Chapter 249 Extremely Honest and Invincible

"I also gradually understood that the anger I felt at that time came from my envy and jealousy of you, and also from my inferiority complex, but I didn't want to admit that I was jealous of you. I have a huge inferiority complex, so I chose to stay away from you out of a conditioned self-preservation, so that I can keep myself calm when facing you."

Ning Youguang actually analyzed the reasons for Jiang Wei's estrangement from her a long time ago, and she could see that a large part of it was because of her low self-esteem and because she didn't want to owe her anything.

Girls who come from a slightly inferior family but who are particularly strong, more or less have such psychological characteristics. Behind the extreme pride lies extreme low self-esteem.

Always scrambling for breath, don't want to take other people's things, don't want to owe others, in other words, this kind of psychology can also be called "poor man's strength of character"

But the famous psychologist Hellinger once discussed a question:

[Why can an adult give and receive at the same time, but a mature child cannot? ]

He said: "Giving is easier than receiving. When I give, I feel good about myself, as if I am above others, but when I receive, I seem to be below others, in a relatively low position."

Therefore, the people we meet in life who are loving and accepting with humility are really great.

Because only with such an attitude of acceptance can one have the ability to give.

The beginning of giving is the correct acceptance. A mature relationship is that both parties can accept the other’s giving equally and freely. Accepting each other’s giving is the most difficult part, because this is the deepest link, which means that both parties are in the A desired position, which forms the link.

And only when a person opens his heart can he have the ability to accept. A truly open heart does not have any desire for control or control.

When he was still in college, Jiang Wei, who was sensitive and self-abased, even a little self-closing, couldn't do it.

From the first time she saw her, she could see Jiang Wei's personality traits clearly, so when sharing things with her, basically everyone would give her a share if they had it, or even give it to her. Expensive things caused her both financial and psychological pressure.

People who don't want to owe others, but when they take something from others, their first thought is not "I'm so happy, I have another gift to receive!", but "What should I pay him back?".

So living in the same dormitory for so long, whenever Jiang Wei offered her something, she basically chose to accept it.

Ning Youguang's heart turned a thousand times, but a faint smile appeared on his fair and clean face:

"It seems that you are really doing well now, so I will not be polite." She generously put the bank card into her bag.

Seeing that she accepted the bank card she gave, Jiang Wei finally felt relieved.

"I'm really fine now." She said with a smile, "I've been looking at houses recently, and I'm planning to settle down in the capital."

"Congratulations." Ning Youguang was very happy to hear her good news, "It's really amazing that you can gain a firm foothold in the capital by yourself at such a young age."

Jiang Wei explained with a smile, "Our industry is equivalent to a sales industry. The more popular artists we bring, the more we earn, and the more we earn. I am lucky. The small artists I have worked with have developed in the past two years. Very good, I will earn more."

"That's really good." Ning Youguang praised.

"Actually, it's not that good." Jiang Wei sighed again, "Originally, I could get together the down payment to buy a house earlier."

"Oh?" Ning Youguang picked up the teacup and took a sip of tea.

"When I first entered the industry, my salary was very low, lower than that of ordinary white-collar workers, and my life was quite tense. This situation continued until I made more money in the first two years. It's just..." Jiang Wei A deep sense of fatigue appeared on the delicate face, "After making a lot of money, suddenly there is a state of irrational consumption, that is, I can't help but want to buy something I like, I like to buy it very much. Big brands, but every time I go home after shopping and see those things at home, I feel sick, and many of these things are actually unnecessary to buy.”

"Retaliatory consumption?" Ning Youguang asked with a smile.

"Almost." Jiang Wei sipped the tea in his cup.

Ning Youguang continued for her, "Has this situation improved now?"

Jiang Wei said, "Yes, the situation has gotten better since last year."

Ning Youguang asked curiously, "May I ask what prompted your situation to improve?"

Jiang Wei thought for a while and said, "I saw some big stars in the background, and found that they are no different from ordinary people like us, and I gradually relieved a lot." 1314