.’ But the more refined and elegant I am in front of people, the more I feel hypocritical behind people.”

"Because I love to eat spicy soup, potato chips and sliced ​​noodles, and drink yogurt and milk tea. I am very rough at home. I don't wash or put on makeup during holidays, and I don't take good care of my face. I wear casual clothes and casual clothes at work. I want to get rewards for doing something, and the layout is not big, but I have to maintain my decency, refinement and elegance outside, and these things cannot be shown.”

She burst into tears, "Gradually, I spent a lot of energy to cover up my shortcomings, so I despised those around me who casually showed their dark sides, and I became more and more cynical.

I think everyone in this world is hypocritical. Whenever I encounter problems, I feel that it is because of the injustice of God, because I was born in a poor family, without good luck, and lived in the countryside since childhood. I have no knowledge and went to the wrong place. I went to a different school and chose a major that I was not good at.

My pain is all due to these external forces.

If my parents are rich, high-spirited, high-society people.

If my family is rich, I can go to a good personal training, and I can go to play wherever I want, and I will definitely live a thousand times better than now.

I always fantasize about 'if', 'if this', 'if that', what can I do...

But the reality is that I will not become better because of thinking like this, but instead make myself more selfish, ugly, bitter, irritable, and have more resentment towards my parents.

No matter how hard I try, I can't become who I want to be.

However, I can't really blame my parents, because even though they are poor, they worked hard to earn money to send me to college and gave me the best of everything.

They themselves live very frugally and frugally, they are reluctant to eat and wear, but they are never reluctant to me.

So I became more and more divided and contradictory. I didn't want to go back to my hometown, and I didn't want to face my parents.

I don't want to see them at all, other than to send them money.

At first, I thought it was okay.

But after a little longer, I feel that my life is getting more and more painful, and I haven't been really happy for a long time. "Speaking of this, Xiaoshi's emotions completely collapsed.

Ning Youguang stood up and hugged the girl who kept blaming herself into her arms.

"Modern society often gives people an illusion that only perfect people can achieve happiness. Many people have suffered heavy losses in the process of pursuing perfection, but they are always unable to achieve what they want. Instead, they will burden their bodies, spirits and hearts. Pressure." She comforted Xiaoshi, "In fact, behind every shortcoming of ours lies a good point, and every dark side corresponds to a gift of life... The dark side is a part of our lives, and each of us is a unity of contradictions , is the result of a reconciliation of various positive and negative qualities, neither of which is complete.”

Xiaoshi got up from Ning Youguang's arms, "As time goes by, I've gotten used to the mask I'm wearing, and I don't know how to live after I take off the mask."

Ning Youguang's clear eyes fell on Xiaoshi's face, "You know very well, blindfolded, blocked ears, refused to see the real self, refused to listen to the inner voice. It is not possible to suppress the dark side of one's heart like this. Brings good results, doesn't it?"

Xiaoshi was speechless, but her eyes slightly dodged.

"You forget that there is a real self under the mask. Although you have experienced repeated failures in life, you still deliberately suppress the hints in your heart." Ning Youguang said, "But you are also very clear that your own characteristics will not Disappearing because of your denial only hides in your subconscious, quietly affecting your sense of identity with yourself."

Xiaoshi lowered her head in embarrassment and clenched her hands.

Tears also dripped down on the book in his hand.

She frantically wiped away the tears on the book with her hands, only to find that the marks left by the tears falling on the book could not be erased no matter what.

She cried even harder.

"Many people around us see the dark side of ourselves, and the first reaction is the same as you. They want to escape and get rid of these traits. In order to suppress them, everyone expends a lot of energy, and the final result is often a little slack. It will emerge from our subconscious and affect us." Ning Youguang watched her movements quietly, "They all thought that as long as they could disguise, those around them would not be able to see them. But when When they sincerely ask the friends and people around them, they will find that the dark side they try to hide can be seen by others at any time."

Xiaoshi raised her head and looked at Ning Youguang seriously, her face turned slightly pale.

Ning Youguang said in a gentle voice, "Many people think that 'things bestowed by God must be perfect.' In fact, the situation is often the opposite. It is likely that those things that look like prickly cactus to you, peel off the skin and wrap the inside. It is delicious and sweet fruit.

Jung said, "It is useless to fantasize about the light, the only way out is to know the shadow." '

If we want to achieve the state of unity between man and nature, we must have a complete self, and we must let our light and dark sides live in harmony. In this day and age, gold is always hidden by the trash. "

"To chase the light, we must embrace the darkness. Only by confronting our inner shadows can we experience the fullness of positive and negative, light and dark. If we suppress the dark side of our hearts, denying its existence, we will be It enslaves you." Ning Youguang's gaze on Xiaoshi was full of encouragement, "Although the dark side of our heart is negative, it can play a positive role, providing us with guidance and making our existence complete. Only Only by acknowledging and accepting our whole selves can we have the freedom to choose."

Xiaoshi said painfully, "Mr. Ning, I have tried many methods before, including hypnotherapy, acupuncture, rebirth experience, extreme sports, meditation, meditation... But none of these have any effect. No matter what I do, I can't get rid of them. That hatred in my heart."

"Jung once said that instead of being a good person, he would rather be a complete person. While trying to be a 'good person' and seeking recognition from others, we will lose our true self, which is even more frightening." Ning Youguang said, "We were raised by those around us who led us to believe that our traits could be differentiated into 'good' and 'bad' traits, that 'good' traits should be promoted, and 'bad' traits should be corrected or glossed over. This way of thinking has been gradually established since the moment we learned to distinguish between 'self' and 'others'. However, as we continue to grow older, we will gradually realize that the world is a unified whole, and we and others Our hearts are connected. From this point of view, we can't help but ask whether 'good' and 'bad' are really objective standards? Should we really get rid of those 'bad' traits in ourselves? But no What is evil without good? What is love without hate? What is bravery without fear?

Life inherently contains countless possibilities. Once we start to re-examine the relationship between our inner world and the surrounding material world, we will find that many of the concepts we have been educated since childhood are paradoxes.

It is inherently contradictory and totally untenable to scrutiny.

That being the case, why should we deny ourselves and hurt ourselves because of the wrong labels that we have been instilled since we were young?

On the contrary, when we admit and accept ourselves, the reality of everything around us can be revealed, and we can live out more possibilities of life. Because, the process of our continuous recognition and acceptance of ourselves is the process of constantly breaking our own restrictive concepts. "

"Mr. Ning, can you help me see my dark face?" Xiaoshi asked.

"Just seeing your own darkness is not enough for a person's own growth. You must also understand what the dark side brings to our growth, so as to look at it with tolerance." Ning Youguang said, "If you are willing to accept growth and change, I will teach you to admit and accept and embrace the shadows in your heart, so that you can realize your potential, help you open your heart, and completely change yourself, your perception of others, and your perception of the world."

"I am willing to grow and change, I am willing." Xiaoshi cried and said, "Please help me? I really don't want to live like this anymore."

Ning Youguang said, "Are you willing to accept hypnosis?"

"Yes." Xiaoshi thought for a while before making a decision, "Mr. Ning, do you want to hypnotize me? When?"

"Now." Ning Youguang got up.

"Now?" Xiaoshi asked in surprise, "Don't we need to find a hotel or a place to lie down?"

"unnecessary."

"Then how did you hypnotize me?"

"I have this." Ning Youguang took out a thin necklace from the drawer of his desk.

"Use a necklace to hypnotize?" Xiaoshi couldn't understand Ning Youguang's actions at all.

"Yes, please sit down." Ning Youguang stood in front of Xiaoshi.

After Xiaoshi sat down seriously on the chair, she said slowly, "When you are ready, please follow my words and imagine..."

Her voice became softer and slower: "You can imagine that you walk into the elevator, press the button on the bottom floor, the elevator opens, you walk into the garden deep in your heart, enjoy the surrounding scenery, and then find a comfortable Sit down in a comfortable place, take a deep breath, ask yourself the following questions, and wait quietly for the answer from the depths of your heart..."

"Okay..." After the hypnosis ended.

Ning Youguang resumed his normal voice, "Xiaoshi, please open your eyes, and carefully record the answers I will ask you next in your notebook, and then enter your secret garden and ask yourself the following questions."

She handed Xiaoshi paper and pen.

Xiaoshi reached out and took it obediently.

Ning Youguang began to ask:

"The first question, 'Is my life the way it is because of how I see myself?'"1314

The case handling methods in this chapter have learned from the author of the book "Accepting Your Imperfect Self"

Here I share the original work with everyone, and the little angels who need it can buy it~